Do You Love Your Siblings?

United States
September 19, 2010 10:50pm CST
I just finished watching a movie called Kiss The Bride that dealt with three sisters who came together for their other sister's wedding. Back home, a lot of their past hurts and loves resurfaced and they were forced to deal with each other. It made me think about the complexity of sibling relationships. How some of it is molded by how the parents treat each kid and how perspectives can be so different. I'll admit right now that I have a very rocky relationship with my siblings. I didn't grow up with them and when my father died there was a lot of bad blood dealing with his will and what everyone thought they were entitled to. For years I didn't want to speak to any of them. Now, thanks to facebook, I have a very fragile communication with two of my sisters. How is the relationship between you and your siblings? If you have multiple children, how do you think they interact with one another?
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20 responses
20 Sep 10
well i can say that my relationship with my siblings are fine for as long we all respect each other and we have a mutual understanding about our affairs then we can live for long without any quarel all we just do is that each and everyone of us do not step on any individual toes or hurt anyone's feelings we even pray together not worried even if our dad has a favorite among us concerning your second question it is the sole duty of the parent to ensure that there is good interractions among kids this is by showing equal love and care and never to distinguish among them,pray together play together and do not get far away from them good luck
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@anthonydt (146)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I have three other siblings. We are not very close (everyone is grown, busy with their own life/family) but deep inside we all do love each other but we do not really show it as much.
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• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Yes I love my siblings and of course God for having them.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Oh, sorry to hear that you are not in good terms with your other siblings. I have 6 other siblings both in the opposite genders and even have one half older brother. But all of us are in good terms. Its' not hard for us to interact because almost all of us are still living in one house. And we usually find time with each other. We are also brought up by our parents to learn to love each other, even our half brother, we all are so close with each other.
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@misheli (554)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
I love my siblings so much. We grew up together so we treat each other not just brother and sisters but friends too. We also have ups and downs but that's normal. We are big family I have 5 sisters and 1 brother and we always have a get together every sunday after hearing mass. Even if all of has have our own family we still stick together and we make sure that our children will be closer to each other.
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@marnice (60)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
I love my siblings so much my my sister and three brothers. If there's one thing I can be proud of that is to have siblings like them. As a family we see to it that every weekend we spend time together.
@neil07 (9)
21 Sep 10
of course I love them ,
@nijolechu (1845)
• Canada
21 Sep 10
Well, I only have one younger brother to deal with. Like many other people that are older siblings I used to get in a lot of trouble for betting him and other stuff. But as we have gotten older, we learned to mellow out and now don't fight as much. I know some other people that have a tainted relationship with their siblings because of what happened when they were younger.
@amuiri (8)
• Kenya
20 Sep 10
Dear vjenkins86, whereas there is a lot of sibling rivalries in most families, it is true to say that most of these rivalries originate from selfishness. Siblings want to outdo one another. Some feel jealous when siblings are doing better than then. Even in the Bible we find sibling rivalries between Jacob and Esau. What we need to do is give our siblings respectful distance. Let them know that you care for them. Showing them love and appreciation can go a long way in improving sibling relationships.
@epicure35 (2822)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I love my siblings, but we disagree on major issues, so we do not have the unity I wish we had. I believe my three children love each other, but, again the unity and understanding I would love to see in my family is not quite where it should be yet. Families are meant to be a source of love, strength, and support to each other, but there are forces intent on destroying family bonds that we have allowed to take precedence. Your use of the word "fragile" also describes my experience.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
20 Sep 10
The only sibling i have is a very sorry half brother & no, i do not love him, have nothing to do w/him & i never will. He was very mean to my dad but of course my dad allowed him to be that way.
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Yeah I love my siblings and I got not much problems in my past dealings with them. It's true that it really matters how parents teach and treat their children while growing up. I am also keeping this in mind when i'm dealing with my own children so that they will be close and loving with each other.
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
So far,my relationship with my siblings was just fine although my father was not with us because of work and of course, me was also far from my mother and sister because I am also studying..We are both close with each other for the reason that we usually communicate, we share what is happening with us ,we are open with each other,having the so called TRUST and LOVE and most of all,our strong believe in GOD. In that way,we show how we interact with each other..
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I am the oldest of four children. I am very happy to have my siblings. I will always have love in my heart for them. There may be times when we don't see eye to eye, but the love will always be there for them.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
I have a sister, the eldest and a brother who is the youngest. In short I am a middle child. When we were kids we were so close that we would often hang out with each other or must I say I often hang out with them. My bro was my father's fave and my sis my mom's. As we were growing my relationship with my sister became cold. It was because she resented the fact that we were always being compared to each other. like why I am prettier than she is, etc, etc. As for my bro, we still remain close. But, there was one eventuality in our lives that changed everything. My sister disappointed our parents and they took it against her. She, without no one to turn to, turn to me instead. I was her strength and closest confidante that when I leave the province to study in the city, She cried a river.:) Through letters I beame closer to my sister and brother. Until now, though, we have our own family and we are all living far from each other, the bond between us as siblings is still there. No matter how we resented the not so good decisions one might make with his life, at the end of the day when we need a sister o a brother, we can be sure tat we got one.:)
@ferthi (8)
• Brazil
20 Sep 10
My relationship with my older brother is very good, 'cause he is very cool with me since I was 2 years old ;X I guess that happens 'cause he hasn't "jealous" about a now brother and stuff like that when I was born, and he grow in an ambient full of love, makin' him a very kind person. I personaly love my brother, he is always there to back me up, even when I'm totally screwed.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
20 Sep 10
Hi, I definitely has a close relationship with my siblings. I am the youngest in my family and I have 2 brothers and 1 sister. Although we are living in the same country,but we always keep in touch with each other. I will pay them a visit at least once a year. With the advanced technology, we do sms or chat MSN online when we are free. Sometimes when I have some problem, I will look for my siblings for opinion. Of course, when we were young, we did quarrel while playing. Now, we all have our own family and I can see that our relationship are getting closer and closer.
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Initially my view on this was that 'there will always be quarrels between brothers and sisters, but in the end, they will still love and support each other'. But when I read your post, it made me realize that not all relationships are the same. People say blood is thicker than water, and that's maybe a generalization. There are a lot of things that have to be taken into consideration, like in your experience other family events/factors that have affected your relationship with your siblings. Me, I can say that I have a good relationship with my sister, which was strengthened by the problems with our parents - ironically.
@lhenpaule (497)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
I have three kids and i don't give them equal treatment, but rather, I give the kind of treatment they need and deserve. I believe that although children came from the same mother, still they have differences, they have their own unique characteristics that parents should realized and understood, in order to give the kind of love, care & support they truly need.
@anurag3786 (6275)
• India
20 Sep 10
Yes i love to my siblings ..but sometimes i doing fighting with them.. because i enjoy fights wit them.. i think if their is no any fight betwen siblings then their is no any enjoyment.. so sometimes its need is importnat.. what do you say about this..