I'm Not Stalking You

Philippines
September 27, 2010 1:11am CST
This lotter might think that I am stalking her because as of to date I responded to almost all of her discussions. Today, I responded to a lotter's discussion and check her profile, I found out that she posted a lot of topics I can relate to, I even thought she was speaking in behalf of me, as if she is my alter ego. The more I checked her topics the more I saw that we thought the same about a lot of things, so I responded. This is what I am doing for the last 4 hours of my time today. :) I did not add her as a friend because I don't want her to think that I am stalking her.;) Have you done this before? I think I'm a little weird today.:)
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12 responses
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
27 Sep 10
well most of the time i add people because of that same reason or because we can disagree but keep it as respect. but i dont just follow one person on here, i go through my friends list to see who started one.. but to me spending four hours on one person is weird sorry keeping it real
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@vandana7 (66842)
• India
27 Sep 10
Hi - ladies do. :) We can be so involved or lost in our pain that we can spend that kind of time if we find another one in similar pain. May be we are subconsciously looking for solution to some of the problems?
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
@Syankee,How are you? Yeah, I like your being real, dear. I was feeling a bit weird, too.:) I did not intend to really follow her but I was just curious to see that her topics were quite similar to mine and that she posted topics that I wast still thinking of posting.LOL. What i originally plan was to look for all my friends' topics and share a word or two with them but hey, I was hooked to hers.... Nevertheless, though we have this seemingly common ground i don't think it will last for long. She might be heading a different direction one of these days.:)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
@Vandy, I do agree with you, dear. Maybe it was the pain I have been hoarding for so many years that made me follow her discussions that long. I was literally unleashing everything. I was indeed looking for a solution and may be some insights to some WHY's I have with my situation. I was trying to understand my situation looking from someone else's window.
@angelface23 (2498)
• United States
27 Sep 10
I dont think that she will think you are stalking her. Add her.
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
Well, I was just being careful and warned her ahead just in case she thinks I'm a lunatic.LOL. But, reading every discussion she made, she seems like a nice young girl and a responsible one. She, too, came from the same country that I am.:) Thanks, Angelface, for dropping a line. Have a good day.:)
@jeb083079 (840)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
nah, you're just getting weird because of too much exposure to the monitor already... that's 4 hours already, you might as well relax for a while... there's nothing wrong with adding someone as a friend especially when you can relate to almost everything she's thinking or writing or asking...
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• Philippines
27 Sep 10
LOL. I already took my rest, Jeb. Matter of fact, I already had my dinner, took a bath and was able to doze off for a bit. I'm feeling refresh and ready for another 4 hours here.LOL I don't find anything wrong, either. Trust me. I know it is a natural feeling that I somehow feel connected to her right now, but, it might change tomorrow. Anyways, I had a good time responding because I had unburdened myself and I earned a decent amount for today.
• Grand Junction, Colorado
28 Sep 10
I love when I run across that mylotter that I share a lot in common with. I have been known to go through pages of their discussions and respond and add them as a friend. I find nothing wrong with it, infact I think that it's a great compliment to someone when you can respond to lots of their discussions. I would be disappointed though to find someone that I relate to so well only to find that they don't interact in their discussions. I don't think your weird, and I wouldn't think you were a staulker either, I would be flattered to find that a mylotter took the time to read through my discussions and respond to multiple discussions and request me as a friend. Best of luck on whatever you decide.
• Grand Junction, Colorado
29 Sep 10
but inspite of that, it's really sad when the discussion-starter never goes back to interact with their responders because they'd rather keep starting new discussions. It really doesn't make much sense to continue to start discussions and not respond to them in my opinion. I have asked that question to others and have gotten back I'm here to make money. Well you earn for your comments in your discussions, I personally think that you get more when the response box turns into a discussion box. That of course is my opinion but it seems to make sense if you stop and think about it. I do the same thing when a response has interested me, I go and check the person out, and I alwaya send a friends request to them. I have a couple of mylotters that I "stalk" but in a good way. I know that they like to interact in discussions, so when am caught up on my emails then I go to their profiles and see where they have been and follow behind. Thank you for the best response award.
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
@Beaniefanatic, Hello there, Beanie.:) Sorry for the late response. It was intentional because I overlooked yours.So sorry... Anyways, It seemed that I do appear to have a fave lotter here but I don't. It just that there are friends here that I can relate more to their discussions compared to my other friends'. Yup, I'd love following my friends discussions. Matter of fact, they are my priority.:) And, you are right, it is quite disappointing not to see that particular lotter interact when I've shared so much of myself , feelings and thoughts with her via her discussions....Maybe, she just wanted to see or hear everybody else's thought and opinions re a particular situation but doesn't want to really voice out her own...I must respect that.:)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
@Binggaling, I'm just like you.:) I did that, and that is how I stumbled upon all her discussions and since they are so few , I almost responded to everything.LOL. Mylot has offered every possible means so that we can maximize interactions with each other but at the end of it all, still, the frequency and intensity of our interactions depend on each and every user here....
