Share passwords or Break Up! ! !

India
October 2, 2010 11:32am CST
Just an interesting revelation i was doing this interesting story of divorce, break up rates and relationships, the lawyer who I was doing it with reveals, most of the couples now are breaking up because of privacy issues like not wanting to share their email passwords and social networking passwords. Didn't know passwords would have so much power, sad but true.
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• United States
2 Oct 10
Wow, who would have thought that people have such privacy issues. I wonder if they are afraid of being judged? I would understand if there's more reasoning behind it, than just needing to know passwords. Maybe in some cases, there was cheating going on, and one or the other would ask to see the site for proof that they were not doing such "deeds". And you could see how the one who cheated/had an affair, would try defending it. Just a thought.
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@GardenGerty (102531)
• United States
2 Oct 10
Not being willing to be open has many faces. This one is very contemporary. It just says that although people are married they are not trusing each other. We have all of our stuff written down so that we can find it if we need it.
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• South Korea
2 Oct 10
haha thats true I got a friend who also share her password with her bf..she end up always changing her password..and I think even though were in relationship we should just a little bit of privacy..I mean to avoid little things that we know might start an argument... (and trust in relationship is ver important)
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@trisha27 (3498)
• United States
18 Oct 10
Wow, that is something interesting to know about that now people are breaking up over such things as this. Not giving each other passwords and such. I guess I could kind of understand it would all depend on how long that relationship has been going on and if that person is just a boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. I am married and I have all my husband's passwords and stuff, that's just cause he forgets. But I don't think that it should be a must that you know your significant others information such as passwords. If that was the case then maybe these type of people should not be in the relationship in the first place. Because there is no trust. But like I said above that is a very interesting fact. Trisha
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
This kind of thing was already apparent when social networking sites have been starting to become popular. Couples who have been together for a long time seem to have slight problems with sharing passwords with each other. Then, there are new couples who are totally open with each other when it comes to social networking sites password sharing. Thinking about it, I guess couples who have been staying with each other for a long time before those social networking sites became popular are finding it hard since, some of the information that they have provided in their accounts, the photos that they want to keep to themselves and other things, might result into a misunderstanding. For those who are new and starting, I guess they can be at ease since all the information that they would be providing would be supervised so, it can be seen as acceptable or not with each other. Some couples would even make another account together so that they can still ensure the privacy of their own separate accounts. Then again, if its an issue of trust, we shouldn't be asking for our partner's passwords if we really trust them, right? We'd let them reveal what they want to reveal. (^_^ )
@marifel86 (112)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Oh,this is a sad fact.Basically, there's a lot of trust issues involved here.
@bamrahkirti (1819)
• India
4 Oct 10
It purely indicates lack of trust and confidence.Everyone has a private life and the other partner should respect that privacy.The relationship of husband and wife is based on faith and confidence on each other and if small instances like refusal of sharing of passwords can break a relationship then there is definitely no scope of continuity of relationship on long term basis.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
Oh God! I'm beginning be threatened if divorce will be legalized here in the Philippines.
@ZeXyRech (38)
3 Oct 10
that is so true. We used to argue with password issues. He really didn't want to give his password to me. So, I made me doubt him. Then, he's always telling that I don't trust him. So how will I trust him if he even cannot gave his password to me? What is the reason why he can't give it to me? Is he trying to hide something from me in his account? Well, trust is so important in a relationship but how can you trust someone if he's hiding something from you..
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
I think the reason why this has become an issue is because of the cyber infidelity. It exists.
@kodukodu84 (1576)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 10
I never had a password problem with my partner because we share everything from the beginning of our relationship. so there's nothing to hide, no way to hide. but we are not a very social person too. we don't have much friend on social site like FB too. we have this policy of only adding people who we meet up with in our life. we do not add person from internet or a person who is a friend of our friend but we don't know them. of course it's sad that they are couple who get divorce because of such problem, but if you do not want someone to touch your privacy then tell them and warn them before you marry them, simple.
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Oct 10
zeethegr8 what a silly ridiculous thing to break up over. we did not have a computer when I and my hubby were married b ut we shared everything and had nothing to hide aS we trusted each other. we did not have to worry about what not to share., if we had had one we would have given each other our passwords it would not have mattered one way or the other we might also have each kept them as we still had deep trust in each other.all that is needed is for each one to agree to share or agree to respect each others privacy thats all that is needed., communicate.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
i think this is because there is no complete trust between the couple that they would think they have been doing something in these sites that they have to check it for themselves to actually catch their spouses do something such as cheat on them! well for me, i think i do not need his passwords in this site, and i never ask - he too never asks me my password and i guess we still have the trust we have for each other.
• Portugal
3 Oct 10
really? getting divorced bcs dont want to share passwords? yes thats too weird. anyway if my bf ever asked it i would be a bit sad bcs would show he doesnt trust me completely but i would give him to show him i have nothing to hide. anyway is sad that people are finding more and more reasons to get divorced. if you have nothing to hide should tell the password at least to show you are not cheating bcs many people cheat online so is like normal if you dont want give your lover thinks bad but sure he has no right to ask it bcs is private also. anyway i would give bcs i would have nothing to hide and my bf would regret to ask it and say sorry^^ and would trust and guess wouldnt ask password anymore^^
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
It's very true. One big reason why my bestfriend broke up with her boyfriend because her boyfriend got paranoid and insisted that both of them should exchange passwords in their emails and social networking just to "secure" their relationship. It was a little funny. But I am thankful that it hasn't happened to me yet because if ever I'll encounter such situation, I will never do it. My password is my private space and if doesn't trust me or respect for that - sorry for him.
• United States
2 Oct 10
It's not the password itself. It comes down to one partner being paranoid and the other being offended at being monitored like a child. On occasion they may actually have something to hide, but most of the time it's really just the principle of the thing. Relationships are built largely on trust. If you can't trust your partner and feel you MUST have access to every single account he or she has, then there is no trust and the relationship will dissolve. After 7 years, my husband and I have never shared a password with one another. We both value our privacy. The only rare occasion is if one specifically asks the other to long into their account for something, but we change our passwords a few times a year, as per regular suggested security measures, so it doesn't really matter.
@Ramaditya (1227)
• Indonesia
2 Oct 10
Oh my God! Diforced because of not sharing password? I am sorry, but it sounds bad for me. I believe if we are husband and wife, of course we have to respect privacy. But choosing diforce upon giving up passwords? No, I will never do that. I've got responsibility to my son, daughter, and my family. That's more important.
@m_perez (506)
• United States
2 Oct 10
Well if a couple is breaking up over passwords then they weren't meant to be. It's really childish if someone breaks up over passwords.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 10
People who have been slaving themselves day in and out in the net are inviting lots of problems to their life. When the damage is done, there is no way to turn back the clock. So the lawyers are happy as they get more income to handle divorce cases.
• United States
2 Oct 10
I suppose this depicts a lack of trust. I wonder though if they break up over trust issues and or privacy issues, was it because someone on the other end was afraid of being caught or something like that. hmm I suppose that breaking up over something like this just means it is sort of the icing on the cake as the couple surely has to have many issues besides this and eventually it was like the last straw.