and my mum said "thanks"

Singapore
September 29, 2010 4:11am CST
That was when my husband and I accompanied her to the hospital and after we got home, she said thanks. I actually thought that was unnecessary because I felt that was my duty as a daughter. Do you think it is natural to say thanks to whoever helped you, even if they are close family members? Do you say thanks to your siblings or parents for the little things they do for you? Or do you find it weird?
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• United States
29 Sep 10
Although raised in so much havoc as a youth, I personally learned on my own that a simple Thank you goes a long way. I will will thank anyone even after my purchase as I find it is a well mannered thing to do. I raised my children to say Thank you at all times, as little ones not showing acknowledgment of gratitude would surely get me upset. So they knew immediately to Thank. I felt that if more people would just acknowledge their gratitude towards others this surely would be a more peaceful world. I find that when you do not thank someone it is a form of not acknowledging your gratitude. So may I say Thank you for this discussion as it helps towards my earnings. I am most grateful.
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• India
29 Sep 10
thank you goes a long way. if somebody does some thing for us. we thank them.
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• United States
29 Sep 10
I have encountered people who for discussion purposes have asked if they were in the right line at the check-out. After I politely guide them to the right area, they simply walk away. I do not take it personal, but think wow not even a thank you.. Tells me perhaps this person hold a really tough chip on their shoulders and never acknowledges anyone. Cannot help but wonder how their direct friendships deal with such person. A quick and simple thank you requires no fore-thought and takes merely under one second. Unfortunate as I have eloquently thanked a person for giving me giving the time when I have asked. I agree a simple thank you goes a very long way.
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
oh gurl..... I should thank you too, for giving your views in many of my discussions, you helped me make it too! Children should be taught in the correct way, if they learnt to have good manners, this would stay with them all their lives. Some people may be lacking in some "internet manners", since we are pretty anonymous here, it is easy to just walk away. Do not fret, there are many more people who appreciates your help. aishhani, it is a matter of politeness.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
Sweetie, my mom taught me to always say thanx for things that was done for me. She even thank me when i do things for her. I am actually use to it. If she ever caught me not saying thanx, i will surely be in trouble. It only shows appreciation and good manners. TATA.
• Singapore
29 Sep 10
saph, does that answer your own question? I wonder... Your mum has really inculcated the good manners in you!
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
that is why when somebody say 'i love you' to saph she will say 'thank you' back. that is so sweet~ now i know it. love you guys!!
@dawnald (85129)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Oct 10
I thank people for specific things I do. But when I am thanked for things that are just "my job", ie doing the laundry, making dinner, etc., it does strike me weird.
• Singapore
6 Oct 10
Regardless whether it's "your job", they are showing their appreciation for your service by saying thanks.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
3 Oct 10
Duty or not, I also think that we should always say thanks to whoever does something for you. Unfortunately, I couldn't say that I always do. I seem to forget all the time. But it doesn't mean that I don't appreciate the act any less. I do try to say thanks even if it is after the fact. Not weird at all.
• Singapore
6 Oct 10
Maybe you can say it's the heart that counts, but it makes a lot of difference to the people who actually hear the word being said.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
29 Sep 10
Hi blue! I thank my children too for whatever small they do. I want them to know and feel appreciated for what they have done. I want them to know that whatever they do matter alot to me. All these make life so pleasant. Your mom must have felt the same way. She has yours and your husband's wellbeing at heart too.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
1 Oct 10
Your attitude at home is just as awesome blue! It's these little things that would add up to the quality if our life and eventually make it a pleasant one. Great!
• Singapore
6 Oct 10
Education is a long term thing, and the earlier we start, the sooner we see results.
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
Hi tomi, I think it is really good to say thanks to children, because you are showing them by example. Kids tend to imitate the adults and if you are polite and show good manners, they will also follow. Good form of education that you have adopted! I will thank my mum when she brings something for me, but when I do something for her, I don't really expect her to say thanks, I was quite surprised by it. It could be her habit too.
@aishhani (23)
• India
2 Oct 10
yes i say thanks to my siblings.whenever they help me.saying thanks is a good habit.
• Singapore
6 Oct 10
We should all cultivate this habit, thanks!
@GardenGerty (157027)
• United States
30 Sep 10
I try to say thanks to anyone who helps me or cares for me. It is sometimes the only thing that I can do. Good manners to your loved ones is more important in some ways than good manners to the strangers.
