just can't get over...
October 2, 2010 10:28am CST
I've been trying to forget about a certain girl. No matter what i do, i just cant seem to get myself not to think about her. I already resorted into dating another girl just so i can forget about her. Sadly, it still didn't work. I guess i got hurt really bad and i just can't get over about how things turned out between us. They say time heals wounds. Well its been quite a while now and I'm still hurting.
2 Oct 10
I've been into this kind of situation before... about trying so hard to forget someone and entertaining another as a coping mechanism, supposedly, but only turned out even worse because I just got tired pretending in front of the new guy that I have already moved on from my previous relationship. One thing that really gave me peace of mind is by meditation and total acceptance of the real situation that no matter how in-loved we were... we can never be. It's so hard to accept a failure especially in matters of love but a non-reciprocated love will eventually die down with the help of total acceptance to the situation.
2 Oct 10
Meditation technically refers to "Private religious devotion or mental exercise, in which techniques of concentration and contemplation are used to reach a higher level of spiritual awareness" (Britannica Encyclopedia). But in my own understanding, meditation simply means awareness. It's the gathering of ideas, commemorating the series of events that took place, understanding and accepting the situation, and totally entrusting everything to the Supreme One -- GOD.
2 Oct 10
I think you loved that girl a lot thats why you are not able to forget her, the best way was to have another relationship but you have already tried that, now what can you do is to just dip into your current relationship and spend a lot of time with her so that you could forget her, i wish you a best of luck
2 Oct 10
Hi, I think there is time for everything. If you are suffering from post-break-up symptoms there is nothing much you can do about it. There are a certain phases http://www.bukisa.com/articles/351197_moving-on-after-a-break-up that you'll have to pass before recovering completely. Time is a great healer. Every bitter memory fades away in time, even without any active intervention on your part. If you try hard enough you can accelerate the process which is otherwise inevitable. What they say about time is absolutely true. But not all people take the same amount of time to recover. It depends on the psychological frame of mind you had before getting involved in that relationship. Just have patience and try harder, though loosing yourself in yet another relation is not a good solution. Thanks. God bless you.