Would you rather share your room or you want it for your privacy only?

@SimpleBB (1329)
Philippines
October 8, 2010 10:08am CST
I've been in a considered big family and we're not that wealthy. We used to sleep together in usually only one room. We never experienced to have our owned house. Since my adolescence stage, of course I got envy to my friends having their own room to hang out. They can have own place for their personal things and privacy as well. But when we discuss about this, they consider me lucky for I always slept with my family as in together in one place. When I come to think of it, isn't it really someone can have contentment of what they have? I, want to have my own place and be separated from other family member, while them who have the thing I want, wants to be in my place. If you we're given a chance to have a separate room, would you rather want to share it or just for your privacy only?
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33 responses
• Canada
9 Oct 10
As soon as i saw this post i read the title and i seemed like a fun post to comment on. i deffintley like my own space and my own room. Fortunatley i had my own room growing up as a kid, except for 1 or 2 years tops i had to share one with my sister. but from about ages 9 and on i had my own room and i loved it. bring my friends over relax. i remember desicivley ditching homework just to go in my room and play video games instead. grade shcool doesnt matter anyway lol it was well worth it. i dont think i would ever want to share a room now with someone if i had to. as you get older or me atleast you seem to want your own space. do your own thing.
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@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Hi diablo2life, Well, being kids is still fun to share some things with our playmates but yes, as we grow older, have expanded experiences and more things want to be done in our private moments, makes us want more just like having our own place and it's normal. Happy mylotting & thanks for sharing your views on this.
@iwinagain (545)
9 Oct 10
Well, sometimes it's great to share a room with someone special, someone you get along with really well and have common interests with so that you don't feel alone and you can chat with. But then other times I feel like I want to be alone in the room because I want my privacy and quiet time. So really there are disadvantages and advantages sharing a room with someone and having your own room. I don't mind sharing a room with someone as long as I get along with them very well and they are not annoying or disgusting. Just like a married couple shares their room.
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@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
You're really always a winner, of course, we need to share a room with our partner when we're married otherwise we will be left alone and really would be in our private moments. Well, we can share our place with someone knew very well and who do respect our privacy as well. Probably if we need really to be alone, we can locked it anyway and for sure they will understand it. Happy mylotting and thanks for the nice words.
@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Hi there! Isn't it funny when you want something that you don't have and you learn that other people would want to be in the place that you are in? Same as you, I would definitely want to have my own place where I can keep my personal things and just place them anywhere I want them to be. I don't mind sharing if there is really the need to do so but I would really want to have my own place. I guess I have no choice in sharing a room when I get married and I would share a room with my husband.
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@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Hi athinapie, Nice attitude, we really want sharing actually for we don't want to be tagged as selfish and if someone in need..why can't we share it, right? But of course, we are aware that there are times that we want to be respected even our stuff, so we do really need a space we can call our own if possible. I just wish we could avail it to enjoy our privacy and freedom. Well of course, it can be done without being selfish. Have a nice day and thanks for your shared thoughts on this post. Happy mylotting.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
hello Simple, Well,yes i can say that,it's about contentment. My kids had their own room (i had 3 kids) But you know what?...my daughter and my youngest son sleeps in my room My daughter is 16 and my youngest son is 12. I liked it too,becoz i know time will come that,they will be having their own family someday and,moment this is so precious to cherished forever. Enjoy being together with your family...it's not forever that you will be staying together. Someday,you will be having each own family...and i am sure you will miss that moment. Have a good day always
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
thanks for the br mark Simple... Have a great weekend
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Hello Jaiho Thanks for these comforting words. I am contented with what I have now in my life. Yes of course, being with family would not last forever, it probably just happen to wish for a space which I could call my own, since this is my dream and never had experience it. Actually I know some families that even they had a big house and have room for each member, they still want to stay together in one place..and that makes me smile. Thanks for your shared experience and thoughts on this post,these are well appreciated. May you also have a nice day always.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Its my pleasure Jaiho to learn from others. have a nice weekend too.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
8 Oct 10
I would prefer to have my own separate room where I can keep all my privacy stuff such as diary from other family members. But just like you, my family also have the same situation and we don't have a big house. Of course they all can have their own room at the moment because some of us are leaving far from home. But whenever I go back to my family, we will have to share rooms and I have to keep all my things inside my bag. It's so difficult when you need this and need that you know
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@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Hi kodukodu, Looks like we're riding on the same boat, but yes, there are times we do really need privacy for our private stuff, but if it's not menat to have that, we can do nothing but just to be very organize with our personal stuff. Thanks for sharing. Happy mylotting.
