i hate my bf right now T_T

dont want let go :( - girl is holding guy much^^
Portugal
October 10, 2010 7:36am CST
hi guys^^ today i really am disappointed with my bf i waited to see if we could talk last night, bcs we have a long distance relationship, and we didnt talk at all yesterday and day before yesterday we talked only a bit bcs his sister lend her cellphone to him. anyway today i saw a message of him saying sorry that he has been busy but will talk with me in this coming few days. and nothing more! any sweet word nothing! i even yesterday put something sweet in his facebook wall and he said nothing sweet to me he even comment his friend pics why didnt say any sweet to me? im working hard here to earn enough money to go see him how can he dare to say only that little message? i really hate him right now :( im sick of understand that he has problems. im very understanding. and he does this! im too angry now :( dont you think he acted too stupid? :( im really disappointed
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
10 Oct 10
Hi Sweetloveforeve, I've read a few of your discussions on this boyfriend and to be honest, I think you can do better. I know he is out of work and has to help his family and all but he seriously can't be helping them 24/7. There just must be time in the day to take a minute or two to let you know that he is thinking of you. Now you say that he gets on facebook and takes the time to comment to others but not to you? I know it hurts but it will hurt a lot more if you spend all your money to go see him and then find he is not as into this relationship as you are.
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
thanks sid :( yes he is not 24/7 but he says that his sister, the one he doesnt get along well,use computer since 6 pm till all night you know :( he said he would buy a sim card to call me everyday and he didnt. i messaged him yesterday at 2 am bcs i was waiting him and working here at same time saying i was sad. bcs these days we almost dont have much time to talk you know sid? and he said sorry cath been lil busy we will talk in these coming few days i promise. im sick that he always promise things and then never do :( like the sim card i know he doesnt have money bcs doesnt work but he could ask his sister give me your cell a bit to tell cat that i love her. is only a minute im sure she wouldnt mind. this one is his sweet sister. for sure she would lend him a minute. but maybe you are right. maybe is only me that is trying so hard to make things work :( he said baby use money for you. dont come for me i go for you. but when? before he said was soon and then said in two years. if he loved me really he would message me everyday even busy and wouldnt stop to look for a job to come see me. but is always me caring :(
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
yes meluan :( i do everything for him. he waited for me more than a year. so i thought he really would dedicate himself to love me. but he is always very busy. and i think that if we love someone really even if we are busy we always have even 5 minutes of our day to send a little message saying i love you or i miss you. but it seems he doesnt have that time. he sent a message yesterday but without any sweet word :(
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
11 Oct 10
I am really sorry you are going through this, Sweetlove. Two years is a very long time to make a long distance relationship work and especially if he isn't going to make any effort to keep it alive. Now when you say you are saving to go to him, do you mean just for a visit or to live? If it is to live, I think you should seriously think twice about that. And is he even looking for work? I know work is hard to come by these days but there are jobs out there.
@swissheart (6274)
• Romania
10 Oct 10
hey sweet...maybe he has been busy...try to uynderstand him if you want your relationship to work. think about it like this...if you talk 24/7 one of you at least will get bored, you won't have a subject of discussion...so this way if you don't talk for a few days you'll have many things to talk about later. you said you're sure he loves you, so you wont have any reason to worry about it:).huggs girl
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
yes he has been busy :( but im always so understanding to him :( he didnt even say i love you :( i sent him a very cute message in his wall and he didnt even answer it :( i feel very disappointed with him. i really thought i would be so happy with him. i never imagined it would be like this :( he should care more if loved me so much as he says. at least he should had say sorry cath, i love you and i miss you so much. then i wouldnt be angry. but neither that he did :( hugs to you too ^^
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• Romania
10 Oct 10
I understand that you are mad, but try to understand him and talk about with problem with him when you get the chance. it will be ok don't worry to much about it;)
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
swissheart i always understood him^^ but i dont see why he doesnt understand that say he loves me just took a second of his time. why didnt add in that message i love you and i miss you so much? i guess he could had done that. anyway for now till he says sorry and proves that he loves me really i wont send him any more messages. i sent messages answering his stupid one. but when he answers me i wont answer back. i will see if he continues saying something. or if he just doesnt care and dont say nothing also. and if he say nothing also i break up. im a very decided person and i wont take to have a careless bf at all.
