Love ----- Is it related to heart or Mind ???

@sunnycool (12736)
India
September 19, 2010 8:53am CST
Universal problem which wouldn't spare Teens,Middle-aged ones and Oldies! What do you think of Love --- is it related to Heart or Mind ? If you consider love to be a mind thingy then you have got great future as a business person than to be a unconditional lover. I WOULD CALL YOU A GREAT PLAYER FOR SURE! There are people who consider if a particular person is of their Religion,if he/she has good job,if he/she earns pennies or millions,if he/she is dark or fair,Tall or Short.At the same time there are quiet a few who least care about all those stuff. I'm damn sure that majority of the responses revolve around "Love is related to Heart" few extra lines as WHAT MAKES YOU THINK SO would be soo good!
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@lovevn (1)
• Vietnam
20 Sep 10
Heart, certainly!
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• Philippines
21 Sep 10
If only you have made a longer post then certainly your heart will be happy because you earned a lot more for it
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
.......For me ,love is related to both hearth and mind ,because love includes emotions that is controlled by the hearth and it reacts whatever the mind think of..love without the mind is just ,a useless so we must balance
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• Philippines
21 Sep 10
Our body is a system that is why things should be balanced. Basing on your response I conclude that Heart + Brain = Love
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Love is related to both. When love is all about feelings then it is not love at all, but when it involves decision then its what we called true love. Thus, emotions or heart is not enough to sustain love. However, it's hard to balance between heart and mind. This two are supposed to agree but in most cases it contradicts. :) Your mind knows what is best for you, it is reasonable and it recognizes what is wrong and what is right but your heart is selfcentered. It is only concerned with what you feel, what you want.
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• Philippines
21 Sep 10
Just thinking of the heart as the self centered one then I can assume when you fall in love you follow your mind more. Am I right?
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
19 Sep 10
Actually love comes from the heart, no matter what your age. THE NUMBER THING. The mind is only the tool that helps you along. Nothing to it. Try it, it might make a difference. TATA.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
19 Sep 10
Thanx Viji.
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• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Another to it is, if it comes from the heart its love but if it comes from the mind its lust
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
20 Sep 10
Hex, i should really get the whip for you.
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@drannhh (15247)
• United States
19 Sep 10
I think it is a combination, but I think it is better when it starts from the mind. Unconditional love is when you love someone without expecting something back, but loving someone does not mean you have to be their doormat. You can love somebody without being codependent with their issues, too.
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• Philippines
21 Sep 10
I like that and its so right. Loving someone unconditionally doesn't mean you have to enslave yourself for that person. It's not healthy at all and it is not called love if its like that, its an obsession
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@drannhh (15247)
• United States
21 Sep 10
Yes, hexeduser22, it is better for the person we love, too, when we are not codependent. Happy myLotting!
• Bangladesh
19 Sep 10
LOve is nothing but a feeling for someone that knows no conditions, boundaries, limitation, rules, regulations, never care about religion, age, race or relationship...it just happens... Feeling comes from heart and it is ruled by your mind...sometimes we feel for someone but our rationality, consciousness force us to make our decisions. This is the mind thing....so love is related to both heart and mind in my opinion. But of course to Love someone you must have your heart but to make is possible and successful...or to give it a shape or reality you must have to depend on your mind. Sometimes we hate some people, sometimes want to kill someone but we never do it because our conscious mind never let us to do it. But unconsciously we imagine lot of things, we play with our mind, ...all these are the fruits of our subconscious or unconscious mind. So what I believe that we cannot feel anything without heart....and cannot interpret that feelings without our mind....because I saw many people who love each other but pretend not to love, or they actually never realize it because they cannot involve it with their mind... These all are logic..but the main thing is love is totally related to heart but no doubt to interpret and realize it you always need the help of your mind...either consciously, subconsciously or unconsciously. But it always works...
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@sunnycool (12736)
• India
19 Sep 10
Using your mind to make your love successful is entirely different from choosing the one with some calculations in your mind.
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Well said soulsshine. Indeed love is related to both the mind and the heart but how you use your mind in love makes the difference in the end. It is as how sunny stated
@hexeduser22 (5853)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
Well a lot of here answered with both the heart and the mind and there are I think two who sided with the mind thing only. Well what can I say I'm with both the heart and mind also because I use them both actually. When I was just in high school I have set my standards to love specifically certain kinds of women (beautiful, with chinese eyes,fair skin and long hair)and that is my mind telling me that hey that's your kind of woman and that is the only kind of women that is beautiful to you. I suffered a mouthful of rejections because those women are far more clever than me and are using their mind well I learned to adapt and my "reflect reflect method" was born. Still chasing those kind of women I apply my new method. If a woman I like treats me well for that day I will be like that to her also and if tomorrow she changes and treats me bad then I show the same too. Giving them the idea that if they don't need me I don't need them too. I guess I can say I have no heart when I was young just full of infatuation, confidence and pride in myself. I'm not the same guy anymore because I have fallen in love with someone that was the total opposite of what I want in high school. I have a heart now and a functioning brain that helps me control my emotions
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@franne32 (695)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
I'd rather say feelings because without feelings for that person, there's no point in loving him/her or having him/her in your life.