@harry89 (2330)
• India
8 Oct 10
Well, its not a bad thing to live with your family, it's nice to share things, it gives you some sort of happiness. But on the other side you also need some private moments but nothing comes before family. Family first always.
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@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Thanks harry, It's always a wonderful feeling to share things especially with our loveones, which happened to be always priorities. But somehow, there are times that when we feel like being alone, that's what we can't share with them, but just like the saying goes, it is always a family who could understand us whatever comes our way.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
9 Oct 10
Hi. SimpleBB. I would rather have my own room for privacy only. I don't want to share my room with anyone. When I was younger, I used to share the same room with my cousins. When I got older enough, I was given my own personal room to sleep in. I would rather have my own room to sleep in, than to share it with someone else.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Well, sharing especially during childhood is fun, but as we grow old, lot of things changes, not only those concerns our personal belongings but even our mood and the way we view things. Having our own room is simply a part of changes just like valuing our privacy. Lucky you for having that privilege of havingyour own room, you will surely enjoy your privacy. Have a nice day and thanks for your shared thoughts on this post.
@liquorcs (194)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 10
I would like to have my own private room since privacy is essential to me. But since my family is not that wealthy to afford a room for each of the members, I have to share room my my sisters. I think it is not that bad since I can learn how to share and how to tolerate with them. Sometimes it can be annoying but sometimes it can be fun!
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Not all have given such privilege of having our own place to live in. But being with family and sharing things with them is definitely bad. Time will come that our dreams would be granted. For the meantime, just enjoy being with them for surely you will missed them too when that time came. Happy mylotting.
• Cebu, Philippines
9 Oct 10
To share a room with a family member is okay for as long as he/she knows how to keep it tidy. I am really O.C when it comes to rug, it should not be step on with your shoes and it should be your feet on it. Strange because it call rugs / dirty rugs but I dont want it to have dirt like soil or dust on it.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
There are some attitudes that we need to consider for wanting own stuff. It's not that is is bad, but sometimes it would be hard to abruptly adjust for someone. That comes the ultimate reason for us to wish we could have our own place. Happy mylotting.
@mareeh (266)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Before I sleep in my brother's room but as I got older my father won't allow me anymore. So I got used to sleeping in my own room and I liked it. I feel more comfortable that I don't share my room with anyone else because it's like you don't have to mind their things also being messed up cause sometimes you have a certain way of putting things.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
Hey mareeh, Being organized is common especially girls. And being kids, sharing things still looks fine, but as someone grow old, that when we realized that we want to do this and that on our own. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting.
@reetu3 (262)
• India
9 Oct 10
ya definetly i share my room....we are three sisters and before marriage we share room...we've one room for ourselves and we were happy with that....
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Thanks for posting your response. There's nothing wrong sharing our rooms with our siblings especially when we're really close and love each other. But for sure time will come that one among you will hope to have their own room. So just enjoy your moment being together. Happy mylotting.
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
i prefer having my own room. privacy is very important for me. it's not that i have big secrets but i just have stuffs that i don't want others to see like writing my personal letters to friends, mylotting, and others.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Well it's normal to keep your stuff in a safe place not for the reason that we want to keep it secret. We just want not to be distracted when we do something is also a common reason for wanting to have our own privacy, and it's just normal. Happy mylotting and thanks for your response to this post.
