an easy to breaking up with a guy or a girl

Philippines
October 3, 2010 10:44pm CST
I have been in a couple of relationships and I know that there is no easy way to break up with someone. Someone always ends up getting hurt. Either it's you, or the other person. I tried breaking with someone over a text message. It wasn't that great but it was easier for me because I didn't have to talk to him and look him in the eye. His brother's girl friend sent me a message saying that he cried and she demanded to know what happened. LOL How did you break up with that someone? Was it easy for you? Did either one of you cry?
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
there's no easy way in breaking up with someone. i also find it hard to break up with someone before,but if things really won't work out,no matter how we tried to fix things,it will always not make us happy.so better be free when you know you will not be happy with that someone. same as the person involved. being away from each other can help us to grow and realize things ahead of us both.if we really are meant to be,only God knows it all and if we really felt we still loved them,it will just happen however we forced ourselves not to love them again... all things happen for a reason...
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
I know, right? No one should force love on another person because it would be pointless. Let each other grow and see, maybe you are meant for each other, but not at that time being.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
you may be right. some couples don't have understandings sometimes.that's why they need to be separate for a while and when time comes that they really knew and felt,they still loved each other,then it will be a sign i think for their love to be continued again...
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
Exactly. Yet these instances are so rare. I don't know of anyone with this kind of story, probably because people do not know how to wait and they quickly assume things.
@amelialsc (162)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 10
When the relationship is of no value, so is the person. I do not think that it is nice breaking up with a person whether you are the victim or the person that breaks. It bring no value, and no significance. A relationship starts with respects, receiving the person for who she/he is. When we are in a relationship, we hold on to it till the day god set us apart. No one is perfect, but it is how we make the person perfect.
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
A lot of couples break up after they see that their relationship is not working out. That doesn't mean that what they had was of no value, right?
• Malaysia
4 Oct 10
relationship works out when effort is put in.. then in no way the person should be involved in a relationship for just what so ever love reason, a pretty face, or simply lust?? i don't know, but a person that does not appreciate what they have simply do not have values to preserve what they have .. my opinion .. value in this sense does not mean useless or garbage, value in this sense simple states that they dont understand the core basis of their entire self, they don't understand what they have, and they don't understand what they want .. as simple as that...
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
I agree with you on the part that people should not be getting into a relationship because of a pretty face or because of lust. Sadly though, that's what people are considering the most nowadays. Whoever is good-looking is being chased.
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
hello lynpiochy! well for me what you have done to him is so heartbreaking and painful. there's no closure for both of you. it's just you ended it like that. you left him hanging with lots of questions in his mind, how, why, what? if you would be on his shoes, what would you feel? im not against you neither in your ex bfs side. i even did not your reason behind why you ended your relationships with him. but i felt pity over your ex boyfriends feelings. but yes, it did happened to me, and when i broke up with my first boyfriend, he deserves it. for a woman to be cheated twice was so painful. but when i got myself back, when i decided to be with him, i had my sweet revenge. i broke up with him, and he's crying over me. but that moment, i felt no love at all. maybe because i was pissed off in him. well, if i had cry, i cried when those times i knew he cheated me and my tears runned dry when i broke up with him. breaking up is easy, if it is for the sake of ending up your no future relationship.
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
I know it was painful for him, he cried. I forgot to tell you guys that I was just in high school then. To me, I was just a kid. I broke up with him because I thought my dad would get mad once he knew I had a boyfriend. I know, crazy, right? A year after I broke up with him, he tried to make me jealous by cuddling with his new girlfriend in front of me but I didn't even care. But hey, we're friends now. We even hang out but we don't talk about what happened before.
@pokumon (647)
• United States
4 Oct 10
I think it's natural not to talk about it when you remain friends with them. That would just make things awkward. It's nice that the two of you still hang out.
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
well, if that would be your reason why, you are on the right track. study first before entering into a serious relationship. but im happy for you and your ex now were friends. let not dealt in the past, treasure now what is you have now. treasure it, like how you treasure a precious jewel in you treasure box. :)
• Portugal
4 Oct 10
oh you broke up by a text message? thats too bad really. the guy for sure was heartbroken. the best way to break up is face to face even it can hurt the person. yes sure by text is too easy but if we really cared for that person in the past we should have courage and tell in his face. is just that me i would hate if a guy left me by text. that would break my heart really. only you can do that if you have a long distance relationship and cant see each other near but still can use a cam and say in person's face anyway. but about if you were with him really break up like that is too bad :( the best way is always say in person face so he could see that you didnt mean to hurt him. with that text he might think that you dont care for his feelings :( at least with face to face breaking up you can see the other person honesty and feel a bit better after all.
