Students and Education now a days !!!

@Jotomy (6352)
India
October 12, 2010 2:43am CST
It is very essential that teenagers and college students have to control their minds in their student career to the best possible extent. Student life is youth life also. It is a common complaint of parents that their children do not hear what they say. It is a fact also. There are children (students) who donot like elders and their way of living or talk. If any one say good for them it will not taste to them. They intend to live independently. Many students involve in antisocial activities like naxals/terrorists (angry/rebellion) thinking that is social work and succumb to bad habits like smoking, alcohol etc., and now a days because of the internet many students are addicted to unwanted social sites (dating online etc.,) and online casino/games. Also they are thinking this is the time for enjoy in the college so they make as many friends as they like go to parties, films, girl/boy friends affairs and neglecting their studies, also want to enjoy everything before marriage. All these who suffer from dis-social personality disorder become antisocial activities and bring sorrow and disgrace to the parents and later themselves too (after realization). Students are not keen on their studies too. Many parents or loved ones have no peace of mind. Students are pillars of our future nation. Studies are their pillars for their own future. Now let us discuss about this matter seriously, how to protect them from all these evil things. Friends and members are welcome with their views/opinion on this discussion. Thanks in advance. God Bless you all.
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@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
Most definitely education is the most important thing. Its importance is invaluable. Parents always see it as something they could bequeath to their children. we just have to accept the fact the students are very different these days. Parents should not lose the interest in taking care if them. Parents must inculcate in the minds of the kids that value of education.
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@Jotomy (6352)
• India
15 Oct 10
Hi jules, True education is the pillar of their life. And that student life is a very crucial one too. Thanks for your sharing. Have a good day.
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• Malaysia
12 Oct 10
I totally agree with you. Parents should make time for their children so they won't feel negelected. Also, the school should take action about those students who are irresponsible. Many parents thinks that the school is their children's babysitters. They always send them to school or ask them to join any sport or talent activities in order to keep them busy. But the more they join, the more problem they might have. And parents who don't really care makes the child affraid to ask for their help. Parents should definately spend more time with thier children, communicate with them, help them, teach them. When I was younger, my mum always drive me to school, and during the 15 minutes car ride, she always tells me stories about her teenage days and I learn from her problems. Even 15 minutes a day can make a big difference.
@Jotomy (6352)
• India
15 Oct 10
Hi LeeRachel, Welcome to mylot. Yes parents should take care of their children and also have a watch on them what they are doing. Student life is good life and it is a turning point for the life too. If they take any wrong steps then they have suffer their whole life. That is why friends / parents should guide them properly. Thanks for your response. Have a good day.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
12 Oct 10
Hi Jotomy, That is what the state of education in India. I was thinking that here only such things happened. but It seems the world is a similar place. I do not know if this is right but the main factors for this are 1. Parental attention is weakening these days because both mom and dad are working and there is no one to take care of what the kid is doing. 2. Watching too much of Television especially the violence, family soaps do have a negative impact and 3. The mean politics at the schools/colleges. Unfortunately under the current scenario, there are no ways to curtail the 3 points above and this means that it is all upto the kid/student to realize what is best for him/her. We can only watch the results of our doings unfold in the future.
@Jotomy (6352)
• India
13 Oct 10
Hi thesids, this is what now a days happening in the education system. In colleges no one will guide them properly if guide also students will not care them. They always try to be independent thinking that they know every thing and they are adult. Students can watch TV play cricket or go to movies. But it is not like bunking the classes and go to movies. If they don't have classes then they can enjoy with the friends go movies and spend with the friends but it should not be habituated. Yes what you said is correct parental guidance should also be there. Thanks for your nice response. Have a good day.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
hello Jo, This is very true,sad truth about the pillar of the nation as our national hero says(in my country...The youth's are the hope of our nation!) I am also a mother of 3 young kids,aged 16,14 and 11. My eldest is now in her first year college majoring Mass Comm and i am proud to say that she is a scholar(full scholar) While my second son,is not interested in his studies,he is not going out with friends,but he stayed most of the time in front of the computer rather than studying. Of course,i talked this matter with him,but he also had good reason "would you let me use the computer or go out with friends mom?" (what would be your answer then? ugh!) I think,no matter how parents give advice and wants their kids to grow and be a good person,it is the kid/s prerogative what to choose then,no matter how we want to direct their path (the problem with technology)it would be useless. The young generation of today is more of easy life,fun,games and parties.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
hello Jo, Well,i am lenient when it comes to parenting. I am their friend rather of being a mother image. It is easier for me to dance with their music and sing to their tunes that way. I don't have trouble with my kids when it comes to their friends,my kids are not fond of going out. They just stays home and playing computer games...and that's my problem esp with my second son,he is addicted to it. The trouble with computer
@Jotomy (6352)
• India
27 Oct 10
yes jai we should be like friend to them and discuss with them and try to solve their problems if any. Kids may hesitate to tell their problems to their parents so whenever we get time just talk to them.
