ur bf/gf is one day almost two days without say nothing...

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Portugal
October 1, 2010 5:56pm CST
hi guys^^ if your bf/gf is one day almost two days without say nothing to you does it means he doesnt care much for you?^^ about me is already this time since my bf doesnt say any to me :( and we live far away already so like this even worse. does this mean he doesnt care much for me if nothing happened right? :( i just feel maybe he doesnt care as much as he says :( what you guys think? please share your opinions^^
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@ravend (661)
• Malta
7 Oct 10
He's probably busy with work, homework , school or something. Stop worrying about it girl. Men's minds are differently wired than ours.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
he is busy with his family. he always needs to cook and take care of his nephews :( so dont have much time for me. im very understanding. but also i need his love and his care too. i dont know how much longer i can take this. i know he loves me but if he cant show it how can we be together? :( i dont want to leave him and i wont do that but i feel so sad sometimes :(
@ravend (661)
• Malta
10 Oct 10
What would happen if you had to leave him, sweety?
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
leave him? i would cry too much i love him so much. i dont understand he has been more than a year saying he loves me and wanted be with me. and now that we are together he never has much time for me but i decided that i will wait his message and i wont answer it. for few days i wont say nothing to see what he does. if he doesnt care is bcs never loved me as much as he said im so sad now :( and i will be too sad if i have to leave him but i cant be like this all the time :( im doing my best working here to earn money to go see him at least he should care more :(
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
2 Oct 10
Hi Sweetloveforeve, I apologize but I got a little bit confused with your story here. You say you live far away so I'm wondering, do you live far away from each other or far away from family and friends? If you live far away from each other then I would say there could be a real good reason as to why he isn't in touch with you for a couple of days. If you are together and he is giving you the silent treatment then that is really not good at all. The silent treatment is a form of control and abuse...not good at all.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
no he didnt give me the silence treatment^^ im far away from him. he isnt talking with me much bcs he doesnt have a job right now and his family needs his help :( so he almost dont have time for me. i know he really loves me but i feel sad that we dont have much time for each other :( im afraid that things fail bcs of that. im working hard here to earn enough to go see him soon :( and i feel that he has other things in his life too besides me. i cant be his first plan bcs he needs to help his family so :( sometimes i feel too sad really :(
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
10 Oct 10
Well, I don't blame you for feeling sad. I don't really understand though if he isn't working then why can't he find a minute or two to at least let you know that he loves you and is thinking of you? That is really important. What does he do to help his family that takes up so much of his time?
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
well sid he has to cook meals and also has to take care of his nephews. but im sure he could take one minute of his time to be online and send me a message saying he loves me everyday. i told him that before and he said ok. also he promised before everyday he would care for me but now he isnt doing that. his message of today in facebook was too cold. didnt even say he loves me neither nothing. and i saw comments he made to his friends looking so happy. so maybe im the only one hurt in this relationship
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• Philippines
4 Oct 10
You said you're far from each other. There must be some reason that you don't know of yet. Just wait. If his reason later on seems not realistic or honest, just observe, and see what happens in the next several days.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
yes his family is the reason. he is always busy helping in something. but i also need his attention. i know he has many problems but i have also. im working hard here to earn money to go see him. for me is like love is the most important thing in life. so i dont care if need to work much just to see him. i know he has to do what his family says but i just wish he had more time for me :( and found a way for us to talk everyday :(
@ip5217 (1656)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
I know how concerned you are today. Try to reach out to him; take the initiative to communicate before we can even conclude that he no longer cares for you. He might have a valid reason why he hasn't reached out to you for days now.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
he is too busy :( always helps his family. he lost his job and in his country is very hard to find a job. so he couldnt yet. so he needs to do what his family ask him. im very understanding person but i need to feel he cares and loves me. i know is true what he says but i need to feel that he really loves me. i just wish he had more time :(
• Indonesia
2 Oct 10
i think so,but dont be negative thinking first just send message to him and ask where you go last 2 days ago,dont be worry first :)
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
he is always busy with his family :( he doesnt have a job so he needs to help his family in anything they need. so he doesnt have much time for me. im not first in his life right now :( i just wish he could find a job soon and we could see each other :( but sometimes seem impossible. i dont know what to do sometimes. i know he really loves me but he has no time for me :(
@kodukodu84 (1576)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 10
hmmm...I don't really know what to say about this, sorry that it is troubling you though. I'm also in a long distance relationship at the moment but if my bf is about to not be able to speak to me for few days or he is going to be busy, then he certainly is going to give me a warning a few days in advance. otherwise, we never had a communication problem. Is he maybe is sulking, or maybe you said something that made him unhappy? Anything could be a reason sweetie :) Have you already tried to contact him instead of waiting for him to contact you?
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
kodu im sorry that you are far from your bf also^^ but im happy you talk everyday^^ about my bf he is busy bcs he lost his job and didnt find a new one yet. so he needs to help his family all the time :( he doesnt have much time for me. i know he really loves me and thats why i didnt leave him. bcs i love him too. but i dont know if i can keep things like this. i feel too sad bcs i just wanted to have a bf that said he loves me all the time. and he doesnt have time for that :( im working hard here to go meet him. but he didnt buy the card he promised he would buy yet :( i just feel that he has many priorities and im not first in his life :( im too sad really :(
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
..yeah its true that your bf/gf is not caring each other when both of them are almost two days without say nothing..cause if they care they must have time always for both of them even just say hi,..cause it makes a relationship became strong...,:i feel sorry for those did not like my comment..hehehe ..just say your opinion too..love you myloters..
