what will you do?

@acey76 (1278)
Philippines
October 10, 2010 6:17am CST
What will you do if your daughter/son is having a child out of wedlock at 19yrs old....do you demand for his/her partner to be married...or not? what will you do to this situation...
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9 responses
• Bulgaria
10 Oct 10
I thing doesnt matter are thay married or not, at first i shall help for a child care. At 19 years thay are kids themself, so thay need some support.
• Germany
10 Oct 10
Well said DemonicEye. realy they need extra help. And i will let my child continue her studies by helping her in child care.
@acey76 (1278)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
I agree to both of you.......what they really need is suport and understanding...
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 10
It would be very difficult for me to face all this. Because in my country, this is a disgrace, and I would be very embarrassed. One way, of course have to get married. Because I do not want, my grandchild was born without a father.
@gdesjardin (1938)
• United States
11 Oct 10
I wouldn't demand any of my children to get married. If they are 19 years old, they are legally an adult, so I don't think you can demand them. I would be supportive of them in what decision they choose. I would try to help out as much as possible to help them out.
@bird123 (10342)
• United States
10 Oct 10
19 years old is an adult. I would allow them the freedom to make their own choice. Learning comes from the consequences of our choices. Love them but let them learn.
@maximax8 (27048)
10 Oct 10
If my daughter gets pregnant at 19 years old I will support her. I will baby sit so she can continue with her education. I wouldn't demand for her to marry her boyfriend. If one of my sons gets a girl pregnant when they are 19 years old I would make him to be decent father. I wouldn't ask him to marry his girlfriend. In todays world many teen girls get pregnant. I will try to ask my sons and daughter to use birth control if they get into a serious relationship.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
marriage would be an easy escape. Escape from gossip, escape from embarrassment but i don't think marriage is the long term solution. If the kids are studying then it's to their best interest to continue with their studies and not get married yet.
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
I think it's best to solicit the opinion of both parties. More than marriage, I think the kids need parental support. Having a child at the age of 19 is not going to be easy. Responsibility will come in early. My cousin in law got a girl pregnant at the age of 18 but decided not to get married since he wasn't ready yet. It is essential that both parties agree in order for a marriage to work out. More than the issue of marriage, I think the attention would be on the unborn baby.
@ocikca (110)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 10
19years are old enought to have a baby I suggest you to marri them becouse they have a responsibility of what they have done. its not alowed to kill an inocent baby (abortion)they have to learn that anything they do there are a consequence do they hafe to face it not run away from it
@picjim (3003)
• India
10 Oct 10
I'd like him/her to be married.But i feel they might not listen to our plea to be married.These sort of instances though unpleasant have been happening for quite some time now.What i'm worried is the youngsters have physically matured but have they matured emotionally and developed sufficient maturity to be parents and fulfill all the duties of a parent?