is it wrong to have a crush on someone while in a relationship?

@hushi22 (4941)
September 29, 2010 3:23am CST
i remember once i had this discussion along with my friends when a friend of mine suddenly asked if it's wrong to have a crush while she was in a relationship. most of us answered it's not as long as it doesn't ruin a relationship. what do you think? when will this attraction be wrong?
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@swissheart (6254)
• Romania
29 Sep 10
it's not wrong ...you can't tell your heart who to love, but what you should do is to tell your boyfriend about it. think about what you would like if you were in his position
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@hushi22 (4941)
27 Oct 10
oh, i thought i cant tell my love whom to love. i usually depend on my heart to whom i feel happy and to whom i feel love.
• India
29 Sep 10
Having a crush while you are in a relationship is a strict no no i think. But i can't help myself nor can anyone else if i am just attracted to some random girl. It's ok if you are just attracted and nothing more than that. Because you are expected to give your boyfriend your complete attention most of the time. Cheers!
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• China
29 Sep 10
i think it can not be judged wrong or right,we can't control our feelings,it is natural to have a crush on somebody,but we can control our behavior.what i want to say is do not hurt the one who loved you,if you do,it is WRONG!
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@lhenpaule (497)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Crush is somewhat the same as admiration, and there's nothing wrong with admiring someone deserving of such, but it would be wrong if that admiration will take your attention away from your real partner and you will start doing unjust things to him/her.
@hushi22 (4941)
27 Oct 10
i agree to you pal. =)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
It's a real joy that my response was chosen as the best one... Thanks!.. Do not hesitate showing real love & affection for it may be a blessings to others. God bless.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Plain crush is okay, but if you'll do something about it and turn it into something serious, then it might harm the relationship.
@hushi22 (4941)
27 Oct 10
we have the same view pal. =)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
It is not wrong to have a crush while your in a relationship because you only admire the beauty that the person have,,you don't love him/her the way you love your girlfriend/bf..
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
i think it isn't. NO. I'm absolutely sure about it... there's nothing wrong of having a crush even you are in a relationship. As long as you know your limits and it wouldn't ruin the relationship... It's just simply a form of admiration. But i think you and your partner should talk about it or at least know, if it's okay with him/ her to have such thing. Because there are some who are still immature and would not accept it as a reality. And that could possibly ruin the relationship. God bless :)
@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
29 Sep 10
It is always wrong to want or to crush on someone when they are in another relationship. If you have feelings for a person who is in a relationship you may possibly try to do little things that would cause problems for that relationship so you could have them for yourself. Steer clear of anyone who is in a relationship. That is the best policy.
@harry89 (2332)
• India
29 Sep 10
yea it is wrong, but i think it is natural also
@niayobi (32)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
It is not. because we all have feelings. crush is only admiring a person. it is up to you if your going to be serious about it. but for me if i love someone i will always love her no matter what happend. Its your decision.