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• Philippines
10 Oct 10
Don't frown dear. If he's doing it to you often times,this maybe the right time to talk sincerely with him regarding the problem. Open it up with him instead of just being mad and keeping it to yourself. Remember to be calm at all times. I know how hard it is to be in a long distance love affair,but if both parties share their responsibilities to make the relationship work,it will surpass all troubles. Communicate with him regarding your disappointment. It must not always you who understand. A true commitment is fair at all times.
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
thanks sweetie^^ yes i answered his careless message and i said exactly how i feel. im very honest and i dont care if he will be sad. he hurt me much with his careless attitude. i understand if he is busy but what i dont understand is why he didnt say he loves me? these days we almost dont talk. is it too hard for him to say he loves me? he put a video in facebook and commented his friend pics so im sure he could had say he loves me. i dont want a careless bf. so if he doesnt change his attitude even it hurts me i will break up. i cried already today bcs his stupid message. and i wont tolerate it again. i dont deserve what he is doing.
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• Philippines
10 Oct 10
At least you know what to do with the inconsiderate attitude of your boyfriend. Don't waste your time with a man like him. You always have to be firm with your decisions. Expressing love often times especially in long distance love affair is very important to make the love lasts. It's not only you needs who to exert effort to make the love work despite the distance.Be a tough woman, think rationally. Sometimes we have to set aside our emotions before we lose ourselves.
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
you are right^^ cant be always me doing everything to make it work. i know that he is not the kind of guy that says i love you so much in front of everyone so when he doesnt answer my messages in his wall i be ok and dont get angry. also when we didnt talk much these few days i just said i am sad. is normal i be sad if he almost doesnt have time for me. but today the message he sent. he could had say i love you and i miss you much and i wouldnt be angry. but he didnt. he just promised we would talk in coming few days. but neither a sweet word he said. so i will wait for his message. and i wont answer it. for few days i wont say nothing to him to see if he really cares or not. if he doesnt do nothing i will leave him even if i will cry so much
@roxxtime (299)
• United States
10 Oct 10
I am so sorry to say or suggest this, but you may want to read a book called: "He's just not that into you." And I'm not saying he isn't into you but maybe try pulling away from him and just neglect him a little and see if he comes to you. If he doesn't come to you than unfortunately he may not be into you anymore. And playing games is ridiculous but unfortunately it's sometimes necessary to gage someone's feelings when they are not showing them correctly. So try pulling away, not calling him, not talking to him on facebook; just for a few days to see if he misses you. You have every right to be hurt and angry but just make sure it's worth it.
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
rox thanks so much for your advise^^ thats exactly what i will do. for few days i wont message him^^ you gave me a great idea. yes i said to him if you love me is time now to show it. i said that to him. and you are right if he doesnt say nothing to me is bcs doesnt care. thanks so much your comment was really a big help^^ about he loves me i trusted that he really loved me. but now i dont know why he is talking like im not even his gf :(
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@roxxtime (299)
• United States
10 Oct 10
I don't think he doesn't love or care about you he most likely still does but may not be feeling like being in a relationship right now and doesn't want to hurt you and let you know that. Obviously he's too dumb to see that ignoring you hurts more than whatever the truth may be. Men!
• Portugal
11 Oct 10
i think i will let him go :( today i talked with his sister and she said he came now home from visit his cousin. so he had time to say something. he could had even say to his sister say to cat that i love her or something and he didnt. im tired of fight and receive nothing these days :( i better leave him :( even i will cry and be so hurt but if continue like this i be more hurt :(
• United States
10 Oct 10
maybe he was just too busy at the moment to write you the message you would have preferred to read. just wait it out for now until he talks to you later to bring it up. just let him explain before you get too mad. and if there is no explanation .. then thats when you get mad. [: hope everything works out for you and your bf!
