How do you keep the love between you and your partner?

Philippines
September 27, 2010 11:43pm CST
In the past, I have always love as a very deep feeling towards another person. I've been hurt several times and everytime I get hurt, my perception towards love and relationship also changes. Now, I am in search for the reason to love someone again. I know that in a relationship, we cannot avaoid that there are some problems and countless misunderstandings. Some people just can't fight it so they simply say "it's over". Some people just keep on going on and still stay together until the end. How does one keep the love alive, fruitful and meaningful with his/her partner? Are there rules to follow? Hope that you can impart to me some of your ideas. It could be very hellpful to me.
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• United States
29 Sep 10
I can't even answer you question :( As you said there's sometimes misunderstandings and we seem to not be able to talk it out or fix them. Because of that my 5 year relationship with my "love/baby daddy" is over. Our relationship lacked a lot of communication (on his part). Now is just me and my baby. And I feel so bad or my baby wich is 2 yrs old because I know he misses daddy and mod important he needs daddy... :(
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• Philippines
2 Oct 10
hello Mamirican.. I am so sorry to hear that. In the 5 long years of relationship I believe that both of you have done something for your relationship. Excuse but I may comment on this? I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and now that we are apart, I have realized that there were some things between us that we failed to work out. I have loved him so much and making the relationship feel right and always okay was one of the biggest mistake I did in our relationship. We musty let them know how we feel but do not force them to say what we wanted to hear. That's the greatest lesson I have ever learned my relationship. I may not have ended up with him but I think I could possibly make a change in the future. I think for now, you must figure things out. Be strong for your baby, okay? Learn from your mistakes and make a change for the better you! Take care! :-)
@asxenon (1441)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
I think every human beings has his good points and bad points. If you life someone, do make sure you know not only his good points but also the bad points the person have. Some of the bad points can be changed but some/most are habits that would never be changed. In order to stay in love with your partner, do accept the habits/behavior they have (goods and bads). When there is a quarrel, try to think of his/her good points and try to make it a win-win situation. We cannot avoid quarrels in a relationship but we should always resolved any arguments before it turns sour.
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• Philippines
29 Sep 10
I kept my loved to my partner by being sweet to her, keeping her warm in my heart. Giving some advice to her because i am older than her, i am 19 and she is 17. We always share our thoughts to each other, sometimes we act like a kid. We have miss understanding, i know this is part of our love to each other, this is a challenge for us how we keep our love so strong to each other.
@Ramaditya (1227)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 10
Yes, but you have to do it together. Because, to make this thing works you must love each other, trust each other, and do it together. First, try to reduce your unnecessary expectation from your partner. If we want more, we will lose more. Second, try to improve your acceptance. If you accept more, you will lose less. Third, try to be 50/50. What I mean is you have to try to be your partner's completion. He is imperfect, so bring yourself to be the one that makes him perfect. The same thing has to be done by him either.
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@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
I think the key to a successful relationship are communication and compromise. In a relationship, there's always two individual involve. Both have different backgrounds, and having differences usually clashes. You should always voice out what you have inside, instead of keeping it to yourself. Usually, the petty things piles up to a huge grudge and you can no longer take control of it. Plus, our partners don't have the gifts of reading minds. They don't have any idea what are you thinking or how you feel, so its really important that you say it. Second, now that you've hear each other out, somehow you two should compromise. You see in a relationship it always takes two to tango. Its not always in your relationship everything gets your way, you have to do it for your partner as well. But have to weigh everything first...
@ravalarun (337)
• India
28 Sep 10
Great Question! I have key to keep love with parter: 1. Trust on his/her 2. Do for his/her 3. Ask or take opinion before take any action to concern family. 4. Gives respect he/she 5. to give half or hour daily for his/her. Relationship is bond with soft string, but it can be strong viz iron wire, if you follow above points Hope its can applicable or match with your life. thanks you
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