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Maybe you're just paranoid today. Stop thinking about these things and just enjoy life. Add her as a friend too. That wouldn't hurt. ;)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Paranoid? Whoah! :) I don't think I am. OH, I couldn't help thinking about things, these are the very reasons for my existence. :) I already sent a request her way but too bad she isn't responding to it yet.:(
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Just be patient... she'll add you up eventually. =) Oh, please don't overthink things. This could lead to major depression especially if you always think of things in their negative perspective. Cheer up!
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
She did add me up.:) Though, she did not reply to my PM, it is fine with me. I'm ok with that.:) I'll see her around for sure. Well, she's not too active here, I guess...
@veronizm (909)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
Yeah I've actually done it before. In fact, that's what I usually do especially on the ones on my friends list. When I can't find any interesting topics, I go to my friends list and choose a friend randomly and then start browsing at his/her discussions and respond to those that interests me. I like doing that because I feel like I'm helping that friend out by answering to his/her discussions and waking up old discussions that have long been buried in other newer posts, and it makes me feel happy knowing that I've helped out a Lotter friend :)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
. You are a good friend, then, Veronizm.:) Friends are there to help each other.and sometimes, we feel the connection grew deeper into like that of a family, that we made it our business to know something about our friends here day by day.:) Win win situation. We do help them make their discussion noticeable while they are helping us with our earnings.:)
@veronizm (909)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
Thanks :) It really is a win-win situation. And not only that we earn, we also give the reward of happiness to ourselves and keep the bond of friendship.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
2 Mar 11
Hi. eurekafemme. I have posted to another myLotter discussions once last year. I answered so many of her discussions. I like posting to them, because she writes about some interesting and fun things. I guess that makes me a stalker too. I hoped that myLot would not ban me from posting to any of her discussions. It was fun leaving feedback at just about all of her discussions. I have not done so in a while though.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
2 Mar 11
You are not a stalker at all! I post at another members discussions a lot too. I don't check up on her, I just enjoy reading her discussions and posting my feedback to them. If that is all that you are doing, then you are in no way a stalker.
@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
I don't think someone would take you as stalker just because you posted in a lot of her discussions. Not unless you are the only person here who posted to all discussions she started. I think you're even making her a favor. Personally i would be grateful if i see the same person who keep posting to all discussions i make against seeing no posters at all.
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Which is not the case, dear.LOL Sigh... I have no intentions really of checking her every activity here. I've got to have a Mylot life separate and not revolving to her discussions alone.I may or I may not respond to her again soon .:) But it helps if she got topics I can relate to once more. Easy to earn for me.:) Yeah, I'd agree that I'd rather be "stalked" than ignored.LOL Glad to see you dropping a line here, Ybong. I hope all things are well with you.:)
@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
28 Sep 10
Hi Eureka! I do not think you are stalking her or she would feel this way. It is good to hear that you found someone here, who thinks and speaks like you and you find her your alter ego. I have not had this kind of exact experience. However, I respond to only those posts of my friends/members, where I can relate to and which is of my choice. How are you doing? How is life? Is your daughter better now? Have a great day! Deepak
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Hello, dear. Kids are good. My daughter is safe and well now. Thank you for asking, dear.:) I was surprised to see her discussions and I said to myself, WOW, she is describing my situation.... Yup, I was lucky to have found her yesterday. Double lucky because she made me earn without so much difficulties. :) We're virtual friends now but the thing is she still doesn't interact.:( And, I don't think I'll be pushing too much of my luck. Will leave her in peace for the meantime. I'm pretty sure she'll be just around.:) How about you, dear. How's life been treating you lately? Always do take care.:)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
I have experienced the same thing. I met someone in mylot who has similar experiences with mine. I added her as a friend because I felt that we can both grow and learn together.
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
Hello, Kyss_Smyle. Good morning.:) It really helps that your friends here are almost similar to you. It is easy to interact with them and support them with their posted topics.And yes, true, as you get along well with them, you learn things from them, too, that well help you get by with your life. I added her as a friend but I'm still waiting if she will accept or not.:) Have a great day, dear. Take care,:)
@vandana7 (66842)
• India
27 Sep 10
Hi eurekafemme, all I can say is I understand. But I am not sure friendship with the person is going to do you any good. It is just a realization we are not alone who are picked by fate to trouble. Today it may be our day, tomorrow it may be somebody else's. So we need to take it in our stride and try to be in a better frame of mind I suppose. Being with her is hardly going to do that. :(
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
Vandy, until this very minute I haven't add her yet.:) I am still contemplating of doing or not doing it. Besides, there's really no big deal about it.Yup, I may be able to relate to her discussions today but tomorrow might be a different story. I'm just glad that I have today to unburden myself.:) Oh, I pity her, in fact, for my boring rants....:( Take care, my dear.:)
@julise (494)
• Indonesia
3 Mar 11
Hahaha^^ i dont think you can stalk someone on mylot. and i dont see the necessary stalking on mylot. there's barely anything private here... mostly just interesting topics. it could be real, or fake, or just to start a discussion. but you can stalk someone on facebook i think. a friend of mine actually did that. and when he admit it i was actually very surprise coz i didnt know at all.