my frend was in lovee wid a guy bfore her marriage?

India
October 1, 2010 1:04am CST
my frend was in love wid a boy bfore her marriage..that boy didnt wanna maary her.shud she now tell dis 2 her husband?
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• United Arab Emirates
1 Oct 10
Well....as a guy i would suggest not to tell anything. if she wants to be happy in future. bcos you never know how will the guy react in future. Guys dont react at the moment, but when they are hurt sometimes they do think of it and then start reacting.
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• India
1 Oct 10
It would have been better telling him before wedding but not after. But now that the wedding is already over, I would suggest her to wait. If she is newly married then it would be better to wait and see, understand how caring and trustworthy and patient her husband is. These days boys have changed and are accepting things, but then there is always a chance that they get suspicious once they get to know something like an affair. So it would be better to wait and take a call. After all if he seems to be a nice person she can slowly explain things as it is generally very difficult to keep things away from your life partner. But revealing or not, there should never be guilt in her mind.
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• India
1 Oct 10
Hello, This is very critical situation. Many people have already faced it, I guess. Love can grow in two manners. Sometimes a person falls in love immediately after meeting someone. This kind of love is more related to attraction, or to be more precise, lust. The other type of love comes into play after living together for a long time. This type of love arise in arranged marriages, or in workplaces or in universities. I think that the later kind of love is more stable than the former. Now in this case your friend is having a temporary obsession about the person and she will soon get over him. I don't think telling her husband about all this is necessary at all. This will only ruin her future relationship. Besides this kind of event is not as important as it apparently seems to be. Its just a temporary surge of emotion that is giving the event undue importance. Don't worry. This will pass in due time. Thanks. God bless you.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 10
of course she had to, for her to have a clear conscience towards her husband. eventually if she will not say it to his husband she will not be in a harmonious marriage life as marriage is also about honesty.
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@krupesh (2608)
• India
1 Oct 10
Better not to tell as it might affect her married life.I am experiencing the consequences of letting know the past to my wife , who suspects me still even though I am loyal to her.
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• India
1 Oct 10
Welcome to mylot It will be better if she tells this to her husband , truth will come out one day, sooner or later, at that time she will be in real trouble, so advise her to tell her hubby in some intimate moment, the husband may understand that!!! Thanks for sharing. Cheers. Professor. .
@anurag3786 (6275)
• India
1 Oct 10
I think now when your sister are going to married with their partner then I think your friends should tell to her husbands everything about her past life. Because I think now it is good so say them everything about her past life because when one day he husband know everything about her from any source. Then they feel very bad also it will create some problem between both. So now it is the time to tell them everything about her past life.