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
Many times I find that we tend to be MORE polite to strangers, because we want to appear civil but those close to us are often at the receiving end of temper and frustration. It is not a healthy attitude to have.
• New Zealand
29 Sep 10
yes babes that manners and believe somewhere deep ion our hearts we expect to be acknowledged.So instead of hearing laurels a simple Ty does the trick.It shows one humbleness also.In fact you should have told Ur mom thank you right back for doing everything for you and being for you whenever you needed her.Noe you are just copying her and her acts. At times it is weird but never stop a child from thanking you.At times i feel i don't owe you anything once i have thanked you for your help.just my thoughts...
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
That was a good advice! I always thank her for whatever little things she does for me, I hope she feels my gratitude as well.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Sep 10
bluemoonp;avilion moms just naturally come by that as they are our guides in our youth and they want to be a good example for us to follow. so now I have been a mom for manyyears and I thank my son when he comes to see me and fixes things on my computer. I also t hank the wait people who serve us our meals here. after all they are not getting paid huge salaries and it must get boring at times to do the same old routines of giving us beverages and getting our plates of food to us. I notice too that when I am really very polite the care giver is extra pleasant so I think thanks does help a bit in a job thats really hard. work.
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
Well, I guess it's human nature. Many times, we see close friends or close relatives taking each other for granted. Even a simple 'thank you' is also a waste of their breath. I think it would be good for everyone to be courteous and to say 'thank you' everytime even to your family or closest friends.
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
Yeah, many times I have taken people for granted, then when they flare up because I am not showing enough appreciation, I know I have been wrong. I should say thanks more often, to family, friends, colleagues and also strangers.
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
29 Sep 10
Saying thanks for a favor received, even from a blood relative is not weird. Good manners just like charity begin at home. Being vocal enhances the love a family has.
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
You have put it nicely. Yes, good manners begin at home and I hope I can pass this on to the next generation too. Being asian, we are sometimes too reserved to express our feelings, but it would be good to show that to family members.
@ann101 (518)
• China
30 Sep 10
I say thanks to my husband when he gives me present or have done something to me.But as you have said,I cannot say thanks to my parents or older brothers,that will give me the feeling of making us distant.
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
Sometimes I have this feeling too, I don't know why it makes me feel weird to hear my mother say thanks sometimes. I would just reply her with "this is what I should do, no need to thank me". LOL.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
hi blue! yes, i always thanked everyone who helped me.even if they are my family members.we always say that to each other.it shows that we appreciate every single things that some one has did for us.even if it is our responsibility or duty towards them.
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
Hi H! It is good to show appreciation, sometimes we need to be more vocal and express our thanks more often. Thanks for sharing.
@aishhani (23)
• India
29 Sep 10
I love my parents. I will take care of my parents I will do everything forthem.
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
That is so nice of you, to show your love and concern for them.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
I say thanks to my family, every time they help me. I don't find it weird at all, it would be like arrogant of me, not to say thanks for the reason that it's their duty to help me being my family.
• Singapore
29 Sep 10
Thanks for sharing your views, I will keep that in mind.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
I'm also a mom and I thank my children for every little or big things they do for me or for others close to me. I thank even my young grandchildren for little errands for them to know that they should be thankful to others when needed. It's just natural as sign of respect and gratitude.
• Singapore
29 Sep 10
That's just so sweet an answer, now I know I am supposed to say thanks to everybody.
@picjim (3002)
• India
29 Sep 10
There was no necessity as you said.But i feel your mum is an extremely nice person who wanted to show her gratitude.I don't think its weird, i feel your mum wanted to appreciate your good deed.Though i quite follow that one need not thank parents, siblings and children for being considerate.But there are some like your mum who felt the need to show appreciation.
• Singapore
29 Sep 10
I would find it weird if they ask me to pass the salt and I did, then they say thanks. It is such a small act that I don't feel deserve a thank you...this example happened to pop up in my mind as I was replying to the responses here. My mum is a sweet lady who is always polite no matter what. I don't think anyone is ever afraid of her. Btw, I was brought up by my grandparents, so I actually have no experience of living with my mum.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
I was told that I must say thank you for every little thing I got. And also I always hear my siblings and my mum thanking me whenever I do something for them, it is the same for my partner. It's an honest appreciation, so I tried to never forget to say thank you to people who help me or give me something lol :)
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
I see your whole family has this habit. I'm sure you will not forget to say thanks as it will come natural to you whether at home or outside. Thanks for joining this discussion.