Is it true that an enemy could be the closest thing to a friend

A freindly foe - The relationship between us and and our enimies are something special.They dwell in our memories more than our friends and we gebin to develp a unque relationship with them.
By Bala
@balasri (26577)
India
September 28, 2010 7:26am CST
as he always dwells in your memory and you have the constant companionship with him in your mind?
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11 responses
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
28 Sep 10
If that's a definition of a friend I'd rather be alone! It's a hate/hate relationship more than a love/hate relationship, a kind you'd rather purge or exorcise from your head. They are taking up valuable roomspace, rather like a squatter. So in truth, the statement for me would read 'Is is true than an enemy could be the closest thing to a squatter' he needs evicting, he needs eradicating, permanently! I also wonder if that's why my mind is so f*cked because of all the b*stards who are languishing in my memory and will not leave me alone. Wouldn't it be nice to have a button that you could push that could extinguish people, memories and stuff from your mind. We are so fallable when it comes to what we carry around with us in our lives.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
29 Sep 10
I can understand what is in your mind Wolfie.I know that it is easy to preach and advice.It is the person who is so hurt and wounded can know what real pain is. But I got one thing to say Wolfie.Aren't you making those basta*ds win over you by tormenting you which is their vile intention ever.Do you like them having this pleasure of tormenting you?
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 10
I have to admit Bal my good friend, I am my own worst enemy! I know that to be true, I am doing a lot of work on myself and getting therapy it's a long long road, and right now I just want to get out of this big black tunnel I'm stuck in. So I can be strong enough to rid myself from the demons of the past as well as me!
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@balasri (26577)
• India
2 Oct 10
I wish you all the best to get out of your problem.Make it soon.It is not worth spending much time over the bitter past.We have a very very beautiful life ahead.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
29 Sep 10
That is an interesting way of looking at it, I must say. I agree that an enemy can be on one‘s mind a lot if one wishes to dwell on the past but I would not compare such as a friend. A friend is someone whom I trust and love and who loves me in return whereas an enemy only wants to see the bad in me and wish that for me accordingly. So, I would say no I don’t believe that an enemy could be the closest thing to a friend!
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@balasri (26577)
• India
2 Oct 10
Well Paula I can understand.Even I will never consider an enemy as anything near to my friend.I just wanted to start an off beat discussion to receive variety of comments. Thanks for your response Paula.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
29 Sep 10
I don't know about that but I have known some friends that might as well been my enemies.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
2 Oct 10
It is really puzzling.Isn't it?
@salonga (27961)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Well to have enmity with someone will really bring us some trouble. This is the reason why I believe your enemy has some control over you because he is always in your mind. But if I were to take your line literally I would say "No sorry dear, an enemy is an enemy and he could not become a closest friend. I would rather say he could be the closest demon who could destroy your life so beware!"
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@balasri (26577)
• India
29 Sep 10
Right Salonga and from a certain point of view our real enemy, the true troublemaker, is inside.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
28 Sep 10
Yes, when someone does something terrible to us it usually stays in our minds for a long time or forever.
@balasri (26577)
• India
29 Sep 10
Yes those things are never die that easy.
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
28 Sep 10
Definitely not so Bala.A sickness that gives me pain would also be constantly niggling in my mind.I would rather be without it.A friend would not occupy your mind so much.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
29 Sep 10
I can understand Kala.It is some exceptions I was taking about.And in my case some enemies have become my god friends in the course of time.I know that we cannot generalize this phenomenon. And not everyone can be a Mahatma too.
@Hatley (155076)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Sep 10
hi to me an enemy is far off as I do not waste my time dwelling on this enemy at all.My friend is always on my mind and in my heart. I do not see any truth in this for me personally as I have put my enemy clear out of my mind and thoughts completely.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
29 Sep 10
I had a doubt and your response somewhat cleared mine.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
28 Sep 10
Wow! You went a totally different direction with that than I thought you were going or I would have. I was taught to make your enemies your friend if it's possible. It isn't always. But some of my enemies have ended up being really terrific friends. In the USA, lately, there is a saying, "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer." That way you can keep a watch on them and make sure they don't do anything to you.
@balasri (26577)
• India
29 Sep 10
That is a great saying and very meaningful.I just liked it.Trying is the important thing in trying to make the enemies our friends.The success rate doesn't count here I think.
@dpk262006 (52870)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 10
Hello Bala! I do not believe in making enemies, I believe in making friends only, therefore, friends always live in mind, not the enemies.
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
30 Sep 10
Deepak! We need not make enemies ; I am sure some people feel that way towards us without our giving any justifiable cause to this.Here we are not talking about rival forces killing each other as in olden days. I just think that Bala is referring to some weird jealous people who perceive competition.
@dpk262006 (52870)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 10
Kala! I do not tax my mind for those people, who feel jealous of me because I cannot help it (I cannot change their thinking or what goes in their minds about me). I sincerely and honestly perform my duties, without bothering about others. I have many other things to do rather than thinking about so called enemies.
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
30 Sep 10
I agree with you Deepak! That is why I had also said that I would rather be wihtout such thoughts. THere is no point brooding over things over which we have no control.But, still they cannot be called our wellwishers.And sometimes , people can behave strangely and hit us. One needs to be aware isn/'t it? Don't you agree?
@SViswan (12095)
• India
17 Jan 11
If you put it that way...lol...yes I'd like to add another point too. Friends we take for granted...but the enemy...works at all the negativity inside you and keeps the negativity alive for longer than the positive vibes that a friend imparts. So, seems like the enemy has more impact in our life (or control over who we are) than our friends :P Eppidi? :P
• United States
5 Jan 11
I think it is! Simply because in ones anger and bitterness they tend to get to know their enemy better so that they might discover how to cause harm to their enemy In many cases a person knows their enemies better than they know their closest friends or even themselves