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
but he had time to comment his friend pics and also to put a video there so for sure had time to write i love you. that takes seconds. thats why im so angry. is like for him is all ok if we dont talk for few days. his message was like to a stranger and not to his gf. im sick of understand him always. why doesnt he understand that i need a caring bf? is it too hard for guys understand that they need to be caring? im tired of always like guys like this. too tired :(
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• United States
10 Oct 10
i understand. .. im sorry he's being like that. /: you should just talk to him about it though.. but dont be angry when you talk to him ..he might get mad back and then it'll be even harder. so just wait a day or two and then see how things go. hopefully this helps a little bit! [: good luck!
• Portugal
11 Oct 10
chue :( i just talked with his sister by facebook :( she said he came from visit his cousin. so this means he had time to say something to me. also he could had say to his sister tell cat that i love her but he didnt :( i feel im fighting for nothing :( i really thought he would make me too happy. but these days he isnt caring almost nothing :( yesterday we didnt talk all day bcs he sent message at 3 am :( and today is being the same thing :( i guess i will have to break up :( there is no justification for what he is doing.
@shaggin (36340)
• United States
10 Oct 10
Well that is really nice of you to leave him sweet things on his facebook wall. If he had time to comment on his friends facebook statuses and he didnt even say thank you for what you wrote to him then maybe hes upset with you about something or maybe he thinks your getting to obsessive. I remember you were very worried about if you could trust him or not. Maybe he feels that you arent trusting him enough and he doesnt like that. Hopefully he will come around soon and show you more interest.
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
shaggin^^ no he isnt upset with me. i always understand him too much. but lately he almost doesnt have time to talk with me. so yesterday it was already 2 am and some minutes and i couldnt be more time awake. my mum wants me to sleep early bcs she knows i work all day in computer and also do things at home too. so today when i came to computer i saw his message in facebook saying sorry cath i been bit busy we will talk in these coming few days i promise. and nothing else. he didnt answer my wall message saying sweet words to him and he answered his friend and also comment pics of other friend and shared a video there. if he had time for that could also add to his message i love you but he didnt do that :( i really feel sad sometimes. i care so much. he used to care so much always wanting to be with me and now is like this :( i dont mind if he doesnt have much time i understand bcs he has to help his family but why doesnt he understand that i need his care also? im his gf and message he sent me is like im a stranger and not his gf.
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• Thailand
11 Oct 10
My bf facebook had many girls and he never comment me either... T_T so I stop comment him either.. He setup his status at Single.. I saw that .. I feel upset a bit but what I did is .. hehehe I setup my status at Single too :D He saw it but he just say oh yeah, I see... well what is meant?.. it is ok with him!.. I don't understand... -___-'
• Portugal
11 Oct 10
ahah luna you did right thing^^ he wanted to seem single and you had to put that you are committed? thats not fair at all. so you did right thing^^ dont change it till he changes his status^^ he didnt like it but is fair. if he plays single you should also be able to do the same thing^^ maybe a good way to know if he loves you or not is ask a friend of you that he doesnt know to ask if he has a gf or not^^ and see what he will answer.if he says he doesnt have is bcs doesnt worth you.
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
ohh.. sorry to hear that girl.. :( Just give more patience and understanding.. ok? Try to forgive him.. Hmm.. by the way, what`s the facebook of ur bf? i`ll forward your sentiments from here hahaha.. joke. just want you to smile. It will be ok dnt worry.. :)
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
thanks so muchy^^ yes i always understand him^^ but he doesnt understand me. other day i said i need care and he cared sure. bcs loves me so is not a sacrifice right? but today sent that message like im not even his gf. neither an i love you he said. that is too careless. i dont deserve that. i sent him a very cute message to his wall and he didnt even answer it. i feel too stupid sometimes you know :( sure i can give you his facebook^^ is not a problem with that^^ thanks for wanting to make me smile^^ you are very sweet^^
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• Philippines
10 Oct 10
heheheh... you`re very welcome. ^.^
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
im very happy that you answer my discussions^^ thanks so much for worry with me and my bf situation^^ i will do what rox advised me^^ she said for me dont say nothing more to see if he cares or not. so i sent him messages answering his careless one. but when he answers me back i wont say nothing. to see what he will do to prove me he loves me^^
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@piya84 (2591)
• India
10 Oct 10
ohh god.See long distance relationships can rarely work.They do but its rare.There is always greater chance of misunderstanding.You need to take this relationship to real world as fast as you can.