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
It was not the best way to have broken up with someone. After all, I think there is no best way to have a breakup. I felt sorry after doing so but I couldn't take back what I said.
• Romania
4 Oct 10
You get used with her, you will remain only good thing about the relationship, nice memories that you'we been trough, of course it's hard.
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
I'm sorry lorrynus but I don't think I get what you mean.
• United States
4 Oct 10
i personally have never did the breaking up and for the most part it has sucked i cryed sometimes but there was once i guess it was because we were more friends than dating when we droke up it was just that and we kept talking about something else right after like nothing happened lol but that's not often that that happeneds
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
Becoming friends after a break up is something that I dream of. I have not experienced breaking up and chatting away as if nothing happened. That's really nice. =)
• United States
4 Oct 10
yep it is
• India
4 Oct 10
Well only a person can answer this question if he has involved himself/herself in any relation. I have already been a relation but i never felt it that i am going to breaking up. It is just the amount of trust you have on your partner. And it is good to have good understanding between each other before you put yourself into any relation... But todays new thought is that if a couple get into a relation then because of their misunderstanding and when they get separated it because of their understanding.
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
I would like you to please elaborate on your last sentence. I think I got a little lost there.
• United States
4 Oct 10
I've never broken up with someone. I don't really have time for relationships anymore. But I've been hurt once. I don't think there is a point to relationships. I believe that everyone should just wait until they reach the age at which they want to get married. At that point it is simple to find love, since both partners can spend more time together. Life should be making oneself better, not making others better; who have the potential to hurt you. Also, as adults, both will be mature and not break up for mediocre conflicts. Have a good day.
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
I don't really agree with your statement "Life should be making oneself better, not making others better; who have the potential to hurt you". It doesn't sound right. We have to be unselfish at times in order to grow and to make yourself better, you know.
@ravend (661)
• Malta
4 Oct 10
You just say the plain truth. Better a short pain now than a long term life of sadness.
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
True, true. And would you agree that it's best to end it now than later?
• China
4 Oct 10
when breaking up with someone,you will undoubtly hurt him.once,i broke up with my bf by sending him a letter,and another time,i did it by sending text message.i can't agree with you more that talking face to face with someone is such a cruel thing,the one may get hurt a lot.so in my opinion,breaking up with someone in a euphemism way is really necessary.
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
But if you were to choose now, would you rather break up with someone through a text message and seem like a coward or will you talk to the guy face to face? I still can't decide.
4 Oct 10
I have been in a relationship for a year and I also experienced to be a heart broken for me there is no easy way to break up with someone especially if you have both feelings for each other.. it hurts to break someone's heart it takes a lot of time to recover and to move on!!
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
True, true. I have never heard of someone breakup and say that no one got hurt even a bit. Someone will be hurt in the process, especially if the other one has moved on so quickly than expected.
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
Most of my relationships ended with a text message. The exes were usually not brave enough to tell it to my face. After receiving the text message from them I usually confronted them on that day or the next day. I really hate it when someone breaks up with you through text, email or through chat. As for my experience I always confronted the girl personally, although it is hard at least she knows that I respect her even though things didn't work out between the two of us.
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
You are one of those guys who are brave enough to face the girls when asking for a breakup. Good for you. It shows that even though you want a breakup, you respect her enough to confront her and give her an explanation.
@reneezoso (393)
• India
4 Oct 10
Hmm... well its really sad..to break..up all of a sudden.. you let it go off slowly and then fade away in smoke.. its must be hard on the part of ur Complanion to see a breakup message on the phone..its just the shows the coward face of you facing hard to face the truth.. so console her...and try to be friends.. and let her know ur its not workin out.. but we can still be gud frnds :)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
I believe that it is much better if you tell someone that you don't love him/her in the kindest way possible rather than showing him/her that you have fallen out of love because showing you don't care would hurt them more. And for the record, he's already my friend.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
Indeed there's no easy way to break up with someone. But I often wonder why doe we need to break up with someone who we care about? I honestly don't believe that love would fade, I think it wasn't there in the first place that's why a relationship doesn't work. Because if it were true, people could work it out, regardless the circumstance. I am no expert really and I broke up with someone because he had someone else in his life. He became weak and made the easy way out, he didn't break up with me, he replaced me. I don't think there's really some way to break up on someone without anyone getting hurt. Regardless if it's through text, call, or in person someone would always be hurt in the end.
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
My friend once told me that in a relationship, there comes a point where either one would fall out of love. She said her sister was lucky that her boyfriend didn't fall out of love at the same time she did. Because if both parties fall out of love at the same time, the relationship will surely end. But if one stays in love with the other, there is a chance of them staying together still since someone is fighting for their love.