Loving yourself first

October 12, 2010 11:45am CST
I know that human beings should learn to love themselves first for them to accept who they are and to be able to love others in return.But the question is, how can you tell if you're becoming selfish to the point that you love yourself more than others? I mean,i know we should love ourselves but how can you say that you're being too selfish? Could anyone expound on this..thanks.
6 responses
@maezee (33460)
• United States
14 Oct 10
I don't think it's selfish at all to love yourself. Some people say that if you can't love yourself, how can you love anyone else? And I think it's kind of true. It's not selfish at all. Of course, there are boundaries and limits to this.. I mean you can't love yourself TOO much or it's hubris, or being self-centered and conceited, but having pride in yourself and doing good for yourself is definitely a priority in my book!
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
Here is a principle of the bible, word of God - Love others like how you love yourself, that is the un-selfish love. If you love yourself you know how to live others in right way and manner.. Being selfish means you did not think the other care or situation only always yourself...
@annawen86 (547)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 10
i think the meaning of love ourselves is not like what you think. love ourselves means that we can accept our weakness, and feel comfortable with ourselves. so many people cant love themselves no matter what they are. they always try to be the other person. want to be beuatiful like those actress, want to be thin like supermodel, anyone like that, are the example of person who doesnt love their self. love your own self is not about being selfish. but how we can thank GOd of what God has give and comfortable with their self.
• India
12 Oct 10
Hi, Loving others must first start by loving yourself. But this elementary step isn't as simple as it sounds to be. When you love yourself without knowing yourself properly, you only turn into a violently selfish being. But when you first go through a self realization and then start loving yourself, then you'll definitely fall in love with human beings as a whole. You don't need to be wise to complicate everything that you see around you. But a wise man must have the capability to simplify things. Wisdom brings you that simplistic frame of mind. Thus wisdom and self realization is necessary along with a self-love. Once we achieve that, we eventually find out that all other human beings have the same sensations as we do. This empathy is necessary and is an essential step for philanthropy. Thanks. God bless you.
@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
12 Oct 10
I have a hard time taking time for myself. I always put everyone else ahead of myself. I have just started being "selfish" with my time. It is actually helping my marriage because i am less resentful, and less stressed out.
@katsmeow1213 (29044)
• United States
12 Oct 10
Good question, and that's true with most things in life. You don't want to be too greedy, but you do need to have ambition. You need to have pride and humility at the same time. You need to be generous, but not taken advantage of. It's hard to find a healthy balance for any of these things. However, I think you can love yourself and not become selfish. You can love yourself, but still put others before you, because you love them as well. If you love others you'll want to please them and make them happy.. and if they love you they won't take advantage of your giving nature. By giving to others and pleasing them, you'll love yourself even more!