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
yes you are right. im trying hard to make this real. but he is jobless right now. and im working hard here to have enough money to go see him. but if he continues jobless for longer time i dont know how we can meet :( maybe next year we can im not sure yet. but i dont know what i should do right now :( i feel that im fighting so much and he isnt fighting so much as me
10 Oct 10
just forgive him yar. it may be due to his situations. adjust yourself then only you can have a pleseant life.
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
i know he is busy. but if he went to facebook he could had had in his message i love you to me. all girls need care from their bfs. is not need to tell them that. he had time to put a video there and also to comment his friend pics so he also had time to message me saying he loves me. im sick of being me understanding him. cant he understand me also?
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• India
10 Oct 10
Dont worry he might be busy or something... Just talk to him thru message or fb. I am sure he will reply with all the sweet words.. :)
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
he didnt. thats the problem. i said to him im sad and he messaged me saying sorry cath been bit busy will talk with you these coming few days. neither said he loved me neither nothing. i sent him a very sweet message in his facebook wall and he didnt even reply. im always understanding with him but if he had time to put a video and comment his friend pics also had time to write he loves me. just he didnt care to write that :(
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@kodukodu84 (1576)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 10
Hi Sweetie, Sorry to hear that you are not feeling happy today. You must be in a very bad mood at the moment and I can understand how it feels like especially when it is a long distance relationship. Since I never had such problem so far, I can't really give any advise this time but just to let you know that I'm willing to share the feeling with you. That is why I'm here commenting on your post Try to just ignore him for a while, and just do something fun...or keep earning money online, it is only gonna be good for you. We dunno for sure if he is really busy and it would have been nice too if he did reply your message on facebook since he was able to comment his friend picture. Take care
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
hi sweetie ^^ thanks for caring for me^^ yes im in a bad mood bcs of him. i sent him messages to his message box in facebook saying i was sad sure. and he just said sorry cath i been a bit busy will talk with you this coming few days. and nothing more he said. he knows i spend my day mostly earning money to go see him. would it be too hard to say i love you to me? i always understand his problems. always. im not even caring if he doesnt help me earning money bcs i want see him. and my message so sweet that i wrote in his wall he didnt even reply? makes me too sad really. also he put a video in facebook and commented his friend pics so for sure he had time to say he loves me. just he didnt care to do that. i will ignore him yes. i answered his stupid careless message but i wont say nothing more. and if he doesnt care either i break up. i dont want to be in a relationship where im the only one that is understanding. is too obvious that if we are in a relation we want attention. we dont need to ask for it. so for me is like this. i will ignore him all this week to see how he feels.
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@Karunvig (714)
• India
10 Oct 10
lol... see this anger of urs can be the break up of ur relation and u said u luv her 100% and giv ur 100% love is not so easy dear u hav to sacrifise a lot. U know mine is also long distance rlation and i hv nt had a word with her from 2 months... I dnt knw hw she is, not responding me in by any means but still there is a light of hope. Cool and do ur needul ie earn lot of money and go to see him thn see hw he reacts... at this poont of tym u making ny decision will hamper ur relation. Try to be calm and b understanding so tht it can work out.. :) All da very best
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• Portugal
10 Oct 10
yes i am angry. i am so sweet to him. im even working hard to go see him and he acts like this. always want me to understand that he has problems but i also have. and i always care for him. i know he is busy is ok but was it so hard to add in his message that he loves me and miss me and is sad bcs we dont have time to talk with each other? doesnt he know what means being a caring bf? bcs like this seems he doesnt know what that is. about you and your gf if she really loved you wouldnt be two monthes without say something. in true love we always need that person near. even if she was far she would message you at least. you shouldnt wait for someone that is not caring even for you :(
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@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
When i get to read your posts i really have a smile on my face..it's just that we have the same situation and we really have something in common well as what i have read from all your posts. I too get too irritated and angry when my bf does this to me. Well he actually have done this so many time already and you know what, i have to understand him. He is what he is, i love him for that. Try to be more patient and your bf will see that you are not worth all these things. He will regret it all in soon..
