Friends over lovers?

Philippines
October 12, 2010 9:08am CST
I was at home watching a movie the other day and the story was about friendship and love troubles. It depicted two best friends who fell for one girl. If you were one of the guys, would you give up your best friend and fight for the one you love? Or would you rather lose the girl to have your best friend? I couldn't give an answer to my own question. I think if my best friend and I would fall for the same boy then, I will have to see what ensues. I cannot say at all. =D
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8 responses
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I think it's not worth giving up on friendship for someone you are not sure is the 'one' for you. I think if both of us fell in love with the same man, I would yield. I would just let go of the feeling and let her have him. However, if he shows effort that he wants me then he should learn to fight for me instead of us (girls) fighting over him. Not to mention that this is quite an ego for the guy - two women who are friends fighting over him while he's doing nothing to choose or prove that he loves either of us enough to do something about it.
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I beg to disagree! love is about taking risk
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@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Yeah, it does entail taking risks, but it should be calculated risks. Would you fight for every girl you and your friend are attracted to? That's absolutely nonsense. Soon you'll no longer have friends. You should know when to fight and when to let go.
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I think I would have to agree with laydee. She's got a point though. Men would love to have two girls fighting over him, but there are exceptions to it.
@mareeh (266)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
This is a very typical situation in movies but still, when you think of it as happening to you, it gets tough. Even if you say that never will I fight with my best friend over a guy, you never know what will happen. But personally, I think I would totally go for my friend instead. It's also because I never experienced a friend of mine liking the same guy. Maybe a crush but not the serious boyfriend type. When I see movies like this, it always never looked good best friends fighting over a guy.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
Though it is a typical plot in movies, it isn't that far from real life. I know these stuff happen a lot. I just really wouldn't know what to do unless I am on the spot. I have had 2 friends who were not in good terms since the guy dumped the other and chose the other.
@mareeh (266)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
Yikes. I hate when that happens. Why can't they just choose another guy. I don't like friends fighting because of a guy. I wouldn't know also what I would do but I certainly hope I never come to experience this.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
Yeah, I know. People would think that it's most difficult for the two parties but I guess it's hardest on the parties' common friends. Everything goes amok and awkward when it comes to gatherings. I was glad that they were already over it and are now friends once again. I hope that it wouldn't happen to me nor my friends. I don't want to be in a tight spot anymore.
• Portugal
13 Oct 10
about me i would fight for the guy^^ bcs if you let him to your best friend maybe he didnt love her. and you were losing a guy that maybe loved you for someone that he doesnt love :) but if he loved my best friend sure i would let him be with her^^ in love we must always try our chance but without hurt nobody and we cant be selfish^^ i would tell my best friend that i also love him and if he loves her that i give up but if he loves me i cant^^ some people say ohh i let for my best friend but if guy loves you? you lost the chance to be happy and he even cant be happy with your best friend bcs doesnt love her. so i would fight till know his feelings^^
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I know right? But we never really know what to do when we are the ones put in the spot. I mean, yeah, we might have an idea on what we would be doing but that wouldn't mean that we would do what we said we would. =D
• India
13 Oct 10
of course it is a critical situation to say..but my point is that i will take over the love , rather than friend. as a practical thinking i come to this decision. we can say by words all. but if we are in that point, love is first. also it depends upon the girl, . at first we want to clear that ' who is the lover of that girl??
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Is it really a unanimous decision that love would be first? It wouldn't apply to everybody so please let us not generalize.
@ip5217 (1656)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I think this question would apply to men. Being a woman, my stand on this is if the guy and I are in-love with each other then I'll of course pursue my love. I'm sure my friend will understand that. However, if I only like the guy and he doesn't like me anyway, I would not risk losing my friend because of a feeling that is not reciprocated in the first place.
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Oh that question was intended to be answered by both sexes. See? There is even a chance of you choosing your friends over lovers if the situation calls for it.
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Fight for the one you love -- in making decisions, use your heart first, if ever you fail or you got lost while using your heart, then use your brain to correct your mistakes. By using your heart, you erase the thoughts of what ifs. There's always joy in making mistakes.
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I don't think I'd agree with you on that one. I think people should use their heads first, but they should not forget to use their hearts when weighing things.
@pokumon (647)
• United States
12 Oct 10
Before if a friend of mine liked a guy I liked I would just forget about my crush and not mention it. Now I'm not so sure. It would depend on how much I like this guy and how much she liked him too. Whoever liked him more would win. I think it's kind of bad to go for the same guy, but sometimes it cannot be helped.
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I'm not talking about mere crushes. It's about choosing your friends over your boyfriends/girlfriends and vice versa.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
I hate choices in a dillema situation but I guess I would choose to fight for the one I love. No one can take away the fact that I have shared great moments with my bestfriend but thats it- it stops there although we are still friends for whatever reason our bond would always remain in me. BUT finding a true love goes beyond the borders of friendship it is a rare chance that anybody could grab.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
I hate having to choose between these two as well. And that's probably why I cannot decide which one I would choose. So I guess you believe that if you really are friends, you will still become friends yet again, even after a fall out?