Personal Opinion on Having Kids

United States
September 20, 2010 11:41pm CST
When or what age do you think people are old or mature enough to be having kids. I have many friends who had kids in high school and dispite common belief not all of them are miserable. One of my friends will be 20 in a couple weeks has 2 kids (ages 2 and 1, is married (father only to the 1 year old) , they both work 2 jobs and still live with her parents right now, but she is very happy. Another friend is 20 has one kid (age 2) and is struggling with a part time job and the father in jail. Another one of my friends is barely 19 and pregnant right now states she is happy but I don't believe so. Anyway what is your opinion on having kids so young?
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@megamatt (14327)
• United States
21 Sep 10
You know, for some people, I'm convinced that no age is right to have children. There are many people who are parents that might as well not be. Or perhaps they should have waited a couple more years, to be mature enough to have children. Of course, a lot of times when children happen, they just happen. That is really the problem in a nutshell and it happens in a situation where they are at an age where they really should not be having children. It really does vary. Some people are ready when they hit twenty. Sometimes twenty five. Sometimes in between, or a bit older. Still it is not a decision to be made likely I think. It saddens me that so many innocent children are suffering because they are born before their parents are ready to have them. It is almost depressing a lot of the time to say the very least.
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@chhetp1 (469)
• India
21 Sep 10
I Don't think that maturity always depends on the age. Like in the old times, our forefather's will get their sons and daughter married early in the life. That doesn't mean that their lives were miserable. It could be one of the important factor but not the only factor. However, it is essential that a woman conceives after the full development and growth of her body. I think if the would be father or mother is well off and will be able to bring the kids with good education, family, background that 19 and 20 could be okay for having babies.
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• China
21 Sep 10
kid is like a angle.it can gine u the special happiness ,but a coin has two sides when the parents get these happiness,he or she will has more work to take care of it.more money will go the baby food,the education ,the other expense. first u should have the ability to take care of the kids, the age 25 ,i think it Ok
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@krupesh (2608)
• India
21 Sep 10
Just plan to have a child so that when you & your partner dont have the strength to earn , the child should have the capacity to stand on his/her own leg.So dont think whether you should have one at 20 , 21 or 30.
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@sayariza (146)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 10
if you listen someone else opinions, it will distract your own opinion... i am curious what is your opinion about this?
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• Canada
22 Sep 10
Usually, when people have kids young it's unplanned. I know I'm making a generalization and that may be offensive, so I apologize. But I think that having independent economic stability and a stable, loving family are the most important things when it comes to a family. Most of these things don't come until later in life.
22 Sep 10
to me it depends on the person and that persons life and stress level.for example me i am 22 just had a baby 5 months ago and i could not be happier i love waking up everyday seeing her smiling face and her little laugh.i never cared for going out drinking and partying.so like i said it depends on the person and there life
@misheli (554)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
I got married at a very young age I was only 18 and I gave birth to a baby boy when I was 19. So my eldest son is now 14 years old. I have no regrets being married at a young age because I have a 3 beautiful kids and a loving husband. Of course there's no perfect marriage we also have ups and downs but it's normal for a couple. I think the advantage of having a baby at a young age is that when they grow old you'll be more like buddies and not just a parent to your child.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
21 Sep 10
it is not the wisest choice for teenagers to have children of their own. Aome of them are not mature enough to handle the responsibilities of being a parent. i believe that when you reach adulthood, it is time to think of having a family. for some this age csan be in the twenties. for others, it is better to begin in the 30s. it all depends on your level of maturity and responsibility.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
21 Sep 10
Hi, From your post on top...I can see that your friends are married young and as long as they feel happy with their life,then it is fine. Married young and early have kids is not really a bad thing, but both parties must have the financial position to bring up their child,or else,it may end up to miserable life. before having a child,it is best to ask yourself whether you are ready to be a mother or father, because after the arrival of child,our life will totally change and we won't have much free time to do our own things. Our child need our attention and cares. Be prepare well before stepping to Parenthood Life.
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
21 Sep 10
In my opinion, age is not a major factor to getting pregnant and giving birth. It depends on how mature we are. There are so young mothers out there who are living a happy life just like your first friend. In the olden days, our parent's generation, they are also giving birth to us at a young tender age of 18-21. Yet they are not suffering. Man back in the olden days do show much more responsibilty and maturity, thus here we are now. Sometimes, a person's attitude towards life depends on their upbringing too. Family is important, while parents are supposed to be examples to their children.
@anurag3786 (6275)
• India
21 Sep 10
I think there is a right age for every work. And I believe in this a person shouldn’t married until he/she bared responsibility means having a good jobs which is really important for living a life. I think 25 year is the best age for marriage and in this age a person are fully matured about his/her responsibilities. And after 2 -3 years of marriage the need of kids is important. And in present time every couple think about only 1-2 children. Because small family is always a happy family.