your bf/gf tells you to stop talking with a friend that is in love with you...

boy is in love with his best friend^^ - boy is kissing girl he likes^^
Portugal
October 3, 2010 10:07am CST
hi guys^^ imagine that there is a friend of you that is in love with you. he/she told you before and your bf/gf knows about it. so he/she ask you to stop talking with this friend. would you stop?^^ about me i wouldnt stop bcs is not my friend's fault if he is in love with me^^ besides he wasnt trying nothing with me he just said he loves me. only said his feelings and nothing else. i wouldnt lose a good friend just bcs my bf was jealous. so i would explain my bf and im sure he would understand. and if didnt i couldnt do any about it bcs how could i leave a friend if he wasnt even trying to get me? just said his feelings. what about you guys? what would you do? please share^^
8 responses
• United States
3 Oct 10
I wouldn't tell someone to do that cause i know what it feels like my ex told me i couldn't talk to my best friend because she loved me. and it sucked i told my friend and she stopped even though i didn't want her to but i talk to. and after we stop talking my ex started treating me badly i guess she felt she could do anything she wanted after that, well after a week i called my best fried instead of my ex and i told her what happened and things were fine between me and my friend but not me and my ex she just wanted to control me seeing that she never stop talking to her ex so why should i stop talking to my best friend, who had a boyfriend at the time.
• Portugal
3 Oct 10
but for what you say your friend wasnt in love with you bcs she had a bf^^ right? but in this case i meant if your best friend was in love with you. thats what i meant. anyway is ok ^^ im sorry that your ex gf was so stupid that wanted to control everything. she didnt have the right to ask you to stop talking with your friend and even more she shouldnt had act like she can control your life. she had to respect you so you did right thing leaving her^^ and talking well again with your friend^^
• United States
3 Oct 10
my friend did love me but i had someone so she wanted someone to but didn't want to mess things up for me. its weird but it didn't matter to us what matter was we were there for each other and well what goes around comes aground my ex did lots to me that was bad but now everyone is using her and she can't find some one that loves her
• Portugal
4 Oct 10
aw i see^^ so now your ex is learning with what she did to you. now boys are using her and she will see how stupid she was by letting go a guy that loved her so much that even stopped to talk with his best friend^^ anyway now your best friend is single and you too and you love her so try your luck^^ maybe she still loves you like before who knows^^
• India
3 Oct 10
i would also do the same, if my gf tells me to stop talking to a girl who is madly in love with me,i ll make my gf understand that nothing wrong will happen.i will talk to the girl who is in love with me and will discuss the matter.i will straight forwardly tell her that i am already committed,try to control your feelings,though we can remain good friends.if she agrees to whatever i am saying then its good otherwise i ll have to stop talking to her so that she can forget me and move on in life.
• Portugal
4 Oct 10
yes i agree with all that you said^^ you shouldnt stop to talk with your friend unless she tried something with you^^ then sure you would have to or someday she could try kiss you and your gf appears and misunderstand^^ anyway is good that you would still be friends with your friend^^ your gf couldnt control your friends i mean imagine that two friends loved you? and you only had two friends? would you have to let them go bcs she wanted to? very sweet that you wouldnt do what she wanted^^ friends are important too^^
• India
4 Oct 10
according to me if our partner trusts us and love us truly.he/she wont tell us to break the friendship.he/she will definitely find a solution but afterall it vary person to person.some girls are matured enough to understand some are very possesive and dominating.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Oct 10
yes i will definately stop talking. I dont want my past to spoil my future.
• Portugal
3 Oct 10
you would stop talking with a friend bcs your wife told you to? you shouldnt bcs friends are important too. waste a friend bcs a selfish attitude of your wife would be too stupid edward. even your friend was in love she wouldnt try nothing with you. she just said she loves you but wouldnt do nothing. but your wife was jealous and asked you to stop talking with your friend. i didnt think you would do this really. friends are very important.
• India
4 Oct 10
well even do any thing like that because she is a good friend of mine why should I leave her and she is not hurting my relationship so its ok ya if she starts to interfere then I would surely do something but if she just expressed her feelings then I wouldn't do anything..
• Puerto Rico
4 Oct 10
Wao thats a complicated situation(i like it lol). Well only you have the answer just have to look for it. You have to understand that no one owns you so you're free to do as you like but the person that's with you decides if it can handle that or not. So its better to get to a happy medium, also have to realize that a friend that loves you is kind of complicated. You have to see if you're not hurting the person when you're close. Is not easy to have someone you love and not being able to touch, kiss or other stuff. But if you give them time it gets less intense. Also can't let either a friend or a lover ruin your happiness, lovers come and go but friends also go with the wind lol. Just think who makes you happy and how and you'll find your answer.
@advokatku (4039)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 10
actually, indeed in friendship sometimes there are feelings of love that follows it. I'm also ever experienced it, but I tried to gently refused. Though a natural thing, a friend reveals his love to us, but for me, its still be a strange thing when we work out of love with a friend
@jeromar (11)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
Yeah your right...that is not his fault to love you..LOve comes around..that's why God created LOVES.. to share not to waste..ehehehe
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
That happened to me already. My boyfriend asked me to stop communicating with his friend who has now become my friend because he likes me. I told my boyfriend that we're just friends and that there is nothing going on between us. He should trust me, I'm his girlfriend after all, right?