do you trust people easily?^^

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Portugal
September 25, 2010 5:48pm CST
hi guys^^ do you trust people easily?^^ about me i trust too easy^^ i always trust people even i shouldnt always trust so easy. i like to smile to everyone^^ anyway i think we must trust yes but even more when we know person well bcs when we dont is a bit dangerous. like me i helped a girl and she never paid my money back. she said she would and she never did and i lend her like 30 euros and i knew her since few days only when i lend her the money the first time. so we must be careful too. anyway what about you guys?^^ you trust easy?^^ please share^^
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
26 Sep 10
That is one of my characteristic, and my personality too. I trusted people too easy, and I just make myself a huge mistake. Probably people notice about my discussion already knew about this. I made friend with this guy 2 years ago, and we started a business adventure together. At the end, he used my info to start a discover business credit card, at the end, he won't pay for the expenses he used on the card. Now, the collector is after me.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 10
oh, how could he do such thing to you!one of my friend have the same experience.the business partner lied to him and asked him for more money.he lost his money and suffer a lot.i really hope he learn his lesson by hard that do not trust people.anyone at all!
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• Portugal
26 Sep 10
kingparker so sorry your friend was really bad. you had a business together and he just used your card what an a*s. and now the collector is after you so you will have to pay all? cant you go to the court and tell what happened? the person to whom he asked the credit card maybe remember his face also his signature right? bcs even if he used your card he had to sign something right? please try to find a loyar and he can help you find a way ^^ cthanum sorry for your friend that lost his money :( there are many people that are so fake. i dont know how they are capable to steal someone that was so sweet to them. i couldnt sleep at night if i did something like that. if i became like that i rather die. those people have no character. something similar with your stories happened to my grandfather. my mother said that years ago my grandfather won a lot of money in lottery and he opened a store with his friend. my grandfather trusted his friend so his friend was the one taking care of the store. when my grandfather looked he had just debts bcs his friend was taking money for himself and my grandfather had to close the store :( there are very bad people really :( thanks guys for share your stories and wish your situation be ok soon kingparker^^ wish you dont have to pay for what that a*s did. and your friend cthanum wish he feels better now and dont waste much money with sh*t is friend did :(
• United States
26 Sep 10
No, I do not trust people easily.. I have a hard time trusting people!!
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• Portugal
26 Sep 10
thats normal you feel that way bcs many people take advantage of others good intentions. mostly when you lend money or open a business with someone. we must always be careful when open a store or something and give money only to close friends and family or we can be robbed and suffer. anyway there are still good people in the world but is hard to stay good with so many bad people :(
@jugsjugs (12967)
25 Sep 10
No i do not trust people at all,since i was let down by friends that i thought that i could trust.I have learnt the hard way who i can and who i can not trust.I have learnt not to say anything to people/friends that i see as a few people i know are known aswell as been caught back stabbing and playing two faced aswell.Never trust anyone apart from yourself.
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• Portugal
26 Sep 10
aww :( sorry that your friends were not who they seemed to be :( is so sad that people just pretend to be something that they are not and just backstab so easy :( but please dont lose trust in others^^ there are still sweet people out there^^ me also i was very disappointed with friends and ex bfs but i still trust bcs everyone is different^^ dont lose trust on others^^ there are good people^^ even if they are only a few but there exist^^ if you need talk about what happened to you you can message me^^ i can listen to you^^ sometimes talk about problems help :) thanks for your answer^^ and sorry for what happened^^ dont worry soon those people will see what they did and a sweet friend that they lost^^ they were the losers not you^^
• Canada
26 Sep 10
It takes me a long time to trust people, and even then, I am constantly questioning their motives. I am a little bit paranoid, but in this world full of people trying to take advantage, it has served me well.
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• Portugal
26 Sep 10
yes is right^^ we cant trust people so easy^^ we can trust but not so easy^^ so is ok even if you say you are a bit paranoid is normal see the situation that happened to me. i was so sweet lending her money knowing her just at few days and see what she did? and even rob me! and rob the cell of a friend of me and her too. and is good that it served you well to be like that^^ so continue like that^^ that way you dont get hurt easy^^ thanks for your answer^^
@joddie (173)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
Nope. I don't easily trust a person. And i don't easily make friends. It's maybe i am an extrovert or maybe i'm just distrustful. But once you gain my trust you will be my friend forever. However, if that trust iwill be broken or tainted, then you have difficulty gaining it again.
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• Portugal
26 Sep 10
yes i understand^^ but is ok to have few friends as long as they are good ones^^ why have so many that are not real ones?^^ that doesnt matter^^ and yes is good that you dont trust so easy so you dont get hurt so easy^^ and sure if someone breaks our trust is hard to have it back unless proves really that regrets what did and depends of what did^^ have a happy day ^^
@richard03 (133)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
I have trust issues, i don't trust anyone right away... it may take a lot of proving...
