I fell frustrated when my parents interfere when I discipline my child!

This is a perennial problem, I'm afraid. ALL grandparents tend to spoil their grandchildren. It's what they are for! Of course, what REALLY concerns you is that your parents are not being as supportive as you'd like and are 'going over your head' and, in fact, treating you somewhat as the child you once were (and still, no doubt, are, in their eyes). You have to have a serious talk with your parents. Talk first about how they brought YOU up (they didn't do so bad, did they?) and then about the things that you care about in bringing up your daughter. Try not to be confrontational but, at the same time, be clear and reasonable about the way you would like to do things so that they understand that you aren't being strict with her for no reason. Once they understand better, they will, hopefully, be more ready to support you (though they will still tend to be less strict than you, perhaps). If you don't want your daughter to get into the habit of wanting candy or chocolates, then make it clear that they really are only for special occasions; if you want your daughter to learn to be happy to help you or to keep things tidy when asked, then ask them to repeat that message (but perhaps in a different way) when she runs to them for authority.

hi devijay, I'm a grandparent. being a grandparent is a bit different than being a parent for sure. I love it. When my grandson or grand daughter spend the night at my place they do get to stay up a little later than they would at home. We are close but I would never ever go against my daughters rules and the kids know that. She is very strict on soda and candy, fast foods etc. I may treat them to those things but it is a treat and not something that I would do often either. I would never do anything with them that my daughter was ded set against regardless of my personal opinion and I would never ever ever disagree with her or her husband in front of the kids no matter what. I don't think the rules at my house are that different than at my daughters.

Well, your parents just love your child. though in disciplining a child, it is a must that you're the one to prevail. You can talk to them heart to hear especially now that it seems your kid doesn't listen to you anymore because she have your parents to console her if you scolded her. Explain to them that what their doing creates your child to oppose you in your rule and regulations, tell them also that your child learned to tell you a lie, becuse of that. Day will come, they will develop that attitude of telling lies to your child that will surely a big regret for them too. Ask them to help you to discipline the child for her own good if they really love your kid. Good luck and happy mylotting.

It's difficult for your child to accept and learn discipline from you when your parent interferes with how you go about it. I know that a parenrt is usually just trying to offer their help and advice. Sometimes they can make matters wworse. You need to take a stand when it comes to raising your own children., Let your parents know that you appreciate them, but you want to discipline your child on your own.

As parents we do not come with preset manuals and they do not issue one when we leave the hospital with the baby. As grandparents sometimes they try and make up where they feel in their mind that they lacked, perhaps with their own children. Apparently they love your child, God Bless, they do not mean any harm. Personally as a parent I listened to all sound advice, did not mean I took and absorbed all of it. I basically would recommend that you speak to your parents and explain, start off with the I love you and do realize that you love us as well. Please understand that life is quite different from you were raising me as a child. I am trying to discipline my child in ways where in the future my daughter will be a respectable young lady. I am not trying in any way shape or form to keep her intentionally from you, but I have to somehow have you understand that the spoiling will lead to a disastrous adolescent life for my daughter. I am sorry that we do not meet eye to on with this but if things do not change my keeping her away will not benefit you as grandparents or her as a loving child. This may not work as some families can be unreasonable, but at least explain to them that it is for the love and respect for all. Good luck to you and your family.

you just have to understand your parents because that how grandparents love their grandchild, so as how they took care of you when you were still their child...

The same thing is happening with my children as well Vijay.Whenever I scold them they run to my parents & inturn my parents scold me for scolding the children.My parents always come in between.In a way they are spoiling them.But it is the affection they do like this & for me also its a mystery that when they can understand.