Relationships at Work

Philippines
September 19, 2010 11:59pm CST
My boss doesn't like the idea of having a romantic relationship with co-workers. I have a friend, same employment status as mine. She is in a relationship with our co-worker whom we met last April. Her boyfriend now works in a different company. Me and my friend are re-hired by the same company. I learned from another friend of ours, that she(my friend with a boyfriend) is not supposed to be re-hired because of the issues she got into last April. She was just re-hired because of the HR getting confused on stuffs. Now, her boyfriend can't go "inside" the company. Well because he does not work (though outsider's are allowed to go inside) there plus because our boss does not like the idea of romance while at work. Are you in favor of romantic relationships at work? I think as long as you balance your time, it's okay. As for my friend, I never liked it too just like my boss. She gets distracted easily.
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15 responses
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
20 Sep 10
Hi trish! Alot of companies have that policy and I think that it is distracting and sometimes uncomfortable to have an "office romance" for alot of reasons. It makes other people uncomfortable sometimes. It usually does cause distractions making one or both parties not fully able to concentrate properly and sometimes bringing their "issues" into the job. I have dated co-workers and it never worked out well, especially if the relationship ended not well!
• United States
20 Sep 10
Youre very right and explained my post more simply. Although some companies dont have a policy the "boss" is usually jealous and doesnt want it to happen.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Sep 10
I have no problem with it as long as it doesn't disrupt the workplace or keep things from getting done or cause people to be treated with favoritism.
@maezee (33282)
• United States
21 Sep 10
Depending on the job, what you do, and how closely you encounter your romantic partner, I really think it depends. If you work side-by-side or in the same department, I understand how it can sometimes be a distraction. But again, depending on what you do - with most jobs, I don't think it's inappropriate at all - as long as you keep your romantic endeavors OUTSIDE of work. Where I work, I only work with girls (for the most part), so it leaves little to no room for any kind of romanticizing. Haha.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
21 Sep 10
Yes I agree as long as you know you are at work and must behave accordingly... Some people allow husbands and wives to work together, but they are often put in different departments so as to not be a bother.
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
I agree with you as long as the performance is balance. But sometimes things happen when it comes to quarrel and work is affected. It's difficult to handle relationship when you're in a professional world.
@sayariza (146)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 10
I am not favor it. I have some staffs, I stress them that is forbidden to have any romantic relationship with co workers. Romantic relationship between co worker can be a threat for namely if the romantic relationship is in problem and it disturbs the climate at the office..
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
21 Sep 10
I think it is important to keep things strictly business and professional when it comes to work. Like you said, people can get distracted easily and can take advantage of work situations together.. such as clocking in for each other etc. Also, if the relationship does end and it gets messy it can really become unnecessary at work.
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Sep 10
Hi Trishsantos I met my husband at work and wee fell in love while making a surgical bed. we we were married six weeks later.We were married for 33 years so we must have done something right . Sorry but I am a oit under the weather. the pills I am taking are making me feel even worse. \
@angelface23 (2498)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I met my first love at work. Granted we worked at a pizza place so it wasn't a serious job. I also met my husband at work, also a pizza place but a different one. I think it's fine in that kind of situation. I guess I can see in an important type job they wouldn't want you to date but I still don't really think they should be able to fire you or deny you a promotion because of it.
@ravalarun (337)
• India
20 Sep 10
NOpe ! romantic relationships is not good at works. it can be reflact our working efficiency.
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I don't think it's the best idea to get involved in a romantic relationship with an employee of the same company. Although there are exceptions to every rule! If the relationship works and there are no distractions, it can work. If the couple split and continue to work together it can cause tension and possibly effect their work performance.
@jamed28 (1909)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
I once work in a company that prohibits relationship among employees. It was strictly implemented, this is due to past experiences that the company had. There were some employees before that had a relationship, in which they are giving more favor of course to their love ones.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
20 Sep 10
Most places have this kind of a policy and for good reason. When people get involved with each other within the workplace, it can be very distracting and cause them to not work as well as they otherwise would. Also, if the relationship does not work out then it could make it a very awkward and possible hostile atmosphere. There are some people that can get involved and not let it affect their work at all but you can't pick and choose who to let get away with it and who not to. I suppose that if two people got involved and were discreet and did not let it affect their work then the boss would never even know.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
in my personal opinion it is fine, although it might be a down part on the companies side because there is a possibility that if those couples have some arguments with each others, their working relationship and their performance in their job is affected..only few can detach their work from their personal life, most of us are carried away with the emotions we had towards our partner and don't know how to put it in the right time and right place...i agree with you that it is okay so long as we balance and know how to set priorities...if we are in work, we focus on work, if we are outside, then that is the time we can talk about our relationship with our girlfriend/boyfriend..there is always a time and place for everything, we should know how to put them in their correct places...
@anjnsmn (14)
• United States
20 Sep 10
Having any kind of relationship with a co-worker can get tricky. A couple I used to work with were together for a long time. (this was at a waffle house) They broke up and he was devestated. He was one of the best cooks at the place and he was wanting to transfer because she was coming in there and throwing other guys in his face. However very many of the people who work at waffle house also have their partner working there as well. It is not just romantic relationships that have problems either. The manager at this place was friends with a couple of the waitresses on first shift. Of course they got favored, they could come in late or call out no problem. As well as that when they wanted the manager to change their schedule and she couldnt they got mad and talked trash about her. Not all of them are bad or end up bad but most do. One of my best friends I met at work. It was very hard to keep our personal life out of work and the other way around, but I was not at work to be friends with someone I was at work to work and when she messed something up I let her know. I do think your boss may be a little over the top with this. Your friends boyfriend should be allowed to visit her on breaks or emergencies, but not during working hours. Sorry I started to ramble on.