Is it normal if you don't have a best friend?

Philippines
October 9, 2010 1:36pm CST
I don't have one. I never had. Is that normal? I am the only person I know who doesn't have a best friend.
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17 responses
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
Really? I guess it's normal for you, maybe you just don't like the idea of having a best friend? You don't like to become too close to someone or you just want to keep all your thoughts/problems to yourself; you don't like to confide to other people or you're just afraid to become too attached to a person. Maybe someone had considered you to be their best friend but you just don't see them as such, can I ask you something? What is your definition of a best friend?
@tincabzh (174)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
i dont think so... not everyone has a best friend! i myself just find a best friend a few years ago like 2 years ago and im 23! im not outgoing type of person, somewhat anti social! so that is why i dont have any!
@Cherryd41 (1121)
• United States
11 Oct 10
Sure its normal not to have a best friend one can have many friends and no best some people pick their based friends based on history meaning how long they've known each other or what they may have been through together on the other hand you can have a lot of best friends its up to you theirs no set limit
@pokumon (647)
• United States
11 Oct 10
I don't think that's not normal. I think many people don't have best friends. I'm not really best friends with anyone besides maybe my sister. But I can't say that because there are still things I wouldn't tell her and I feel like if I had a best friend I wouldn't hide anything from her. Maybe we're just weird together though.
@sru2n9 (94)
• India
10 Oct 10
I don't think I too have a best friend. So I guess its ok.
@cyntay (1)
10 Oct 10
I've had a best friend for over 55 years, we've always respected each others secrets, shared so many ups and downs. I TREASURE HER. True friendships like this are rare. I've had many 'friends' over the years some who called me their best friend, but they faded into the wide blue yonder when I lost my hearing. My best friend stuck by me and found alternative ways to communicate with me. She has been with on my journey through life - that friendship was forged in the classroom many yeas ago. I'm not sure if it's normal or not. but i would suggest you get to know your friends well before confiding in them with your secrets. I also have some 'best online friends' a group of wonderful spiritual ladies who have for the past 15 years been with me through many trials. I personally believe that everyone needs friends. whether they are best or not. contact with other people is the normal order of things. I wish you luck, that you find a 'best' friend who you can trust.
@KiblyKat (188)
• Singapore
10 Oct 10
yes, its totally normal! i have never had one and i think best friends are the start of all the troubles- really. U trust each other too much and then when one person pisplaces his friend's trust and BAM, a hostility suddenly sparks off. this usually happens to close friends and ends up hostile to each other, maybe even enemies! its always safer to have friends, but never, never keep them too close
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
I don't think there is anything wrong with you.if it floats your boat,go for it.I don't believe in life standards that is set by other people.those so-called standards isn't applicable for everybody else.at the end of the day,you have no one to please but yourself.
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
I think its normal dear. But it`s better if you have a best friend right? Though you have a lot of friends, not all of them can be your close friend.. or you even cant tell your secrets and what`s inside if you. Its just like a partner, it will also come to your life in time. ^.^
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
I think it's normal. It's a good idea sometimes that you don't have a best friend because labeling a relationship sometimes has its pressure. I, example. LOL. This person considered me her best friend and she tells that to anyone whenever she introduces me. But I feel pressured because I don't consider her one. Bear with my being inconsiderate. But I haven't told her her that because I am afraid it will hurt her feelings. So, it's normal. At least you will not have to feel pressured like I do.
@elmiko (6640)
• United States
9 Oct 10
i think it can be normal. people are lucky to even have 1 or 2 best friends. i would say there is a problem if one doesn't have any friends though.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
9 Oct 10
This makes you a most intelligent person! Friends are ok, but best friends are a liability. When you designate some one as your "best friend" there is a terrible temptation to confide. These confessions can be a thorn in your side, as " best friends" are not always discreet. Also there is a tendency to share your problems by asking for advise, hoping for a lazy way out of total responsibility for your life. As a senior I have lots of friends, but never had a "best friend." I prefer to keep my secrets secret, and to make my personal decisions personally.
@petersum (4525)
• United States
9 Oct 10
No best friend for me. I had lots of friends. I couldn't and wouldn't single out just one to be my best friend. The one that was with me most of the time, what would normally be referred to as "best friend" by others, was actually quite unreliable and got me into trouble many times.
@fireant (26)
• Poland
9 Oct 10
Thats strange indeed. Most people have a best friend and it is natural to favor someone over the rest.
• United States
9 Oct 10
It depends. Are you asking normal for you or normal for us?
@foofermen (503)
9 Oct 10
No, I think it is smart and safe. The closer you get to someone the more unstable the relationship gets. Familiarity breeds contempt, absence makes the heart grow fonder, loose lips sink ships. Be a good person, and do good things. Take care of other good people. Plus, you don't want to offend any of your other friends by saying you value another person over them.
@douwie (84)
• United States
9 Oct 10
of course not! if you have alot of friends you all like thats totally not strange!