"Ah, we meet again."

Philippines
October 10, 2010 3:00am CST
In more or less three hours, I am going to attend my friend's party. She has invited me to come over, as well as an ex whom they didn't know I had a relationship with. I do not want them to know that since what we had is over and should be forgotten. Since last night, I was poring on what I would have to say to him when we meet again. I would want to act casual but he might not want to talk to me. What would you do if you see the one who dumped you but you still love him in a friend's party?
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9 responses
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
hi, lynlypiochy. if i am in that situation, I will definitely just play by ear. Like, I will not be snobbish, but i also will not be very open or too comfy with him. I will try to see how he reacts when he sees me. You can somehow know if a guy is still interested with you romantically or not. And personally, even though he may no longer is interested with me romantically, I can still see if he would still want to at least talk to me casually for old time's sake or... no way, he wont even give me a look. that kind of thing. my husband and i went through a rough thing before we married and we didn't see each other for a long time. Just like you, we were both invited to a common friend's wedding but everyone knows what happened between us. That day, someone pointed me to him and i just greeted him casually. that night, he started texting me and that's how what we have now started. I don't know how things will be for you today, but whatever happens, just be yourself and don't expect much. Things will unfold before you. And just remember that you are beautiful and there is always a new beginning when an ending comes. Or a continuation when things are paused, :)
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
Last night, I just had fun! I arrived before he did. When I heard that he was coming, I was trembling a bit. It has been a year since I last saw him. When he arrived, we just said hi. We only talked when it was a group conversation. Other than that, we had no conversation. It was fine though. We're going to meet again a week from now in another common friend's party. lol
@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
It's really difficult to act if you hide something especially when it has to do with emotion. Actually, I had experience the same, the only difference is I was the one who dumped him and soon realized that I should not. Since I know that time will come that we will cross our path again, I convinced myself that it's over. In your case, you must show him that you get over him, that you found better than him. Don't let him see in your eyes that you still care for him, show him that it's his lost and not yours instead. If you still can't better to avoid him for your own sake not to divulge to him your feelings. That would be better for you. Hope you can get over him soon and find your happiness with someone else. Have a nice day to you. Cheers.
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
It is difficult to hide emotions but I am the kind of person who has mastered this so well. This is what my ex told me when we were together. lol I didn't avoid him though. I guess it was more like he was avoiding that we talk. =D
@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
You must be a good actress then. That's how things should always be. There's always someone else thats deserves better. Congrats.
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
Nah, just with pretense. Not acting. lol We both deserve better, I think. ;)
• Portugal
24 Oct 10
you are saying that you still love him but he dumped you? or you dumped him? bcs i remember in a discussion you said that you dumped all your lovers right?^^ anyway if i went to a party and there was the guy that dumped me i wouldnt want to look to his face ahah sorry for my honesty but i wouldnt want to see him or memories culd come back and i would cry or be sad. maybe you shouldnt talk with him unless he says something to you^^ you hurt him before so let him be the first to say hi^^ its better that way^^
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
This is the secret case. I guess it was only me and him who knew about our relationship. We didn't tell anyone. And yes, it was he who dumped me because of what I did, but never mind that. I didn't talk to him besides the hi and hello we exchanged. Last night I dreamt about him and it was just weird.
• Portugal
26 Oct 10
ahah really? but why you kept secret of your love with him? ahah ohh i see that was him dumping you? i thought was you dumping him. but what did you do for him to dump you? anyway im happy that at least you said hi to each other^^ maybe you can be friends again ahah or be together again since you dreamt about him ahah what was the dream about? loving each other again? ahah
@anneish (117)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
just act naturally.,in the first place what you've had before is over and i know that both of you have moved on,maybe what you feel when you saw him was nothing,you just miss the presence of that person...and i think it is just normal because that person somehow been a part of your life. a simple hi is enough...and if he talk with you then have a conversation and that's all,nothing else follow...
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
That is exactly what I did. Everything was fine, it was all casual and small talk. I probably did miss him a lot and got sort of excited and nervous to seeing him for the first time in a long time.
@DertyJ (193)
• United States
11 Oct 10
Honestly if my girlfriend and I broke up and still loved and saw her at a party I would probably have to leave the party because I would probably be pretty depressed.
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
That may happen if the relationship ended just recently. However, what we had ended about a year ago so we could actually be at the same place. =D
@piya84 (2591)
• India
11 Oct 10
Hiii lyn I wont talk with him at all and i will act like if is some stranger though i love him.Sometime you have to hide you emotions for good and to not to create further mess.I bet he too dont want to open those old things and he will act casual and wont talk whith you much as well.Go there .Best luck.Dont worry much about it.
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
That's what he did. He acted casually and didn't talk to me as much. It's fine with me. =D
@kodukodu84 (1576)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 10
For me, I would just act like there's nothing going on, I'm already completely over with him and that I dunno him anymore. And then when you suddenly is being introduced to him, maybe just act cool and say, "hey, have I met you before? opps, sorry I thought I've seen someone look like you before", and continue talking to the other friends you know. Just make your face look so natural and that there's nothing you are worried about at least that is what I think but others may have a better idea. And then when you leave the party, just bid everyone including him a sweet goodbye then leave with a big smile on your face but never look at him back. Good luck and have a nice time at the party.
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
I did have a great time at the party. I didn't have to say "Hey have I met you before" but we just said "Hi".If I said that, it would just be too obvious. It was pretty casual. =D
@ocikca (110)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 10
just act naturally, dont let him know that you still love him. o ya.. you must dessup as pretty as posible so he will look at you and fell sorry coz he dump you. good luck
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
I didn't let him see that I was still in love with him. I was busy talking with my girl friends and he was busy talking with his guy friends. But when we did get face to face, we had casual talk.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 10
Be natural and try not to show that you are still in love with him. Try to socialize with others. I am sure he still feel something about you. When he sees you are enjoying yourself in others company he will want to approach you and try to rekindle the lost love. But don't make the first move. An eye contact as a form a greeting will jump start his heart. Wait for his next reaction. A phone call or sms might follow suit.
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
That's exactly what I did. I acted natural. When he greeted all of us, we took pictures but that was it. =D