Could you communicate with your parents casually and humorously?

@yeyelee (370)
China
September 30, 2010 4:31am CST
In many films,we could always see these scenes the father and the son talk casually and humorously,it seems like they are two brothers.I envy this communication style very much.Every time when i was talking with my father on phone,we just said a few words about my basic information and living expenses in school,and then hung up.The whole procedure just takes up 3 minutes.Did you also have similar situations that you had no words to talk with your parents?And how did you resolve this problem? Please share,maybe you could help me.
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14 responses
• Indonesia
30 Sep 10
Yes...I have similiar situation. My dad is a silent person, he only talk if there are important thing to say...for example, "help me" or "where's your mom?". that's it. He never ask me about my life, my love life, or about my friends. We can just sit together in one table and no talking in hours. I always open the conversation, but he always have simple answer...but I think he is loving me much like a good father, he is a family man. I can't change the person like this...because of he is older than me...
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@yeyelee (370)
• China
1 Oct 10
Don't ask,don't say,everything lies in silence.Could i understand like this? You know your father,and your father cares you.Your situation is so similar to mine.But besides, my father just could not approve some of my thoughts and overly worry about me.
• United States
30 Sep 10
My parents divorced when i was 3, I grew up with my mother and 3 sisters. I went to my dads every other weekend so I wouldn't say we are super close but we talk on the phone every now and then, also we see each other about once a month. Even with all that we're able to talk openly with each other about everyday things eg. how work is goin, what we've done since we last spoke, how extended family is doing, etc, etc.. Wasn't like that when i was young we didn't really have much to talk about so the conversations were shorter but since i've gotten older we have alot more in common and i suppose that helps alot. Just calling to see how things are going in my opinion is a plus.
@yeyelee (370)
• China
1 Oct 10
Thanks for your sharing,i would have a try what you suggest.Just say something happened in daily life,i remember it.
@laurenn08 (125)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Since Iam a child and now Im 31 And married we do not have a good communication to our mom as well as my siblings... I turn rebellious when I reach teen ager...then i got pregnant at 18... i was in college...
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@yeyelee (370)
• China
1 Oct 10
It's never too late to change,am i right?
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
You probably haven't grown up with them or you have unresolved issues as you are growing up. I can talk casually with my parents. I can even consider them like my bestfriends. I do open up with them especially about my problems at work and personal life. You must be missing half of your life that you aren't talking enough with them. Try to communicate with them more often but I guess that would be awkward for you now...
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@yeyelee (370)
• China
30 Sep 10
Awkward for me now? Hmm,maybe i should wait,wait for my growing up.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
yep i can...it's good actually. because its easier to be honest. well when i was younger i couldn't do that because they were too strict and they were too serious and they rarely wore smiles on their face...well i guess they're the ones who changed, they changed for the better when they realized they were getting older..and they started changing with how they view life and everything...life is too short to be so grumpy all the time. lol. i'm sorry to hear your situation with your parents you don't seem to like it...
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@yeyelee (370)
• China
30 Sep 10
When i was young,my mom didn't like me and often beated me,she just like my younger brother.But as time passes,she gets older and stops treating me like that,just like what you said about your parents,she realized something. And i wanna know that have you changed for your parents.
@reikoliu (21)
• China
8 Oct 10
I had the similar situation before. Now i am a mother too, i understand my parents deeply, i know that they take into consideration for us forever. I comunicate with them all the things, they give my idea, i love them. Pls try your best to comunicate with your parents, you will bocome good friends in the future.
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@rakadanda (100)
• United States
1 Oct 10
I also never felt there was no words that should say when I talk to my dad, but I'd love to talk a lot with my dad, but I always tried to speak, like talking about the automotive, about my course or on the other. And after my fishing rod with a discussion of it and then there was the conversation in a relaxed and fun
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@epicure35 (2822)
• United States
1 Oct 10
I understand what you have experienced. At times, I, to experience uncomfortable, empty space moments with my family; it happens. It also depends on the topic and situation. Then, too, there have been wonderful moments of humor, closeness and connectedness, which we'd all like to have more often. So, as with all relationships, we just have to keep working at it to make them better and easier, build on the precious moments and memories, and forge ahead to make more.
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@sjhaeki (798)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
I find it easier to talk to with my mom, like my other siblings. It's a different story with our dad, although there are times that we can just casually talk and joke about things, but there are always proper time for that. I'm not really sure why it's hard to be casual with both parents or just one, probably it's because we don't see them often while growing up. Or they're strict and it scares us so we act 'good kids' in front of them. Well, I know they didn't lack attention on us while growing up, maybe it's just cause my dad is strict and my mom is easy to approach and she's just home often. she's like the bridge to our concerns to our dad.
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@Owenebs (14)
• New Zealand
1 Oct 10
my father and i talk very casually, even being "mean" to each other and "insulting", and flexing our cunning wit and scathing sarcasm and cynicism, ie. if i were to say "hey dad, your a d*ck!" hed say "it least i have one!" our whole conversations are just a series of lunges and parrys. it can be very fun at times, and i always love talking to him. however, if my father is in a bad mood he will not respond to the insults or he will over react and lash out (verbally, not physically) this is why i often have to be very in tune with my father's emotions.
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• India
30 Sep 10
No because i guess it would be a little difficult for kids or should i say teens to open up to their parents. I would happily do so because my family and me have no secrets that we don't know about each other. So we all are pretty close. But some teens however have this problem and they are scared to confess any of this stuff to their parents. They get this attitude from the group and surroundings that they are grown in. Cheers!
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
30 Sep 10
When we are young we are taught to show respect to our parents. Communiccating with a parents on a casual and humorous level might not be appreciated by them. it is easier to have this kind of relationship with a parent when you are an adult yourself.
• Canada
30 Sep 10
This is exactly how I was raised. In a very laid back and casual environment. I believe that it depends on what kind of environment you have and what kind of parents you have also. My parents were never really overly strict and they always took the time to joke with me and interact casually. I believe this is how families should interact. Now there is a time and a place for strictness but I think it's okay to be goofy sometimes too!
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• Philippines
30 Sep 10
I have the same situation as you with my dad. Even before my parents separated we have never bonded that much. Just a few words were being exchanged between us and even more now that I don't live with him. My mother on the other hand is opposite. I can talk to her about almost anything and we joke around too. My mother is like a best friend to me.
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