Can you really forgive that??

I would have a very hard time forgiving someone who hurt me like that, I'm not sure that I ever would truly forgive them. However, to find peace and happiness for myself I would have to get over it and move on. True it was a crappy way to be treated and it hurt but I would not allow that person to continue to bring grief to my life. That person is not likely to apologize so why would I upset myself trying to force an explanation or apology from them, its a waste of time. I would accept that they are a creep, accept that he/she had me fooled, and realize that eventually people like that get what they deserve. Also, I would eventually forget them! Do you think they are going to find true happiness? No, not that would last! Usually someone like that cannot hide their true colors for long. I would have a good rant or cry and move on, they have wasted enough of my time!

I do understand how terrible it is.. If you will already get what you want, received the things or at least find someone in replace of the things which have been taken from you ...at this moment you can't forgive but things became okay.

I am currently in the process of forgiving someone I love for something they have done to break my heart into a million pieces. It's not the easiest thing I have ever done but I'm trying really hard. If you love someone you just learn to accept the fact that they are human and they will make mistakes. You have probably made mistakes and hurt others as well. So this is how I tend to forgive and move on. I also know if I don't forgive I have allowed them to make me bitter.

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ~Mahatma Gandhi Gandhi must have been the only strong person in the history of humanity.

I CAN but not for a very long time. You see I only forgive when it stops hurting and when it finally stops hurting I condition my mind to forgive and forget because if I don't I'm sure I'm going to find myself hurting once more. Being an optimistic guy helps me a lot in this situation but during the times that I'm hurting I could be very vulnerable. Till now I can't believe that people thinks immaturely that they can play with peoples heart. Be strong Saph, another thing before I enter into any relationship I reserve some love to myself. I don't go full throttle in love unless I already tied the knot with that person

Hello saphrina, I'm a optmistic person so everything that happens to me even it a bad one I only look at it as a challenge in life. I do get sad, but I never let it ruined my life. My suggestion to you is to move on, you are much better than him or them (hehehehe). One day you will find a person who loved you, the way you love him. Don't just around in a corner crying and saying I'm a idiot, show to him that you are way better than him, and you will find a much better person than him. Be confident enough to face all challenges and just ignore him for now. You'll never that someday he might be crawling for your forgiveness and want him to be in your arms again.

sweetie, sorry I can't forgive her. I will part as friends. It hurts a lot, true, yet we need to move on. If some one can forgive, I will admire them but advice them to move on and find a better one who really deserves their love. sweetie, life is short, never know how short it is, why waste time on one who takes you for granted.. Who knows, it may be for good, if I quit this relationship I may find my soul mate??

Saphy - good discussion. I dont know how to forgive. I just get bored thinking of it. So I turn my attention to other things like music, stitching, cooking, doing my work, painting, gardening... wow, I seem to be good at many things. Overall, I spend time liking me. :) Forgiveness, as I mentioned elsewhere is very difficult concept as per my definition. It implies you forgive the person to an extent that you dont let the past record interfere with the present. With me, that is not happening. So I guess, I am bad, and unforgiving. So what. Many people are. I guess, I am going to hell. I will have company there. :)

There are just some who do not respect nor care about others. Their eyes are filled with their own selfish selves. I say, stay away from them! We need good friends in our life, throw the rotten eggs out. I will forgive them but no way will they take me on a ride again.

yes it is very difficult to forgive any person of this type ,i can not forgive ,that person must be punished ,you should treat him in same way and return his response ,but whatever you do ,kindly do not outbrust ,do it silently ,thanks for sharing.

Hey you ahve started a very good discussion.I will not forgive the person who has given me pain deep within.Iam not God so it sobvious if I will ever come across such person who doesnt deserve my love I will show him his real place.I know sometimes we have to keep patience and calm and cool temper but few people do not deserve our care and love and Those who hurt us must be given punishment not forgivenss

I see that you are speaking from experience here...I understand where you're coming from but I have to disagree with you on one front - Everyone does NOT deserve to be loved or liked in life...that's something that is earned, not deserved. Love is a choice, not a rite. If I want to be loved, then I'm gonna have to love. Even so, that doesn't guarantee that I will be loved in return...man, life is cold sometimes. Innocent, loving people get shafted all the time...is it fair? Probably not, anymore than it was fair that Jesus came to save us and we strung Him up!! So what do you do? Well, if you're a loving person, then the answer is clear, you keep on loving...I'm soliciting that you be an idiot and keep loving the person who is using you...I mean wash yourself of that relationship (Unless it violates matrimony and the problem is not infidelity or abuse)...and make yourself available to a new relationship with someone you can believe in again...now that's hard as hell considering what you just came out of...but it is possible. Our problem is, we work up so much energy on trying to 'find' love, that we fail to pay attention to the Inventor of Love...that's Christ...He can heal those wounds caused by other people, and give you the discernment and strength to enter another relationship just a bit wiser than the last...take your time...after all, just because you're alone, doesn't mean that you're lonely...God bless.

nope, sorry you can't really forgive a person knowing that he used you.. what you can do is not think about the person and concentrate on the people that you know who loves you and care for you, your friends and family for that matter.. and through time , you'll be healed .. and you'll be surprised that you can't even remember why you hated that person in the first place.. just give yourself space and you'll see that someone deserves your time , effort and love. it's just not him. :)

there is only one thing that is great on the word and that is to love and be love (by my pillow) XD. hell now am not going to forgive him/her even if he/she cry then laught at the same time lol.

as much as i hate forgiving, i forgive...because i hate stressing myself with anger. BUT i dont forget....i might ignore what that person did, but i'll be ignoring that person himself/herself for the rest of his/her dam* life....

Forgiving seems like a difficult thing to do but of course, time is also very important for you to do that. Dont force yourself to forgive someone at a very little time. Its going to take a lot of time.

Hmm. I am half expecting you to be using the dynamite and timer that I recently lent you for a wider purpose! If so, take heart that many of us have had fingers or more burned in the past. I was left by a fiancée who found that, erm, the contents of someone else's 'wardrobe' proved more attractive. My partner was left with an unexpected son by a no longer would be husband, in similar circumstances. Neither of us ever forgave. We remembered, and have, as a result, given more to each other than we could have gotten from former spouses. If you cannot forgive, just remember that there are always better, more faithful, people, on your side. Now for a little indulgence on my part by showing a rather splendid picture of a Knight Hospitaller. It has nothing to do with any religious link to you. I just like the picture! Take care.

I can never forgive that person in that matter. I don't practice the saying "to err is human , to forgive is divine". I think it's a stupid thing to do. The damage has already been done and is irreparable.

although it is difficult, i will try to forgive. only time can be desire our heart... but it is not easy