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
15 Nov 10
hii, for me personally, i think the reason why they're behaving like that these days is probably because they have a little bit too much freedom. of course it might not be the case for everyone but that is one of the reasons i think. as they are more free nowadays, they mature faster as well. they understand and grasp things faster than we used to. thus, of course their interest would divert away from the studies as they're learning new and interesting things with friends, online, etc. it also doesn't help that studying can get a bit tedious as well. but of course not all students are like that. there are those who are actually really serious and strive to do better. and moneyspinner said it really well too. we also can't blame the students solely. the family and the background also plays a part. it's hard to protect them from friends, internet and all as those may not necessarily bad of course. but we could maybe try and limit them while they're still young. maybe have a compromise or something. until they're of certain age, then they'll start thinking on their own but when that time comes, instead of being the parent, we could try being their friends too.
@Jotomy (6352)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi sminut13, very well said. Yes not all the students are like that some of the students are like that i too agree and yeah we just can't blame all the students because of one student. Thanks for your response. Have a good day/night.
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
19 Nov 10
thanks. soon, it'll be my turn to face all these problems, or rather, well, i'm facing them in a way but as children grow older, it's going to be tougher. good day to you too.
@pecito (304)
• Bulgaria
20 Oct 10
I would like to share my experience as a teacher.It seems that nowadays most of the students are interested in everything else but studying.Girls try to make impression on boys and in the my classes and all day at school the only thing they do is to put on make up in front of the mirror for hours.Boys on the other hand are getting more and more aggressive and rarely come into class at all:(
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@Jotomy (6352)
• India
20 Oct 10
Hi pecito, you are right. I too observed it. Of course vise verse boy or girl they try to impress others. It become common nowadays. Nice point you added. Thanks have a good day/night.
@Verocity (19)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I am responding to everybody as a whole on my insight on this. No matter what age, we are all students. A quick definition says "any person who studies, investigates, or examines thoughtfully." We are all learning constantly and the ones that know the most are usually the oldest. Why? Because they've lived life longer and have been through the situations most likely more than once. In response to these 'bad habits' it is not all entirely the "students" fault. Once upon a time a parent failed to tell their child about these things and the bad that is in them. Think about it this way, the children of today should be the MOST successful ever. Because IF each parent handed down to their children what not to do and told them what worked in numerous areas then the world would essentially be a better place. Now some are rebellious of course and learn the hard way about things. But there is truth in parents not teaching their children about what not to do.
@Jotomy (6352)
• India
15 Oct 10
Hi verocity, welcome to mylot. Yeah i too agree that we can't blame students alone. They should be properly guided and make help them to success in their studies. Thanks for your nice sharing. Have a wonderful day.
@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Oct 10
hi Jotomy yes those students waste money aNd time and must really worry their parents too. they are supposed to be learning so theycan get decent jobs and not have to sponge off mom and dad. It is hard to protect young students who think their parents old fuddy duddys and will not listen to them. Perhaps and older student who does care about his education might be able to reach these misbehaving younger students.They must learn that college is a place to g et an education not to fool around and waste time and money. You cannot really protect" them from e vil but you can lead them away from it to learning and that is what they are at college for in the first place.
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@Jotomy (6352)
• India
15 Oct 10
Hi Hatley, as like ever your response is so good. Yes we have to protect our young students. You are right. Most of the students feel they become adult and they do all unwanted things. Not all the students but some are there. Thanks for your sharing. Have a good day Hatley.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
13 Oct 10
I have an eight year old who will be nine soon and before I know it she will reach the teen stage and I am afraid of all the perils that she will encounter because I cannot hold her back and stunt her independence. I have a good close relationship with my child now and the only things I can do aside from teaching her right from wrong is to keep the communication open with the hope that she will still talk to me when she reaches puberty. The teen years are difficult at the best of times. All I can do is the very best I can…I will pick her up from anywhere, at any time, that’s one promise...
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@Jotomy (6352)
• India
15 Oct 10
Hi paula, yes paula, when the children are in teenage we should be cautious, we have to open with them, sit with them discuss with them ask them what they want and what they need. We have to be friendly with them. Even my parents were like that. Since ours is a joint family we are about 22 members in our family so they are our siblings and friends too, where are we go we all used to go. But i had much fun with my family members. But now i feel very lonely after my marriage. But those are really memorable one. It should be like that. Yeah you should take care of your children paula. You are good mother. Nice to hear all these from you. Children must understand the parents feelings. Thanks paula for your nice sharing. Have a good day/night.
