easier to give than to heed advice

Philippines
September 22, 2010 1:03am CST
It is usually easier to give than to heed advice. Many people came to ask how to deal with pain and we gave them advices. But when you are in the situation itself, was it that easy? Do you often give advices to your friends regarding their personal problems but having a hard time to cope up with the emotional stress when you yourself is involved?
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• India
22 Sep 10
i totally agree with u friend but whem i m coping up with the emotional stress,i always stick to those statements and advices given by me to others in their hard times,however it is difficult to follow than to advice
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
exactly. its hard to deal with our inner selves. To be able to handle our emotions, we need to be on top of ourselves, letting our mind be over the situation. mind over heart (emotion). we need to be rational. but oftentimes we love to be swayed with our emotions. so the decision is up to us. if we let go of the hurts or not.
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
this is true, I'd definitely agree. I have been a peer counselor during my secondary years and i am also my friend's counselor when it comes to any type of relationship and professional problems. When you hear them tell stories about their problems it is really easy to think of solutions and ways to resolve conflicts. You would actually be amazed how much advise you can give to somebody who's crying for help. It is truly different when you're in the situation. You can't seem to apply the advise you once gave to your friends. It is true that it is more difficult to see the picture when you're part of it.
@ankster (273)
• India
22 Sep 10
Yes dear friend you are absolutely right its easy to advice but when it comes on person himself then all advices fails.I think its easy to preach but when we keep ourselves in the shoes of others then we come to know the real pain.I only give advices to my sister and mom.I dont give undue advices to anyone.Infact I think now a days no one wants advices of anyone.
@faisai (1140)
• Hong Kong
22 Sep 10
Sometimes, something is just easier said than done. It makes sense that we can pinpoint the way out of others troubles when we are so stuck in our own. The problem is when we get emotionally stressed, our mind is full of negative emotions and our reasoning ability is kind of suppressed and thus can't quite figure the way out on our own. This is why friends are so important as they can look at our troubles without all the emotional stress.
@dsplay5 (361)
• Bulgaria
22 Sep 10
A very good topic. I give advices to my friends and not only friends, sometimes I give advices to strangers. I find it's difficult for the people in trouble to understand someone else's words. They are so occupied with their problem and the stress. All this makes them confused and yes, it's difficult to understand the other. This concerns to a certain degree and for me. I think the best way, to realize what the problem actually is and to get away from it, the first think we have to do is to calm. If you'are calm, you can think better, you can hear the others, and at the same time you can think that everything s'gonna be alright. Actually, in many cases the things become better, and we forget about the problem in the time. So the positivism, the calm and clear thoughts, this should help.