Is This Love Worth Fighting For?

Philippines
September 28, 2010 6:45am CST
A woman usually has the so-called “ideal man”. I, personally have my ideal guy- someone I can be proud of in many different ways; a man I would love to see every minute of the day; a man who is willing to love me for all that I am without any hesitations; a man whom I can depend on whenever I need a shoulder to cry on; and a man who can do anything and everything in the name of love. Well that was my ideal man. I was still at the peak of my teenage years then when I met the guy whom I thought could be the man of my dreams. He looked physically amazing. In fact, he was known to be the “campus crush” way back when I was still in high school. I really admired his handsome face. He appeared to be very masculine. I couldn’t help myself but to fall in love with him. I knew I was too young that time to say that I was fallen for him. But I already felt like he was really meant for me. I knew I was born to love him. Unfortunately, he didn’t like me. Maybe, it’s because I wasn’t that good-looking girl before. He courted one of my friends and they really became lovers. It was indeed too painful for me to bear. I kept the pain deep inside me. I cried secretly so that others won’t know how badly I was hurt. I still continued to wait and I never lost hope. One day, they had misunderstandings until they reached the point of breaking up. They really did separate. I didn’t know what to feel. I asked myself, “should I be happy for I can already take part or should I be sad for their break-up? Well, that was the question that remained to be unanswered even until now. After their break-up, I tried to make myself attractive so at least he could notice me and yes, he did! He courted me without knowing the exact reason why. I didn’t have an idea if he truly loved me or he just did it for fun. But still, I grabbed the chance for I believed in what many people used to say- “opportunities come only once in a lifetime”. For the first few months of being in a relationship with him, I could feel that he wasn’t really happy to be with me. I was hurt again but I just ignored it. I struggled so much in order to win him. It took me more than a year to prove to him that I deserve him. Yes, we reached more than a year being in that state of unhappiness until I reached the point of giving up. I was thinking that it was already too much for me to slowly kill myself. And so, I gave up. For more than a month, he never did anything to win me back. And because of that, I no longer hoped. One day, I received a text message from an unknown person telling me how sorry he was to let me go. Though I already had an idea that it was him, I still told myself that he wasn’t that kind of man I thought was ideal for me. He was exactly the opposite of my ideal guy. But he introduced himself to me. He told me everything he realized since I was gone from him. I never believed him but he did almost everything I did to keep me again back into his arms. And now, I am pleased to say that we are already in our 7 fruitful years of being together and we are counting more years to come for both of us. I can now truly say that it was a love worth fighting for.
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9 responses
@tutor19us (455)
• India
29 Sep 10
Love is always worth fighting for. You may have had a marriage after knowing your partner for years or never seen him or her before the wedding night. Whatever maybe the case, eventually love blossoms and keeps you rooted with the partner. Especially, post wedding, love becomes stronger and you have all the right reasons to fight for your lover. Sometimes, you also fight with your lover, but these issues sort themselves out. but, end of the day, its always worth it.
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• India
29 Sep 10
And, if you are angry or hurt because of your spouse, dont despair, just take a deep breath and think about the nice things they did for you. Love will come flying back in.
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• Philippines
29 Sep 10
im very happy for you such a wonderful ending for both of you, i congratulate you for proving that the love you have for him was worth fighting for. in every relationship we come to a point wherein we almost give up we just need to have a reason to hold on and the most powerful one was the love we have for them. i just remember a line from a song which best fits the situation you're into it goes like this; id rather had bad times with you than good times with someone else id rather be beside you in a storm than safe and all by myself id rather had hard times together than to had it easy apart words from these songs was i can say really happen to those who chooses to fight for their love. we would rather choose to face those problems together with the one we love rather than having no problem at all but away with them.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
28 Sep 10
That makes for a nice love story. I do feel that true love is worth fighting for and that a person should never give up on the one that they truly love.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
28 Sep 10
Love is a very controlling emotion. It is felt on so many different levels. If we believe in love and are committed faithfully to it, any love is worth fighting for.
28 Sep 10
Amazing Story, I Think Love makes you feel Amazing, The Butterflies, Winning Him Over, So I'm Happy That You've Been Together 7 yaers and counting!! Good Luck!!
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@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
I wish both of you can be happy and last forever. For me, I only grab the right and good opportunity. I shall not be so aggressive in Love. Love is blind. I just worry to be hurt badly and regret forever. Anyhow, you might did a right decision. Only yourself can judge and decide your own future.
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@Karunvig (714)
• India
28 Sep 10
Different people different views... I will not giv the answer of ur question but will tell u that what kind of ppl wil say what ;) People who have got their love after fighting or have got Love in return (Ratio is very less) will say Yes for sure, and those who fought for it an didnt get or hav been ditched by the partner will say NO :| Love is meant for very few of us and rest is hell. I have seen many those who fought with parents and in return thy win from parents and get loss in Love.. so its useless to fight. Try once as u should not feel guilty at the end of the day because hurting sum1 (parents) for sum1 is waste and useless...
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• Colombia
28 Sep 10
of course, all is truth!! you knows
@wiwa05 (230)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
YES! If you really2 LOVE that person, no questions are asked. Love makes you do crazy things, makes you take risks in life, and can even make you give up your happiness sometimes to prove how much you love that person. Love is the hardest word/feeling that nobody can even TRULY describe it once they felt it - they'll just keep on smiling everyday without seeing other reason at all but feeling that incredible feeling they felt. ;) happy hearts! God bless! ^_^
• Indonesia
28 Sep 10
hello, pentagan12 I think every love, worth fighting for. Same to you I had my story too, sometimes i discuss here in.