How much you believ your friends?
By udaymohan
@udaymohan (437)
India
September 25, 2010 10:30am CST
Everyone is having friends. Some friends become so close that we start sharing everything with them. They help us at the time of need, sometime more than our own relatives. It is also true that we, quite often, do not get any help from our nearest relatives. However, at such crucial time we receive assistance from our such friends. Such friends share happiness and grief with us. In fact, we start depending on such friends to a great extent so much so we share such secrets which, otherwise, we should not do particularly about our intimate relations with wife or girl friends.
Imagine what would happen if such friends start taking advantage of such crucial information. I know one such case wherein the so called friend resorted to blackmailing a girl about whom his friend had divulged some intimate matter. It was good that the girl did not fall prey to him and she exposed the intentions of the so called friend to her boy-friend.
Do you also share all secrets with your closest friend? Is it advisable?
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17 responses
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 10
hi udaymohan I do not have a lot of friends but those I have
are really great friends and most would do most anything
to help and I am also the same way. My one best friend and I
are always there for each other and we support each other
too. She is always emailing me at work to keep up my
morale and I email back and share all that is going on in
my own life. we even have birhdays in november, we are
are both diabetics and we have sons that are good friends
too. So yes I do believe in my friends. I wouldrather have
a few really great friends than a lot of fair weather fri ends.
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@udaymohan (437)
• India
26 Sep 10
Thanks, Hatley, for your response. What I meant that certain sensitive information should not be divulged even to a closest friend. Sometimes it causes embarassments.
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@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Sep 10
I had made a lot of friends, trusted them and also have been trapped. I used to be a person who trusts everyone and have given out my secrets. A couple of my so called friends have leaked my secrets and have caused harm to me and my reputation. I hate such friends. Now i have a limited number of friends and i dont tell them anything, until i know that i can trust them.
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@udaymohan (437)
• India
26 Sep 10
Exactly, that is what I meant. Never divulge sensitive information to anybody. Thanks for your response.
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@yomy1984 (177)
• United States
26 Sep 10
when i am making friends, the moment i meet them, i already give them a 100% trust, of course, since they're my friends already, i have to believed them.. I never have a doubt to any of my friends..as long as i didn't see it personally. When they betrayed me, that 100% is not intact anymore, so once is not a 100%, i can no longer trust them or even believe in them. For me like, okey, i am trusting you a 100%, but once you ruined it, i am sorry, i can't give you back the 100%. No more..thats my rule.
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@udaymohan (437)
• India
26 Sep 10
However, when you are giving 100% and sharing such secrets which you should not have, what would happen if your trust is broken? Is it not true that such friends could cause deeper embarassments by divulging those secrets to people? Thanks for your response.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
25 Sep 10
We like to believe what our friends may tell us. We don't want to think that our friends would be untruthful with us. Sometimes friends like to stretch a tall tale just to see if we will bite. We can usually tell when a friend is telling us something we should believe or not.1 person likes this
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
25 Sep 10
Hi udaymohan, i feel and believe that friends are good than relatives, i have many friends all are good, but i have only two or three friends which i can share all even secrets, we may not like to disclose all the matter to all the friends we will have one or two friends to share with them everything. But they should not take the advantage of our friendship. Then we should not call them as friends too. To whom generally we will expose? only with our best / close friend, nothing wrong in it but we must understand their nature also how they are? Believing all the people also not good now a days i am feeling. So far i don't have such feelings but of late i learned. For me i am happy that i will consider as my best friend because poor god he will hear to me all the time whenever i want.
Have a nice day/night.
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@udaymohan (437)
• India
26 Sep 10
I fully agree with you that some friends are better than most of relatives. However, I would suggest not to divulge sensitive matters even to your closest friends. It could cause some embarassments if for any reason, friendship breaks.
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@scruffygirl (120)
• Italy
25 Sep 10
Personally,for my past experiences,I don't believe a lot in friends or friendship.. I've had beautiful times with them,but now they left me for other people,probably better than me.
I think I'm not lucky with people..
I have virtual friends,but we can't share our life together,going out or something like that.. it's a virtual friendship..
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@udaymohan (437)
• India
26 Sep 10
May I say something? Never feel that you are not lucky with people. You have yourself mentioned in your profile "Don't live for the past or the future. Live now". Then how could you be lucky. I am sure you would get good friends today or tomorrow. Remember, virtual friends are not real. You simply don't know what mask the perosn is wearing. However, remember, never part with sensitive information to anybody even if the person becomes closest to you.
Be happy and as you have mentioned live now and enjoy the life.
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@udaymohan (437)
• India
26 Sep 10
Good, you have learnt something very useful. You should not part with sensitive matters with anybody.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
26 Sep 10
I always believe on my friends. Because I think my friends are really good and always prepare for help. I have so many friends. But I never believe on my each friend. I have some good friends. And I believe on them. Because I cans hare everything with them and when I need any advice. Then they also give me a good advice that what I do in any situation. So I think I am a luck guy because I have so many good friends.
@udaymohan (437)
• India
26 Sep 10
However, sometimes you have very sensitive informations also. Don't part with otherwise it could cause you some problems. Thanks for your response.
@udaymohan (437)
• India
26 Sep 10
You are perfectly right. Difficult to believe each and everybody. Thanks for your response.
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@koAebryant (358)
• China
26 Sep 10
Everyone has their own good friend.They can talk with them when being sad...At same time,they can share their secrets with them.I think that good friend is more helpful than some relatives.
@udaymohan (437)
• India
26 Sep 10
Good friends are definitely better than number of relatives. However, remember only one thing that all information should never be parted with even with the closest friends. You simply don't know when misunderstanding could crop up and your friends start divulging your information to other people causing you deeper embarassments. Thanks for responding.
@louie847 (350)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
You can share things and secrets to your friends as long as it will not harm you and others. For those intimate stuffs, I think it should remain a secret and just keep it to yourself so that you can still have a privacy. Friends are very important in an individuals life because we get to socialize with them and at times that we need help they will be there to help us in every way.
@piggy1987 (63)
• China
26 Sep 10
umm..actually i don't trust most of my friends. because one of my best friends told others about my secret. from that on, when i want to find someone to talk, i just write a diary.
@Huangvictor (2)
• China
26 Sep 10
It is good topic for us ,and I remembered that last week in my oral training speech lession,we disscussed this topic. In my opinion,as good friends,what is the most iomportant we should tolerate each other faults.
@udaymohan (437)
• India
26 Sep 10
Tolerating each other's faults of friends is one thing and sharing sensitive information is another. I personally feel that some informations should never be shared. Thanks for your response.
@udaymohan (437)
• India
26 Sep 10
Agreed. However, it is also important to keep sensitive informations with your self only and never share even with you best friend.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
26 Sep 10
I think that my friends have their own lives and that if they have time to spend with me then they do, but if not, then they don't. I don't really expect much from my friends.
@jugsjugs (12967)
•
25 Sep 10
I have learnt in the past that you should never tell friends everything as there are friends that do tend to enjoy some gossip,especially if the gossip is nothing about them.Even no matter how long you have known a person,it do not mean that you can trust them at all.I tend to keep myself to myself,as i think that is best.
@udaymohan (437)
• India
26 Sep 10
I fully agree with you. I would be most unwise to share each and every secrets even to the closest friends. Thanks for your response.
@onlinejobstreet (33)
• India
25 Sep 10
Hi,i belive my friends.That is no limit.because i called true people only my friends.
