How do you feel about dating co-workers?

Omagh, Northern Ireland
October 4, 2010 8:40pm CST
Just wanted to get this one out in the open...do you draw a line between work and your personal life,or are you quite happy to date someone you'd likely be seeing each day at work? and why would that be the case for You?
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@Ysabel (1202)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
If i have the option, I would rather not date a guy within the same group. If of larger organization and he would be on another department, then that is fine, even if the same company. But of the same section or the same department, I would not opt to because sometime, at one point or another, it could interfere with work. LIke if things will not work out for our relationship, it could be be very hard to manage then. At the onset, dating could be fun, you could have exchange of glances, exciting things, but later on, it would be very hard to draw the line. :)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
5 Oct 10
That'd be my take on the subject too..I'd feel the small size of the company I work for would make it difficult to focus on work while keeping the relationship going..
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@Ysabel (1202)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
and eventually, you will ran out of things to talk about because you are on the same crowd. no too exciting when you talk about long term. unlike if he/she's from another organization, there would be a lot of familiarization to do, more things to discuss, more scenarios to learn from. just opinion coming from personal experience.
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
5 Oct 10
That's right..."How was Your Day,Hon?" gets old real quick if the couple had been on the same team at work all day!
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
This is probably going to sound weird but I don't like to date someone who works in the same company as I do. A different department, maybe, but the same one? I don't think so. You see, I have this agenda of being given little space to breathe. I don't want to see my boyfriend frequently because it would seem like I am being choked, especially when we hang around daily. I hate that. I would rather have a relationship wherein I am given a chance to miss that special someone. For me, hanging around frequently with someone would just make me feel like we are merely friends. I know, I know. It's not bad to be friends and hang out with your special someone but I guess that is not for me.
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
5 Oct 10
That's the thing..you don't want to be in one another's pocket 24/7...
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Exactly. I want to have some time with myself and be with other people besides him.
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
6 Oct 10
I have no problem dating someone from work. Its not an issue for me since I have tried that before.
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
13 May 12
I'm glad to hear that it works out for some people!
• United States
5 Oct 10
i don't think i would it will lead to bad things if we break up. so better safe than sorry
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
13 May 12
So,You're thinking the idea is ok,but wouldn't do it just in case something would go wrong with the relationship?
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
5 Oct 10
i actually wrote an article on this very thing. i think dating co-workers is not a good idea because a) you will be the topic of gossip and b) what if your relationship goes south? then you still have to see the person each day.
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
6 Oct 10
I'd managed to forget about gossip in the workplace,and the effect it could have on a couple having a relationship in the midst of their colleagues..
@puccagirl (7316)
• Israel
5 Oct 10
To be honest, I think it is a bad idea for most people, because it can lead to all kinds of messy situations, but if you are really crazy about the other person, it might be worth taking a chance. But it does not work in most cases, I would say.
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
5 Oct 10
I know there are couples that are partners in a business that can keep it together,but when things go wrong,it can go very wrong.. I'm not sure myself as to how well it would work as employees side by side all day...maybe if there was breathing space,say they were in different departments of a large company..
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
5 Oct 10
I have to be professional and watch out myself at work, due to evaluation of work performance. I would also like to date my co - worker who is also attractive to me. I won't mind both relationship existed in my life. To honest, there is a female co - worker I really want to date.
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
5 Oct 10
That's what can make the thing difficult..having someone close enough to want to reach out to,but feeling restrained by the rules and conventional restrictions of the workplace...good luck with your decision there!
• United States
5 Oct 10
It depends on mature you are. You should be able to date and work with a person. When you're at work you have a job to do. And what you do after work is what you do after work. I could date someone I work with.
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
5 Oct 10
I've seen both sides of that coin,those who can handle the situation,and those who can't...
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
I wouldn't mind dating a co-worker as long as she's in a different department. That way she won't get in my way when it comes to work.
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
5 Oct 10
Yep..I think you need to keep some personal space in a relationship,and that's not going to happen if you're working alongside them too..as you say,it might work better if the organisation was large enough to separate you!