Should a married man/woman stop communicating with his/her ex?

i dont agree about the title because without you ex you wont be grow and think,and you dont know about "how my experience with every people" in every case real relationship must be left a hurt but you learn and try to better than before...

I agree, although if one of the ex's have feelings still then a friendship can't really remain as it could cause problems. I both can move on then why not stay friends, yes you once was with them but time moves on and you were at one point very close to that person and so they could be a good friend, aslong as they never want more i don't see a problem with it.

There is nothing wrong having communication to our ex's but with limitation and to know them both that they are not for each other and they have their own partners. Giving respect to both their partners is enough and as long as they trusted everyone. Friends forever!

I agree with you. However some people may just go out of control and go further more than just communication. So my take is this, if you're not confident of controlling yourself, then don't contact your ex.

Jealousy is something which ruins a relationship even if no one is at fault. And in case of marriage, the spouse is possessive of his/her partner and it would lead to uneccessary problems in future. Even though your intentions might be good, it would be difficult making your spouse understand why you would want to keep in touch with your ex. And God knows how many problems arise out of jealously from the ex's side as well. If your partner is a broad minded person, then you can keep in touch with your ex provided both of you dont cross your limits. And make sure that everything you do is transparent to your spouse. How would you feel if your spouse keeps in touch with his/her ex? Would you be able to accept it? And how many ex-s are you talking about since many people have more than one? Marriage is based on trust and if somthing or someone from the past which is over and done with ruins it, it will be very difficult to build it again. I would rather hang on to my present than ruin it for something from the past which did not work out and is over anyway.

never make friendship with ex after married.. sometimes the temptation to "replay old game" is so big ex is the past, your couple is the the future leave over the past..

I agree but it ultimately depends on the type of relationship that the married couple has and the relationship among the three.

Communication with one's ex-spouse is usually compulsory if there were children involved.

It depends. First it depends on your spouse. If your spouse is uncomfortable with you talking to your ex, then you should stop for the sake of your spouse. Second, it depends on you. Are you capable of making sure that you do not cross that line and make a mistake with your ex? Fact is, some can not. They think they can, and then end up getting pregnant by an ex, and ruin their marriage. Third it depends on your ex. If you ex still wants to be intimate, like you are still a couple, even if you are married, then you should cut off all ties. Even if you are secure in the fact you are married, and not to your ex, if your ex keeps pushing, eventually you'll cave to temptation, no matter how strong you think you are. So... under the limited conditions that A: Your spouse is ok with it. B: You have good boundaries, and are not still in love with your ex. C: You Ex accepts that you are married, and is no longer part of your life. Then and only then, would I consider still being friends with an ex.

Hi, we can always be friend with our Ex although we have got married,but of course, we have to know the limitation. Talking on the phone for normal chat or some meet up still be fine,but always let your partner know about it. It is to avoid she is getting jealous and be frank with her is better way. For me, I will still give some freedom to my husband to contact with his old mates,be it, male or female, he has his right to make friends. I have to respect him and as long as he is honest to me,I don't see the big problem for him still in contact with his friends and his ex.

I think it depends on the couple. Really, I'm the type of person who would rather not keep in touch with my exes...they are exes for a reason. I've told my husband that if I ever get a chance to talk to the boyfriend I broke up with right before I met him, I would want to, if only to apologize for the way I was at the time. We had been young and cruel to one another for no apparent reason, and it ended badly. If only to make things right, I would want to talk to him, but then it would be left at that. I can understand especially if you've been sexually active with other people before marriage that you wouldn't want exes in the picture. My husband and I were virgins when we married (the best decision either of us ever made), and therefore don't have to worry about that. But I can't imagine the pain, comparisons, and jealousy that would evolve from having an ex around that had been intimate with a partner. Either way, I believe marriage is a bond made out of mutual respect. If my husband wasn't comfortable with me being friends with exes, I wouldn't be. I would respect that just as I would hope he could respect the opposite situation. If he didn't care, however, then it would be up to whether or not I wanted to. I don't view someone being uncomfortable with that as a lack of confidence or self esteem...if a relationship with an ex had been of importance in the past, I don't see it being of any benefit to continue with a friendship when trying to build with another person. There are many issues and problems that could rise from that. Then again, it very well may never cause a problem. It's up to the couple to decide.

I totally agree that one shouldn't have to cut ties with their ex's when they get married. It might be a good idea if they feel the ex might distract them from their marriage. Otherwise, it is good to keep friends. My sister's husband made her cut all communication with her ex's when she got married. He's a pretty nosy person and when he found out I was still friends with my ex and still talk to him every once in a while, he was very disapproving and advised me that it wasn't a friendship that I should have anymore. It made me pretty upset that he thinks his opinion should be adopted by everyone. If my husband or I felt that my friendships were a threat to our marriage, I would end them in a heartbeat.

sometimes it is called "playing with fire" for those people who didn't have a good closure on their past relationships. there's nothing wrong with being friends with your ex as long as you know that none of you have feelings yet for each other. it would be best to test the water first. if you think that its platonic on your end and his then its okay to communicate. but if one of the people is still not over with his/her feelings then its better not to pursue the friendship.

YES. I mean you are moving on . As from my own experience maybe its because i am so much of a romantic but i tend to still take to bed with me my exes when i see them.(NOT THE MARRIED ONES THOUGH,I CAN NEVER DO THAT) So you see its not too safe ok.

Well, it all depends. If we are talking about an ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend, if they are "just friends", I see no harm in it, but make sure that they really are "just friends". I think that it's weird to communicate with ex-boyfriends, but that's just me. As for married couples, if there are children involved, then yes, they have to communicate with each other for sake of those children, but if there were no children involved, then they have to communicate with each other anymore, but they might because they were married, and they shared a lot together. It's always hard to be the second or third: second wife or second husband, third wife or third husband, and being a second or third means that you have to learn that they ex-husband and ex-wife are going to communicate with each other for several things.

You cannot build a house on an old foundation because, then the house would be weak. Uproot the old foundation and build a new house from the scratch. Same is marriage. Forget everything about previous relationship and start afresh. everything new.

it can but some times , the past would affect some or the other , how can you forget those good and happy moments of past if u dont then , will create problem in present and affect you some or the other way

I just believe that there is nothing wrong in that but if not done wisely emotion could stir up between both parties involve and something else develop which could lead to infidelity in marriage.

in my case , it's a big no no because my partner is one hell of a jealous man. but it depends on the situation though , if your husband/wife is open minded and is not at all a jealous type then maybe this would work, being friends and communicating with your ex is quite okay i guess but make sure that you don't reminisce on your past being together before or some sort,if these thing happens then i guess you should stop before your marriage will be over.

It depends on jealousy issues. I am a very jealous person and would not want my boyfriend or husband talking to his ex. I have problems with this because my past with boyfriends and their exs. :/