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• Philippines
21 Sep 10
where does that feeling arises, from your heart or your mind?
@cajimenez (452)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
Love is a feeling. It is connected in our mind just as our other feelings. Heart is just a symbol for love, because it looks better than brain.
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• Philippines
21 Sep 10
because it looks better than brain. I just imagined a possible scenario when you wrote that statement above. Man: I love you! Woman: Man: I give you my brain because I love you Woman: Oh your such a...
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 10
In many cases the heart and the brain always work together but when it comes to love, the heart usually doesn't listen to the mind. So people say love is blind cos it always proceeds by the sense of touch. Only when you get married you get your eyesight back. I would advise those going into serious relationship to request the services of the mind to avoid any future complications.
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• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Only when you get married you get your eyesight back I 'ed at this but there is truth in it and its evident in the current relationship trend today
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Love is related to both. When love is all about feelings then it is not love at all, but when it involves decision then its what we called true love. Thus, emotions are not enough to sustain love. However, it's hard to balance between heart and mind. This two are supposed to agree but in most cases it contradicts. :)
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@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
I think it is both. Technically speaking, the love thing is the work of the part of the brain called hypothalamus. It is where that signal to feel in love came from. Others associated the love with the heart because it is the beating of the heart that is affected when you are in love.Thus, also the heart shape for love. So, both brain and heart must be present for love to exist. I don't think it will exist without the other.:)
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@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
20 Sep 10
for me love related to feelings. once i got that feelings, i knew that i am in love. just like in love at first sight. i don't understand it...it just happen. so i can't used my mind what makes me think so
@sunnycool (12736)
• India
21 Sep 10
Are you talking about two human's of opposite gender looking into their eyes relentlessly at the traffic signal
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 10
who is the cast in that traffic anyway? is it u and the pretty girl?
@sunnycool (12736)
• India
22 Sep 10
Catherine Zeta Jones and
@vandana7 (68544)
• India
19 Sep 10
I GUESS YOU'VE ALREADY CALLED ME A GREAT PLAYER so I shouldnt bother answering this. :) But Sunny kiddo its true!!! If your mind if free from all possible stress and doesnt have anything to think about then you can possibly fall in love even with a person who you would not otherwise think possible. So I would say it has to do with mind but a bit differently from what you've mentioned. :) The soul and heart that Brian Adams sings about is not below the neck. :)
@vandana7 (68544)
• India
20 Sep 10
Now the million dollar question is, why did mel blush!
@vandana7 (68544)
• India
20 Sep 10
There - THE GREAT PLAYER WHO THINKS WITH BRAIN.
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
@meluan mylot will pay you if you answer because its still considered as a post so I'm waiting for the answer now. "Why did Mel Blush?"
• United States
19 Sep 10
Love is truly feelings and the brain can overpower it. Basically I have often said that although a person hurts you does not mean you instantly stop loving the person as then the feelings were really not real. But I am one that cannot allow love not to be reciprocated, therefore I find that my brain works harder than my heart so therefore, I can control my brain and find it easily to move on. I suppose this came with maturity and have realized that I must love myself first before I an expect anyone to love me back.
@sunnycool (12736)
• India
19 Sep 10
You can always be quiet happy with someone who loves himself.Dont you think it is cruel to judge someone's love based on some maths of your own ?
• United States
19 Sep 10
@sunny Oh my math applies strictly to me dear, as If I am not loved by someone back, I can no longer persist. As loving someone that clearly I would be aware does not love me back would make me insecure and cause low self esteem. There are some people who have clearly spelled out in front of them and continue to persist hoping that they can change the other person's mind. Bless them and I wish them well. But I personally will not persist as no one can change anyone that is a fact, as people only change for themselves and not because other want them to. @annynymous, this is so true, although it hurts time is the best healer.
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Its true that if you hear the rejection from that certain persons mouth then there is really no reason to persist but there are times that it is not just the case and those situations usually happens in the movies lol Time is a great healer but it can sometimes makes us remember great pain
• Singapore
20 Sep 10
Hi sunny, I think it is a combination of both, we cannot be too rational nor can we be too irrational in love. There shouldn't be too many conditions attached to true feelings but in this modern society, there are always the calls for "5Cs" or other conditions for love and marriage.
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
Is one of the C in 5C, counselling? I don't know the meaning of 5C too like annonymous
• Pamplona, Spain
25 Sep 10
Hiya sunny, Mostly I am ruled by my Heart but sometimes my Head takes over and viceversa. I am very practical but I love romantic things. Love makes you feel like you are floating on Cloud Nine all Day long. So maybe I would not be a brilliant person to run a Company say in a business like manner. You can still love the same when you older too that does not change at all. Okay the Body changes but not the love that is how I want to say it.
@Lore2009 (7388)
• United States
22 Sep 10
I used to believe love was related to the heart, but I'm not too sure anymore. After many heart aches, my brain starts to work to find a smart love.. but I hope it is beyond being a player or being pretentious. Maybe it's more than that. So it's a mixture of both... starts with the mind to mend the heart.
@eshaan (6193)
• India
21 Sep 10
I think its from heart......or from mind?...dont know dear...but one thing is clear ...when it happens it blocks...your mind heart and even brain