• Portugal
11 Oct 10
aw gaiza so sweet^^ that cheers me up^^ i also love that you answer my discussions too^^ sorry that your bf is like mine :( but my bf is like today he didnt come online and i saw his sister and i comment something that she had in her wall and she talked with me and asked me how i was and i said a bit sad and then she saw my comment in her wall about guys and she asked my brother? and i said that he made me sad but that i wouldnt leave him. but then we continued talking and she said that he was coming home now from visit his cousin. then i was here in mylot at same time answering advises that friends here were giving me and i saw that really was time to let go of my bf :( we have a long distance relationship, we cant date, we cant kiss, we cant hug. i always understood his problems, i always worried with him, i understood he was busy all these days but i cant keep understanding him just me. he has to understand me too. i need to feel he loves me. it doesnt cost any to take one minute and ask his sister to lend him her cell just to send one message saying i love you cat. im sure she wouldnt mind. also im sure he isnt all his morning busy that cant send a message saying i love you cat. so im sick of being so sweet and understanding and i always end up hurt :(
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
We are continents apart as well and we recently have this argument about him not loving me anymore. I don't know how to advice you on this, since every relationship has different ways to deal with problems and misunderstandings. What i can tell you is what we did to make our relationship be alive again.. I always test him to remind him about how much i love him. And tell him to go online at night on their time zone since we have a different time. I ask him to find time to talk to me and he does even if he doesn't have a computer, he really does take time to go online in skype using his phone. We would talk seriously and i would ask him why we keep on having fights and misunderstandings. He would respond even if he's a little sleepy already that's the good thing there. I always try to understand that we have different time zones and that he has to sleep early because he has work and his work is really hard that one would really get exhausted after. Try to ask your bf for just a small time to talk, maybe during his day off and clear things up with him. I just hope you two will not end up the relationship just because of a small misunderstanding that i think can still be talked and settled.
• Portugal
12 Oct 10
i told him i let him go in a message and i said his sister to tell him. i dont know if she told or not. i just know i really love him and didnt want to lose him. but cant be just me fighting. if he said cat i didnt be online these days bcs i been working to go see you i would be happy and forgive. but i dont think he is doing that or his sister had tell me yesterday. so i dont know what to do. i cant call him bcs no money in my cell and also i think should be him trying to reach me bcs has been already some days :(
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
Ouch! Sorry to hear that, my friend. I am always commented in your discussion and all the good things you said to your bf I appreciate it. Now, I am amazed why that happen...as I read to your post I am really sad about it. Because in the last that we exchange ideas here. You said that you trust him and I also said that if he really loves you...he should say hi or even hello even if he is busy... Hope your doing okay, my friend...
• Portugal
12 Oct 10
im trying to be ok but i dont understand him :( i care and love so much and he acts so careless. i dont know how he can act so careless. he knows that i love him and im working here hard to go see him. how can he not care? i dont know. anyway i just wish that soon he says something. i feel helpless and dont understand why he doesnt talk :(
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Don't be lonely, my friend. That is an isolated case and don't expect so much from him so that you can't feel more pain in your heart... If he really loves you...he should care for you and consider how you love him so much... Hope that everything is doing well with you, my friend. I am also sad for that happen to you that there are men out there that never know how girls feeling in that occasions... Take care and have a great day!
• Portugal
13 Oct 10
i know already what happened :( he is in a big problem :( i dont know what to do now :( anyway if he really loved me he would had avoid that situation :( im so sad that what happened. why did he have to be in such a big trouble? anyway thanks for wish that i am fine^^ and i wish you be very happy^^ right now im with problems and i wish i be better soon :(
11 Oct 10
it seems he just doesn't want to be open with you. It looks like you are doing everything and him nothing. You say he is busy but he finds the time for his friends and to comment there yet not much time for you and doesn't leave any sweet messages. To me id feel that this relationship is going nowhere.