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• Philippines
13 Oct 10
yeah students now are even harder. do you know why guys? it is because of some PARENTS that is BUSY to their WORKS and do NOT have enough time to teach their children since the the children are young. we all know that parents are the first teachers. educated parents is equal educated children.
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@Jotomy (6352)
• India
15 Oct 10
Hi JPQuisay, Now a days students have a tough time. they don't know what are doing. Yeah teachers/parents/friends should guide them in a proper way. If they hear then nice it is good for them. Thanks for your response. Have a good day.
@primeaque86 (8112)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
Parents should be always there for there children, that’s the only way we can solve this. They must be open to each other. Parents should do that. We all know that teenage life is a stage of curiosity, youths are great explorers! If they want this thing, they will try their best to have or try this thing at least. And they don’t know the consequences after it. The whole family must there to support. Have at least time for dinner, that’s the best time to talk about these things. Parents should set time for their children to open up topic like this, if the latter would understand such thing then their curiosity would end. We can see these poor young people nowadays suffer because of the lack of parental guidance. This is the truth, parenting is really important, so everyone must understand that is not easy to raise a child. Thank you and God bless.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
12 Oct 10
At least you understand that it's not easy to raise a child, Prime. As you will never know how that child will turn out once they hit the teenage stage, but it comes both ways. They come to an age where they know exactly what is wrong and right. No way around that, but they will always blame the parents or teacher. They want to be treated like adults, but they cannot take the punishment or the blame for it. Strange actually.
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• Philippines
12 Oct 10
But when both of the couple learns their responsibility towards there children then there would be no problem at all my B. This thing happen mostly in a broken family or single parents, but I would not day that single parents could not really raise their children well, as there are also single mothers or fathers who are successfully in molding their child to become what they wanted them to be.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
12 Oct 10
Normally both parents have to work, Prime. That worsen it most of the time. As for single parents, there is always a way to work around that. That is what families are for. But, i won't have that problem at all. I've made up my mind.
• Mumbai, India
12 Oct 10
Hello jotomy :). I agree that students should control their minds and try to move on towards right path. Yes its also common to hear parents saying that their children do not listen to them, Even my mother says this sometimes when I don't agree with her on certain topics. The world has been advancing fast where people want quick results and quick success. I agree with everything here and also that studies are important and neglecting them for these issues is surely a bad thing. I would like to differ on one account here, studies and intelligence does not guarantee that a person will also be civilised and cultural in life. That is alone and alone the responsibility of parents to teach those things to their children. Maturity and cultural behaviour is a virtue which is inborn in some and some develop it because their parents imbibe in them those qualities, others unfortunately lack that thinking ability and even their parents do not bother to teach them these things while bringing them up, they are released to do what they want, with how much money the want without knowing what they do, where they go and what friend circle they belong to. I feel it is only in the hands of parents to imbibe in their children the best samskaras and culture. They should be thought to respect women, behave properly, don't get involved in fights and naxal activities as these are not going to do any good to any society. They should be clearly taught the outcome that happens with those bad habits of smoking, alchohal etc. one of their parent should be like a best friend so that the child can freely talk with them regarding friends, attractions addictions and take their guidance. A parent who is able to spend lot of time with his child guiding him properly and keeping a light watch on his behaviour will have a very few chances of getting disappointed with their children, unless and untill destiny itself has choosen to give them bad children :). There is bound to be a bit of generation gap between two generations, but imbibing the basic culture and samskaras is the moral duty of parents if they want to develop their child in to a better human being. My parents paid better attention on teaching me cultural values and traditional values in addition to spiritual lessons. I Can proudly say that I did not get on any of the wrong sides mentioned above in the thread by jotomy except a very few which include smoking and a little disagreement with my parents on a few issues, Rest I always got the lure of all things but avoided them because of my conscience which did not allow me to do or indulge in those, and the credit for building such a clear and good conscience goes to my parents who imbibed in me those good samskaras and supported me in all my bad times and times of confusion.
• Mumbai, India
12 Oct 10
awwwww Good lord, I never thought this post would become so long, Sorry if anybody is unable to read. Sorry jotomy ;). Hope you bear with this long post :D.
@Jotomy (6352)
• India
15 Oct 10
Hi moneyspinner, superb, very nice to read all such you know. Thank you so much. You have very good analysis about this matter. Have a good day.
• Mumbai, India
15 Oct 10
hehehee thank you jotomy :), I wrote what I have observed all these years, parents support and bringing up helps a great deal :) you too have a wonderful time ahead :)