Do You let what others say get to you?

@sjhaeki (798)
Philippines
October 1, 2010 4:57am CST
We can't stop people from thinking and saying whatever they want about us. Whether it be positive or negative. And people have different ways of coping or dealing with them. There's nothing wrong if people compliment us but when they talk behind us or bad mouth us that's another thing. How would you deal in this sort of situations? There are those who'd take it to heart and pretty much disheartens them and sometimes it affects their daily activities. Others, on the other hand, would think about it a little, then let it out of their system. Personally, there are some people's words that would affect me, however, after getting mad at it I'd use it back at them in a positive way. What I mean is, I use their words as something positive and make me work harder. Then there are just those I wouldn't really care, I don't know them so I don't care.
3 responses
• China
1 Oct 10
Yes you are doing right.Interpersonal relationship in workplace is rather complicated.And you just can't please everbody since there're always benificial conflicts.Acctually taking others' compliments behind us too seriously is an indication of unconfidence.I would take those people important to my promotion or life seriously and make their compliments my incentive.as for other gossipers I neglect them.
@sjhaeki (798)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
Compliments should be thanked for and people giving them should be given appreciation. As for gossipers, you are right that we should just neglect them. Gossips or rumor will stay as they are if we won't mind them and they'll soon be forgotten.
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
I exactly know people like that who seems to have the habit of talking about other people's lives. I just don't mind them. They wouldn't help my life get better any way. So why waste my time, thinking about what they said about me. I know myself better than they do. Let them say what they have to say, and I go on with my life. I try to make my life better so they can eat their hearts out. LOL
@sjhaeki (798)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
haha... yup that's right, we shouldn't just mind them. whether they say something or not, if we would just ignore them it won't be minded by others as well. they probably don't have anything else better to do with their lives.
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
with situations i can`t please everybody. People are judgemental and its hard to please them. so for me i don`t care as long as i did not hurt anyone, even if it hurt me, yeah can really make me mad but in the long run, im still thankful to almighty.
@sjhaeki (798)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
It can't be helped if people are judgemental we really can't do anything, if we can't correct it at least understand it. I would agree, as long as I would not hurt others I won't care about other things. Thank you for the response and have a nice day!