friendship after having a relationship

Romania
September 19, 2010 1:49pm CST
do you belive in friendship after having a relationship with somebody. I mean you could act like nothing ever happend after loving someone?
5 responses
@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
I guess it depends on how you and your ex broke up. As well as how long you had a relationship with. As far as my experience goes, I'll share about what happened with two of my ex's. My first ex: Dated him for more than 5 years. The break-up was the worst I ever had. We both had hurt each other to the point that no matter how we tried to be friends or act sociable with each other, there's just that feeling of being uncomfortable w/ the other one around. It's like we both have unfinished business but we have already ended the relationship years ago. We tried to act as if nothing ever happened but it didn't work out as I hoped it would be. EPIC FAIL My second ex: Dated him after breaking up with my first ex. We dated for 6 months but broke up eventually after I admitted to him that I was still in love with my ex. He was so mad at me for a couple of months but he eventually found a girl who made him happy.. and he slowly forgave me and we started to become friends again. He is a good friend to me up to now even though we don't communicate that much anymore. Therefore, I conclude that friendship after a relationship is possible. But subject to approval of the opposite party.
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
I think its possible. I have an ex boyfriend and we are still good friends. My other ex boyfriends were not my friends anyway, just the other one who was mature enough.
@Soleil05 (136)
• United States
19 Sep 10
I think it's possible if both are over the relationship and don't have any romantic feelings for each other anymore, otherwise one always seems to end up hurting.
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
it is possible to stay friends with your ex-lover, though it would not be easy at the start especially if you've had long relationship. this didn't happen with my first because her new girl friend doesn't want him to be friends with me anymore which i perfectly understand. but with my recent ex we are still definitely friends, the decision of breaking up is mutual and we promised to each other that we'll still talk and be friends. And yes we still are friends though we both have our own happy relationships.
@LaurenInLA (2272)
• United States
19 Sep 10
I think that it would be nice if you could manage to do it but I've seen very few people who can be friends with someone that they've had a relationsship with. Personally, I don't think that I could do it. One party or the other leaves with very hurt feelings and it is hard for the person with the hurt feelings to get past thier feelings for the other person.