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
aw i understand richard^^ maybe someone did something very bad to you and thats why you cant trust so easy. sorry for it. you are right in take a while till you trust but there are people you can still trust^^ just be careful^^ and dont trust so easy^^ like me i trusted so easy and lost my money. anyway there are a few good people that are worth to trust in^^ wish you find these people^^ have a happy day^^
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
26 Sep 10
I do like to trust people easily. Until i am given a reason not to trust someone, I will usually give them my trust without hesitation. Trusting just comes easy for me. i like to belive in people.
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
aww ^^ you are like me then^^ i always trust others^^ very easy and thats why i usually get sad and disappointed^^ but is ok bcs we dont know if they are good or bad so i rather trust^^ but i learnt that give money to someone we know only since few days is not the best to do :( i lost my money bcs wanted to be nice :( and wasnt a bit only. so we must trust easy^^ but not as easy as lend money to someone we know since 2 or 3 days like i did. thanks for your answer^^
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
26 Sep 10
Yes it is my big problem because I can trust on any person very soon. Because many time I met many peoples who have a great way of emotionally blackmailing. And sometimes I also believe on then even I know they are strangers. I think it is my weakness that I trusted on any person very soon even on a strangers. But now I want to remove my weakness. But how can I remove this. Can anyone help me?
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
im also like you^^ i always help others^^ even if someone i dont know well ask me something^^ is like we feel bad to say no right?^^ anyway we must trust easy sure but about lend money and things like that better not. the person can be trustworthy but at same time cannot be and we are the ones that lose in the end. about be friends and listen problems and all we can be there and he a good friend but about lend money just to those we know since already some monthes^^ i tell you this bcs my bad experience. i wanted help and in end i lost my money.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
26 Sep 10
It depends alot on the situations we are in actually. The same trust we have with our families at home is none comparable elsewhere. But like you said there is still trust with the people we work with. And when it comes to strangers that's where the least trust is usually offered.
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
yes sure in our family we can trust completely^^ they are the ones that helped us with food and all while we grew up^^ and there are some friends that are trustworthy but it only depends if you have the luck to find that kind of friends. and yes when we meet strangers we must not trust that easy. even in work we can trust but in those that we know since long or that are so nice to us and help us and care for us really and not someone we just met. i learnt that already. thanks for your answer^^ have a happy day^^
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
I used to trust easily when I was younger. When I see people as honest people. Now, I realized not all people are to be trusted. So I trust only when the person is proven to be trustworthy!
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
yes i understand what you mean^^ your life experience taught you that many people are fake and not what they seem to be so now you see how people are more easy^^ and just when they prove you can trust them you trust isnt it?^^ well about me i will try to be more careful too^^ bcs before i lended money to someone i thought was my friend and in end i lost money. so yes we must trust but not so easy unless we see proves^^ thanks for your answer^^
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
Hello again sweetloveforeve! ^.^ No, I don't trust people easily, though I tend to be very friendly (I'm very approachable) but deep inside I'm already analyzing the person. I do trust people only if I knew them like a year or so, but still not enough to trust them with money. You are very kind and generous but always think about safety also. don't worry, if you believe in karma she will regret it someday. Oh sweetloveforeve... I also need money.. will you lend me some? just joking!
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
aw is good that you are friendly and so sweet^^ that way you find friends easily^^ and yes we must see how people is by their attitudes^^ and yes we must trust people only after a long time^^ thanks for say im kind and generous i always try what i can^^ if someone asked me food i couldnt refuse sure^^ but yes i shouldnt trust so easy^^ and yes maybe she will regret but i guess that will happen when someone steal something from her she will see what she did to others. anyway i dont want wish bad to her even what she did. anyway if you needed money and we lived near sure i would lend you a bit^^ even im not rich i like to help in what i can ^^ thanks for your answer^^
• United Arab Emirates
26 Sep 10
yes i did and i have paid for it. I had shared my secrets with my friends on 2 ocassions as i trusted them but then they have given out the secret because of which my marriage was at stake. Since then i have decided not to share my secrets with anyone.