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
no you are right^^ we must always find time even just to say hi or something :( i always say something to him. only one day i didnt to see if he would say bcs i was very sad with him. anyway im happy you were honest^^ you can always feel free to comment my discussions. sure relationships become more strong if both always care for each other^^ i know he loves me but if he doesnt have time i dont know :( i feel sad these days really.
2 Oct 10
Yeah. Maybe. I'm not letting you down or something but if he cares about you, he maybe having a problem that won't talk with you, Or some stupid stuff like he's having a lot of fun with other girls. :)
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
no is ok you are not letting me down^^ about being with other girls i know he isnt^^ is not from his personality he is very honest with me^^ but he is busy always bcs he doesnt have a job and needs to help his family all the time :( so like this is very complicated. this week we almost didnt have time to talk :( we are far away already and if he doesnt have time for me even worse :(
@salonga (27986)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
Surely there is something wrong with it. Two days of silence in the presence of a loved one is not normal. It may not mean he/she does not love you anymore but rather there is certainly some problem deep inside and I believe it is not proper that he/she should just stop talking. He/she should rather talk and express whatever is the reason for that kind of abnormal behavior so that things could be settled.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
yes you are right^^ something was wrong. the problem is that he doesnt have a job so he needs to help his family. so thats why he almost dont have time for me. im very sad right now. i love him and i always thought being with him would be like a fairy tale but he doesnt have time for me mostly :( he says for me to keep my faith on him and i have but he doesnt have a job yet. i dont know when he will have bcs is hard to find and always helping his family how can he have time for me? :(
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
well i think it depends on his reason .. maybe he was just busy or doing some stuff.. im not in a relationship right now but i do experience stuff in a relationship like this before.. i think you just need to trust each other and wait for him to say anything to you.. :)
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
yes he is busy^^ i trust him and i know he loves me^^ he is helping his family always so thats why doesnt have much time for me. but we are far what is a big problem already. and if he doesnt have time to talk with me even worse. how can we be together like that? :( i love him and wont leave him but i just wish this situation changes soon :(
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
.....well I don't know about that, because this days my bf and i don't have a communication..but I don't even think that he doesn't care for me.Maybe he just busy right now and he doesn't have much time for me.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
these days you and your bf are not talking with each other? since how many days? yes he must be busy sure but still im sure he has at least 5 minutes to send you a message or something. thats what we do when we love someone so much. is hard to be without say something so maybe you should talk with him^^ i just dont want that you be hurt if your bf does that all the time :(
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
right now i'm in the same situation as yours.. sometimes my boyfriend doesn't leave me messages for like a couple of days or even a week.. i haven't spoken to him over the phone yet.. and we're both oceans apart right now.. but i'm not worried when he doesn't reply to my messages as often as i do because i understand the nature of his job... although some say that majority of people having long distance relationship don't work, all i can say is it's all up the people who care about this kind of relationship.. it takes a lot of faith to make this thing work out.. if your bf is not available as of the moment, might as well leave him a message.. if you're in doubt with his feelings for you, might as well confront him.. the best way to keep a long distance love affair is to communicate with the one you love as much as you can in such a way that you can build trust to him and keep your faith alive... that's what i always do whenever my bf's away from home.. we communicate as often as we can, accept the nature of our jobs, keep faithful to each other, trust each other, learn to love each other near or far and trough thick or thin, and pray for each other for a happy and healthy relationship.. hope this helps you clear your doubts.. ^_~ God bless you and your bf
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
lady im sorry that your bf sometimes dont call you or message you even one week sometimes. well i wouldnt take that. a week is too much. i know he is busy in his job but for sure he has at least 5 minutes to rest and could message you. anyway im happy that you are so understanding he is too lucky to have you. but he should care more for you^^ anyway about my bf he loves me i know that but he almost dont have time for me :( always has to help his family bcs he doesnt have a job now so dont have time for me sometimes. i trust and love him^^ thanks for your advises :) and god bless you and your bf also^^
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
1 Oct 10
This thing would piss me off very badly, i know that once i get him pissed off and he never called, a whole day, and i was worried about him, and i was pissed as well, but after he calmed down , he called me and he said he missed me, but i don`t know how is your boyfriend. I must say that the fact that he didn`t called yet, doesn`t mean he doesn`t care, maybe he has some problems, and he didn`t got the time to let you know, there are so many reasons that can be, i hope he will call soon to tell you something about what happend, and why he didn`t called.
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
yes skade is normal you were pissed off bcs he didnt call you and you are his gf. so is normal you want to talk with him everyday^^ anyway im happy that he said he missed you and called you^^ so all was ok then. about my bf we have a long distance relationship and cant see each other near. we live in different countries, we are very very away and that is already a problem. so if he doesnt have time to at least message me i be too sad sure :( i know he loves me but sometimes just know that is not enough. we also need to feel the care and love of person we are in love with :( we need time only for each other and we almost never have much time.