can you talk to the those about to die?

@savypat (20247)
United States
October 7, 2010 3:26pm CST
I was with a book club and this subject came up. There were some very interesting answers. First I can't do this all I do is cry. But then a nurse and a physical therapist, both of whom had worked with the dying said that for them it was a great privilege to be with people in their last days and hours. There were 6 of us at this meeting and each of us found this very interesting. The two women who had worked with many dying told us many stories and for me at least I felt that I might be able to change my point of view and be of benefit next time I have to face this. How do you feel about it? Have you ever been there at such a time?
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• United States
7 Oct 10
I can't do it. I just can't. My voice starts shaking, and I'll eventually start to cry. It's not easy, especially if the person in question is a loved one.
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@kingparker (9698)
• United States
7 Oct 10
No, I never had such experience with my life time though. Is it scary, or pretty interesting to you? For me, it might be a scary moment. A person about to leave this world, and you have to be on side with him or her. Besides my parents, I don't think I would be brave to do that.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
11 Oct 10
Nearly four years ago our entire family was at the hospital with my grandmother when she was at the end of her days. It was very difficult for me because just a week before she had been a vibrant 86-year-old woman who was anxiously awaiting the birth of her second great-grandson. Then, exactly a week after Paul was born she passed away. We did all cry, but I also felt a certain peace because of the fact that I knew she wasn't suffering with her life anymore.
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
13 Oct 10
the fact that all of you got to see her must have been some comfort to all of you.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
9 Oct 10
I wouldn't mind being with someone in their last hours. I worked in a nursing home for a time and was with people that were dying. I especially wanted to be with those that had no family there. I felt like I would want someone to be with me..even if it were a comforting stranger. I might have something that I want to say and sometimes just having someone to hear is important. It's also a comfort to see how at peace that most people are with the fact that they are going.
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
10 Oct 10
Thank you.
8 Oct 10
yes, i do understand your feelings... it really isn't an easy thing to do. when i was younger i confess i did the avoid the issue thing, however as i've got older and found that only dealing in the here and now is by far the best way, it's different. i have lost several friends over the last couple years, a couple were sudden with no clue, but several were facing up to the inevitable.they only wanted to speak about the reality of the situation. voice their own concerns - and sorrows. it takes a lot out of you, but when you speak with honesty, and as normally as possible, it does help. however tough you find it, as a friend you must be there hun, face it along with them and their family. normality is a huge part of coping. most people with severe health problems do think of the effects on their family and friends rather than themselves, so least i feel i can do is meet them head on. hope this helps hun x
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
10 Oct 10
I am sure you are a great help when this situation arrises. Many Blessings to you.
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
its a very serious matter.If given a chance I will gladly do it but I hope I will not blow and spill the chance given to me just because my heart is overflowing with pity.
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
8 Oct 10
Just because you have thought of this, you will be ready to face it when needed. Blessings
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
8 Oct 10
I have never experienced this either, but I think I wouldn't know what to say. I would probably just sit there and hold their hands... maybe let them teach me their last lesson.
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• Philippines
8 Oct 10
I am a nurse by profession and when I was still a student, I've seen cases of patients dying. Luckily, they weren't my patients. I can't seem to talk to patients who are dying especially to their loved ones. I just don't think I can handle it yet.
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@bardgirl (364)
• United States
7 Oct 10
I really have no idea how people manage to do it since I couldn't do it. I'd be crying but there are people that can run into burning buildings while for most of us we run out. It's awesome that there are people that can do this but we just aren't all cut out for that kind of thing.
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@dawnald (84133)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Oct 10
No I haven't, and I have no idea how it will affect me or how I will deal with it.