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
When we haven't move in to our new house. We are just like that too. We sleep in the same room but we are happy. My father will tell us stories and everything. It's a good thing because we are close to each other and we love each other. Now, we already have rooms but we don't own each room. I mean we are four plus my mother and father so we are all six. I share with my sister and the other too. We still have each other and it keeps our family intact to each other and love each as a happy family. *wink*
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
That's fine to share room or even other things especially to someone closed to you what even more to a family? Sharing room with a girl or with someone who you get along well was not a problem either, besides girls are usually have lot of things in common. And yes, you may enjoy being with your family for when the time comes that you need to be in your own, that you will miss them for sure. Thanks for dropping your lines and happy mylotting.
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
Thank you for agreeing on my comment. :) happy mylotting too. :)
@DertyJ (192)
• United States
9 Oct 10
Well, I used to live in a very small house and had to share a room with my brother. Other than having someone to talk to at night there were really no perks. No privacy or anything. Then when we moved into a bigger house and I got my own room I liked it a lot better. There was more privacy but if I did want to be with my family we had the living room and stuff like that for spending time together. It is very nice to be able to have your own privacy whenever you want.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
Well that the usual situation. Of course we do want to enjoy having time with our family, but it also important that when we need some time alone, there could be a place we can go to for our private moments. Lucky you to have the privilege of having your own space. Happy mylotting.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
9 Oct 10
I have experience both things.We are two siblings and one of cousin was living with us for few years.At that time we were not financially well so we shared one bedroom ..means we three kids.Most of the time it was good but sometime there were horrible clashes and I wished I had separate room. Now I do have separate room and I love it that way. Sharing can be fun if the person with whom you are sharing room is adjusting, understanding and basically nice person.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
We're not born selfish of course, but things changes and sometimes not all people understand that. But with people whom we have things in common and fun to get along with, it would not be a big problem. But certainly, having own room/space is great especially for grown ups. Thanks for commenting and happy mylotting.
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
I prefer having my own room.I value my privacy very much.also,I want to have the bed,the laptop,everything in the room to myself.I do not want to deal with somebody else's snoring.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Thanks for dropping your lines to this post. Actually, most of us really want to have our own stuff to be kept in a private place accessible just for us alone. And yes, it often disturb and make us annoy when we're with someone snoring. Happy mylotting.
@sjhaeki (795)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
I share a room with my sisters. there's 3 of us in the room. It's okay but i would like a room of my own or at least share it with just one sister. we're a big family too, 4 girls one boy and there's four rooms. so my brother is lucky to have a room of his own, our youngest is still young so she sleeps with our parents. however, time will come that she has to leave their room. I don't like my parents' joke of having four of us sleep in one room. Thinking about it, there's gonna be little space and more mess which I ended up cleaning up when I feel like it. I'd rather have just one person to share it with, since we're just a year apart, mess can be put to a minimum and it will only be my mess i'd be cleaning after, plus if i study there'd be no unnecessary disturbance.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
It is oftenly opted to have a room of our own. Of course for so many different reasons. And we as human, especially grown ups really lots of things to explore and which could not be shared with someone else for some valid reason. Just hope that we could have that privelege soon. Happy mylotting and thanks for posting your opinion, I appreciate it much.
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
For me, i would rather to have my own room than to share a room because i can separate my things and put it on my room...i can do what i want in my room.... i can put designs or styles in my room...
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
yes, having a private place can be our way of expressing who we are by the things that can be seen on it. I appreciate your time for responding on this topic. Happy mylotting.
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
no because i don't want to share my room to other people because their's a time that i want to be alone.i don't want somebody touches my things.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
That's our common reason for wanting a privacy..to have a place to hold of our own stuff as well as having private moments when we need it. Happy mylotting. Thanks for posting your opinion here.
@uchiha_L (37)
9 Oct 10
i love privacy and really prefer it to have a room of my own. I used to have my own room. But because i have a lot of collections like music instruments, and anime collections... i made my room into more of a recreation room and moved out to sleep at my sisters' room. When my sister got back from her old place i had no choice but to share the room with her. I don't really mind sharing rooms with a family member as long as my privacy remains respected.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Well that was the thing we value..respect. And sharing things even room is fine especially within the family. Thanks for sharing your views on this topic.