You said " I promise" - but do you mean it?
October 10, 2010 10:58am CST
I'm sure there has been times in our lives when our best friends or family members told us something in confidence and holding on to our words by not saying to anybody. Or in any kind of situation that we said I promise but end up breaking it anyway. There have been times in my life that I have indeed confided to my best friends and well, they eventually told other people and hoping that I won't know it. Some things are just better off untold. Had that ever happen to any of you?
11 Oct 10
when i promise something i always do as i promise^^ for example if someone tells me a secret i keep it^^ i think that we must care that our friends told us that and dont spread it. about me a secret i told my sister about me having a bf and for her dont tell noone and she didnt tell till now^^ i trust that she wont say nothing bcs sometimes we tell things to each other and dont tell noone about it^^ if we promise we must keep our promise^^ and not just about secrets but if we say i promise i will do this we have to do or other person can be disappointed. like in lovers. this happens many times that one promises something and then doesnt do and other person be sad and disappointed. promises are to keep or better we not promise^^
11 Oct 10
Sometime I promise to a person either a friend or family. Sometimes I mean it and sometimes I didn't mean it. I have to acknowledge the truth that sometimes are made to be broken. Promises will depend on person who said it and the willingness to fulfill it. It is sometimes to good to be true when you cannot really fulfill your promises.
10 Oct 10
if someone tells me something in confidence it goes no further. I am a woman of my word, and if I didn't hold my word it would be worth nothing. my word, my oath, all matter. the only thing that would make me break someones confidence would be if someone was put in danger by me not letting on.
10 Oct 10
yes, it's really normal. if you really don't want others to know about something it's better keep the words untold or talk to someone who are not related. we are human for sure we can't really expect someone can keep something forever. when you tell you friend 'please don't tell others that what i have told you...',perhaps your friend will use the some sentences when they start telling others too. i will only tell my friends something that are not so serious..but keep the secret for someone who are not related, perhaps other group of friends to share something deep inside me.
10 Oct 10
That has been my experience also.I have also broken my word of confidence and I was also exposed by my friends when I confided with them, Why so?Sometimes it is innocence and sometimes it is intentional.It all depends upon the person in whom we confided.Some believe in innocence act and others say it is intentional.When I recollect I did the mistake innocently with out any bad intention.When my friends did I excused them on the ground of innocence.Now my experience tells me better not to confide and then regret later.Now I am very secretive and I don't tell people anything which I consider as confidential...