• Portugal
11 Oct 10
craig :( i let him go :( was only option. he isnt dedicating for our relationship. i really thought we would be so happy together :( but i guess that is impossible :( is only me trying hard and hard to make it work. he didnt send any sweet message :( and today didnt come online :( i really feel sad :( i feel so so stupid. i did all to make this work and..
11 Oct 10
don't feel sad or stupid, leave that to him, he is the one who has lost out on such an amazing woman, that is his loss, and for single honest guys like me, it is our gain. Sorry, but you are gorgeous. xx
• Portugal
12 Oct 10
craigy thanks for worry^^ yes i guess he lost a sweet girl that cared for him :( i know im nothing special really but at least im sweet and caring and i did all to understand him. but now has to be him understanding that i need love and care. or else why will we be together? is less than a month we are together and is already almost 3 days we dont talk. it doesnt make any sense :( thanks for say that im gorgeous^^ that cheers me up^^
@pecito (304)
• Bulgaria
10 Oct 10
Dear girl, Be happy that u have a bf after all. Coz women are 2/3 rds of the population of the world and men are only 1/3.If we eliminate gays from this list,boys available for dating become only 1/6 of the world population. Be happy u are not alone and stop searching for reasons to feel frustrated from male species,u r lucky to have somebody who cares about u. Remember women come from Venus,and men come from Mars;they don't like to express their feelings much but this doesn't mean they don't love us:)
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
ahah is true ^^ we dont have many guys to date actually^^ but is normal i feel this way. even if he doesnt show his feelings that that much he knows i need to feel he cares for me. we are very very far :( if i cant feel his love for me how am i suppose to fight for us to be together? sometimes i think im being so stupid always caring so much :(
@pecito (304)
• Bulgaria
11 Oct 10
Don't blame yourself for being a sensitive and emotional person.Be proud of who you are coz you seem to be a very loving and caring person.I hope your positive attitude to people will be rewarded in the best possible way.
• Portugal
11 Oct 10
thanks^^ you are so sweet. thanks for your words^^ i wish i was rewarded someday but i always have bad luck with boys :( anyway i decided to let go of my bf. i messaged him bcs these days he almost dont talk much with me :( so i will see what he will say. if he loves me he will ask me to dont leave him. he know how i love him. but cant be always me understanding him. he also has to understand me :(
@luna1980 (53)
• Thailand
10 Oct 10
I am too :( I feel some time guy really confuse us. My bf only call me one time day and ask me only how are you today, what have been up to.. and when I answer, he just said " ok, good, nice" and then take care bye... that's it.. :( Oh man!! I didn't call him because when I call he always " hey, i am busy. Can I call you back later" I feel like I couldn't have bf if he just ask me one time per day and spend time together a few hours for dinner per weeks... .. Well, I don't even know what he have been doing..he only said busy busy all the time and tired want to sleep soon on the phone.. some time I think he was with other girl.. but why he keep me like this.. to wait like this.. if want to brake up just tell then it will over. The guy like this and like your bf..I call selfish!!!
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
aw luna :( really everytime you call him he is always busy? and then he calls you and just ask a few things and bye? thats really too selfish :( sorry sweetie but maybe you should leave him. or tell him if you dont care more for me is all over. and see if he will do something^^ thats what i will do to my bf. i said if you love me is time to show it. i need proves and you also need proves luna that your bf really loves you^^ you should talk and say or you care more or is all over. and see what he does :) i wish he change his attitude and really start caring^^ the problem of us you know what is it sweetie? is that we always understand all about our bfs. so now is time for them to understand us. so say how you feel^^ dont be afraid. you have your feelings and the right to be hurt. so or he changes or break up. bcs you cant be happy like this. me also i will see what he does. but if he doesnt do nothing i will leave him.
