True love has no age barrier
October 3, 2010 3:58am CST
Friends, this a Love Story of All Times. An incredible love story has come out of China recently and managed to touch the world. It is a story of a man and an older woman who ran off to live and love each other in peace for over half a century. The 70-year-old Chinese man who hand-carved over 6,000 stairs up a mountain for his 80-year-old wife has passed away in the cave which has been the couple's home for the last 50 years. See picture of the couple. Over 50 years ago, Liu Guojiang a 19 year-old boy, fell in love with a 29 year-old widowed mother named Xu Chaoqin. In a twist worthy of Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet, friends and relatives criticized the relationship because of the age difference and the fact that Xu already had children. At that time, it was unacceptable and immoral for a young man to love an older woman. To avoid the market gossip and the scorn of their communities, the couple decided to elope and lived in a cave in Jiangjin County in Southern ChongQing Municipality. In the beginning, life was harsh as they had nothing, no electricity or even food. They had to eat grass and roots they found in the mountain, and Liu made a kerosene lamp that they used to light up their lives. Xu felt that she had tied Liu down and repeatedly asked him, 'Are you regretful? Liu always replied, 'As long as we are industrious, life will improve. In the second year of living in the mountain, Liu began and continued for over 50 years, to hand-carve the steps so that his wife could get down the mountain easily. Half a century later in 2001, a group of adventurers were exploring the forest and were surprised to find the elderly couple and the over 6,000 hand-carved steps. Liu MingSheng, one of their seven children said, 'My parents loved each other so much, they have lived in seclusion for over 50 years and never been apart a single day. He carved using his hands, more than 6,000 steps over the years for my mother's convenience, although she doesn't go down the mountain that much. The couple had lived in peace for over 50 years until last week. Liu, now 72 years, returned from his daily farm work and collapsed. Xu sat and prayed with her husband as he passed away in her arms. So in love with Xu, was Liu that no one was able to release the grip he had on his wife's hand even after he had passed away. 'You promised me you'll take care of me, you'll always be with me until the day I died, now you left before me, how am I going to live without you?' Xu spent days softly repeating this sentence and touching her husband's black coffin with tears rolling down her cheeks. In 2006, their story became one of the top 10 love stories from China, collected by the Chinese Women Weekly. The local government has decided to preserve the love ladder and the place they lived as a museum, so this love story can live forever. What is your view on true love, is age a barrier, I say ‘no, age is not barrier, just emotion works’. Share any story you know.Professor
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• United States
5 Oct 10
Once we come to be adults, I really don't think that age is a barrier in love. I mean my husband is only five years older than I am, but had we met a few years earlier there would have been absolutely no chance for the two of us. However, we met when we were both adults and we've had a beautiful relationship together. My parents were also about the same amount of difference in age and they didn't really have problems either. That said, I think that age is something that some people view as a barrier but it really should never be a barrier in a relationship.
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Oct 10
There was this couple who worked with my husband, Fran and Norm. Fran was somewhere between 20 and 30 years older than Norm, but they were good together. Two years ago we saw Fran at a party, but Norm was not there. He had passed away of a heart attack at the age of 50. You just never know what will happen in life, but I do know that those two were good together. Age can be a barrier if you let it be, but it doesn't have to be.
6 Oct 10
this is just sooo touching! what a love story indeed! thanks for sharing this to us. no, my take is that age is not a barrier, but it requires so much adjustment and so great understanding on the part of partner who's older than the younger one.
5 Oct 10
hello prof, I've read this story years ago but still i can't help falling in love again after passing thru this discussion. Indeed,this is another Shakespeare real life love story and more dramatic than of Romeo and Juliet,more heart warming than the Titanic,becoz we've seen the real person in this story. I couldn't just imagine the love in every step carved by hands alone. If ever i got the chance to set my foot in that stairs,i am sure that i could feel the warm of unending love thru each steps (what a love)
4 Oct 10
Hi! For me, Age is not a barrier! If we are truly loving someone, we will do anything for him/her. And in return, if he/she truly loves you, he/she will make a way. Just like what God did. He gave His only Son for us to be saved - that shows His unconditional love for us! However, Age doesn't matter! What matter is that your feelings on both of you! We may not become good in others sight, but remember this, you are just a human experiencing and practicing to be a human - to love and beloved!
4 Oct 10
I believe It is.. Truly isn't measure depending on age,,. depending on distance,.. LOVE is there even those what they call barrier.. Only if such is true.. Love is not basing upon how the outside appears..,instead found deeper down in the heart..It isn't a sign of blindness but "Realness" if a heart is willing.It will find millions of reason to love still...
4 Oct 10
I think love or true love does not require any age barrier. What matters most is that two people are in love and they can support each other. Also, I think when we get involve about love we should be responsible enough with our actions and should be at the right age to fully comprehend the responsibilities and consequences.
4 Oct 10
A feeling callled love is hard to explain sometimes. But this feeling is a gift from God for all of human kind. They both, Xu and Liu, was so lucky to have each other. I often hear the story about lover with long difference ages, but usually the man would be older than the woman. This story is really unique yet really touching, thank you for sharing it. I wish I'll find a true lover like both of them hehehe (^_^)
4 Oct 10
Yes I am agreeing with that true love has no any barrier of age. It happens in nay age. I have heard many incidents when an old person marrying to an old lady. I think there are no any barriers for true love and also it never sees age barriers. True love can happen with a 16 years girl and 28 years boy and also 22 years girl and with a 56 years man. So I think there are no any barriers of age. It is a true feeling of hearts.
4 Oct 10
I've read this story before. How nice to be able to live with the one you love despite of age barrier. I guess, I am of a more cynic and logic person here. What if I love a guy 20 years younger than me, and he loves me back? What would happen if I get to 60 years: old, ill, sagging flesh, wrinkled face, not a sport in bed anymore and he is at the peak of his age? What would the society say behind my back and what will my partner really feel when his friends told him he is in a relationship with a grandma? No, Prof, definitely not for me. I stay clear from guys much younger than my age who tail me lately.