How to know if hubby/ bf is lying to you?

@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
September 28, 2010 12:53am CST
So have you found out, or has found a way to know if your husband or bf is lying to you? I feel that since you spend more time together, it is like a mother-child relationship that the mom would come to a point of knowing her child and a single reaction would mean a thousand clues to others but the mom always know what her child is going through... Is it the same for you and your hubby / bf? Do you feel / know if your partner is lying or bending the truth to you?
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
On my case,it is so easy to discern if my hubby is telling a lie. His voice tone is changing & a little bit shaky. He could see directly to my eyes. & he seemed so busy when he should not be. But those were forgivable lies. Because he is always good to me. It compensate, I guess.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Instinct. I can sense it when my bf is lying to me aside from checking or observing his behaviors. I am not used to be suspicious with my bf's behavior not until he admit that he has been seeing this girl. Since then, I began to be more observant. Observe his behaviors and trust your instinct. Hence, be cautious with what he says because sometimes he can forget what he have said to you the other day. Connect the dots. If he is lying to you, he cannot tell it straight to your face. His eyes wanders or there are mannerisms that are unusual. For example, if he is lying, he moves around or he does not utter the words clearly. He is lying when he has many alibis. He is likewise irritable when you ask or interrogates him.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
28 Sep 10
When you are in a relationship with someone long enough it can be easier to tell when they are lying to you. there are certain signs that will give them away when you know trhem so well. then there are the exceptions to the rule. some people are such good liars, you may never know when they are telling a lie or the truth.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
28 Sep 10
Base on body language and his actions. If he's not someone who shows me enough care love often, but he do it suddenly, something is wrong somewhere. While body language is, he's not someone to take initiative to hold your hands or hug u, but he's suddenly doing it more often to ease the guilt inside of him. Another scenario is, all along they have been showering us with alot of affections but gradually backing off. When we ask them, their answer is, "it's always been like that", then I will know he's hiding something and he has no intention of letting found out the truth.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
28 Sep 10
it depdends...if he's a "native" liar you could keep trying and you'll never realise the truth. and sometimes after many year of living together you realise that you don';t know that well the person next to you, the way that you imagined you do
• Indonesia
28 Sep 10
Yes it is. but not kind of my hubby. Sometime we feel knowing that our bf / partner lies. Perhaps they had purpose on that. Sometime hurt me when they do that
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 10
Hi, I do pray hard that my husband won't lie to me because I hate people telling me a lie. Of course,in a relationship ,trust is very important. Without a trust ,there is no point to carry on a relationship. If someone I love telling me a lie, I believe one day, his lying will burst out and at that point of time, I may not forgive him for lying to me.
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
hello chiyosan..well it's not the easy to know if your partner is lying to you..it will take time before you knew that your partner is lying all along.hahahaha.in my experience with a former partner, it took a year before i discovered that he is cheating on me.But guess what?secrets will never be a secret forever and lies will never be a lie forever.there is an ending to that.it will never prosper..... Now that I am married, i would know if my husband is lying..i knew it the way he talks and tell things about his whereabouts.Just read between the lines of your partner....
@misheli (552)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
My husband lied to me once and it's so hard for me to give my trust again to him. But Since I saw he's sorry for what he did and he ask for my forgiveness I also give back to him my trust. Since then we didn't have any major problem yet and I hope we will never have.
@ree_yah (462)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
i had one experience.. my bf is lying to me about a girl he was taking out,.. he acted differently. i can see it in his eyes that he cant look at me. i feel like he was irritable and restless... neway, he didnt admit it.. it was when the day before our wedding, we had the sacrament of confirmation, then he told me about it,, that he was seeing a girl that time.. and i tld him that i guessed it right! neway, we were pouring out everything trying to be clean as ever before getting married in front of the lord.. well what can we do.. :) forive and forget eheh
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
I think it's not 100% easy to tell when your partner is cheating on you, why? Some people are very good liars that one wouldn't know that they are actually lying.