• Thailand
11 Oct 10
yes, he always busy..makes me don't want to call him. Then jsut like I have to waitting for him to call every day... it is hurt, becasue some day he not call and I can't do nothing.... Well, I just knew him for 3 months..so I guess I have to give him time a bit other 3 months chance, if nothing change I will do like you suggest :) We will see :) if they really love and caring us they should do something, if not it meant they don't care so..just let's over, it is simple hurt but it is true.
• Portugal
11 Oct 10
luna sorry :( your bf is really selfish. if he doesnt call you sometimes you dont talk? so sad :( about me i just broke up with my bf. all these days he acted careless. i said i will leave facebook for awhile and now lets see what he will do :( if will fight to have me back, or if will accept and move on :( about me im too sad :( also you maybe should leave your bf to see if he would fight to have you back. this is a good way to know if our bf really loves us or not.
@katland05 (136)
• Guam
11 Oct 10
sweetloveforeve hi, hope your feeling better today... Sometimes men do not show to much affection to their partner, it's just how men are... Us women tend to be more open to affection or showing our love openly... Men don't like to show it, but then again he could be busy... But still he should have left you a message of loving you on your fb wall if he had the time to post to a friend in fb.... My husband & I, in the beginning of our relationship after 3 years he left to his brother in California... I would wait for his phone calls to chat with him, we would always end up crying because we missed each other so much. He wasn't shy with his feelings he would tell me he was missing me each day he would always end up writing letters & I would receive sometimes 4 letters every 2 weeks... I always find myself checking our mailbox for his letters & I will always send him mine too. I think u should wait for a week & then send him private message in his fb & tell him all that your feeling & ask him straight out if he still have feelings for you, if he still loves you or did the love change... You have to ask him because you don't want to just be waiting for him & he don't love you anymore... Long distance relationship is hard but you both have to have open communication, both have to contribute to corresponding & make the time even if it's just a couple of minutes... I hope you find the answers to your questions & take care of yourself first, love yourself first before you can share your love...
• Portugal
11 Oct 10
kat thanks for your worry^^ i said that i let him go :( i already cried today :( now i calmed down. im sad but what can i do? this happens to me all the time :( thats why i guess my tears cant appear now again :( i always have bad luck, guys say things and then i get hurt :( i thought i would be so happy with him, i was sure of it. but i guess i was wrong :( i know that we girls show feelings more but say i love you to our lover is not a sacrifice :( i decided to let him go and i said i will leave facebook and he wont see me anymore. i will wait to see if he says something. if he doesnt ask me back or something is bcs i mean nothing to him :( i just cant stand to be in a relationship with a careless guy anymore :( i wanted for the first time be me the one receiving the sweetness instead of be always me giving it :( your bf is very sweet^^ i see that even far he never forgot to care. thats a true love^^ im happy for you^^
• India
11 Oct 10
Hello sweetlove Please cool down, shed your anger first, i know you are upset now, well he might be busy other wise, so wait for some days, give him another chance, if you feel proper .. Thanks for sharing. Cheers. Professor. .
• Portugal
11 Oct 10
i already let him go :( i already understood he was busy but is almost a week that we cant have a proper conversation. i dont even know how many days it is :( i just feel so stupid. i feel like he doesnt care enough for me. maybe is not one week yet but is already some days that we just talk a little and sometimes dont even talk nothing :( i cant stand that :(
@aurel83 (102)
• United States
11 Oct 10
to me woman tend to be complex and man tend to be logical. there are times he can be so sweet and romantic to his partner but some time he can accidentally changing act as cool. i dont know, i cant say that your boyfriend acted stupid. he must have a reason why did he act like that and it you who need to find out. to me maybe your boyfriend really need a time to alone. do not think that he lost interest in you. it is just a matter of time. if i may suggest, just give him the time he wants and lets see what is going to happen..
• Portugal
11 Oct 10
i already said i let him go :( i just couldnt stand that situation anymore. he almost never these days talk with me. he said he promised that next few days we would talk but didnt even say when. and today didnt come online. his sister talked with me and he didnt even ask his sister to say tell cat i love her. nothing he said. so i will wait and see if he will ask me back :( if not then is bcs doesnt love me :(