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
aww so sad that they revealed your secret :( even if your marriage was at stake you needed their support and not their fakeness :( so sad what happened. is hard to know bcs sometimes we are sure that those people are sweet and trustworthy and just later we see their true colours what is really very sad. anyway i wish you didnt lose trust in people bcs those friends. there are people that are still trustworthy^^ just you need to find them^^ i always do all for my friends and secrets i keep it^^ we must respect our friends^^ thanks for your answer and sorry for what they did to you^^ but maybe they told your secret to other friends of yours for them to help you too. it depends of their intention when they told it. even they shouldnt have told maybe they did that with good intention. anyway wish you feel ok now^^
@stylewaves (1060)
• India
26 Sep 10
I will trust anyone ,
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
is good that you can trust anyone ^^ that shows you are a good person that dont see bad in others but still is a bit dangerous bcs if you are too good some people can take advantage of you^^ like me also^^ i always trust everyone and i got hurt some few times. is not good at all to trust people we dont know well first^^ bcs they might not be as we think. but sure there are good people so we must trust^^ but with careful^^
@misalax (307)
• Ireland
26 Sep 10
Well I don't. It will depend on how the person interacts with me and his/her actions that I'd find out if its worth giving the person my trust. Because sometimes, people cling to you for hidden agendas :) And I don't want to end up being a victim.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 10
the hidden agendas people are expert in hiding their own true colors.i feel sicked with them.even if i know them for quite long time i would still not easily giving my trust to them.people nowadays take things for granted.
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
yes misa you are right^^ like that girl to whom i lend the money. she talked nice and i felt sorry for her bcs her little kids. and she never gave the money back to me. she had a hidden agenda and i couldnt see him bcs i pity her. and you are right not trusting so easy or you can be hurt and without your money in end. or without a friend bcs you found out that person was fake. anyway i wish you just meet trustworthy people^^ thanks for your answer^^ have a happy day^^ cthanum you are right saying they are expert hiding bcs many people seem sweet and in end they are just fake. is good that you dont trust that easy so you dont get so hurt if something bad happens. thanks for your answers :)
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 10
nope,,i would say i don't easily trust anyone.i have doubt sometimes with people who so closed to me, so i would say i should be careful with the stranger indeed.if someone ask for your money just a few days after you know them, they are the people who we can't easily trust at all.do not trust them.
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
yes i just wanted be nice ^^ i didnt have courage to say no. thats how i am.even if i was eating something and someone asked me i would give. is just i cant just ignore you know. but yes i know i should had say no but i also felt sorry for her bcs her kids. anyway she had no character bcs she rob the cell of a girl that was our friend and first time i said i cant lend her money she took 5 euros i know was her bcs i refused to lend her that day bcs i needed to eat also but i refused bcs also she asked many times already and when i go take my wallet to buy food i didnt see the 5 euros. i even had to ask the man that sells food if he had food for one euro :( and he said he doesnt but i would pay the 10 cents the next day. i didnt want to but the man insisted bcs everyday i bought food and many times i gave him a tip^^ so he trusted me and sure my friend gave me 10 cents for me to pay him and i gave her the money other day :) this one was a good friend :) but the other one that rob me she didnt have a character. so you do right not trusting people easily^^ thanks for your answer^^ have a happy day^^
@preetabh (49)
• India
27 Sep 10
Yeah same thing happened with me. I trust ppl very easily but I m trying to change this
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
No I dont easily trust people, except for those who I known personally and in longer period of time, Its very hard to trust people nowadays.
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
yes trust people online is not for sure the best thing ever bcs you can easily get disappointed^^ but there are people we can trust^^ anyway you are right we must trust those that we know since long time^^ that way we dont get hurt so easy^^ trust people is like very hard nowadays bcs many ones just take advantage of others good intentions. thanks for your answer^^
• Indonesia
26 Sep 10
im not trust people easily because i ever betrayed twice and it's enough for me to be an experience for me if i want to trust someone that people must be really close to me as long as this time i only trust my family and 1 of my friend,that's all i can say about trusting people
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
aw you were betrayed twice? so sad :( im sorry for you :( there are really bad people that just hurt others and dont even care. anyway im happy that you can trust your family and your friend too^^ is right that nowadays we almost cant trust no one or we just can feel bad in the end. wish no one disappoint you again^^ thanks for your answer^^ have a happy day^^
• Finland
26 Sep 10
no i don't trust anyone, because no one deserve the trust
• Portugal
26 Sep 10
i dont agree with you bcs some people deserve to be trusted^^ i mean i am a good friend and would never take advantage of my friend's money or something. also ask money to my friends i wouldnt. i wouldnt have courage unless i was really desperate and almost without a house to live in. i am a good friend and not fake and few people are like me too so trust some people at least^^ is not good to dont trust noone^^ thanks for your answer. have a happy day^^
• United States
26 Sep 10
I don't trust no one, but I try to respect proven trustworthy people, it's only right. As far as smiling at random people, it depends on how they carry themselves. I can be friendly, but I cannot act friendly towards someone who seems like they are miserable, usually I try to ignore them, but it's tough lol