Have you ever been disappointed?

October 12, 2010 11:56am CST
Love is a very huge feeling to have for someone. When you are in love, you give out your heart and never look back. I had wanted to know how my school mate felt when she was left standing alone in church on her wedding day. The only sound we all heard in church was a loud scream from my school mate and that was all, she collapsed and went into comma. Nobody new what actually was happening until I went to see her at the hospital the next day. Her mother narrated everything to me and went down on her knees with tears in her eyes to beg me help her search for the daughter's fiancee. I just couldn't hold my tears when I was told the guy eloped with another girl on their wedding day. How could he do that? How did she feel? How would you feel? Have you ever been disappointed? Your comments are warmly welcome.
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• India
12 Oct 10
Oh my God, thats really sad to know. That girl must have felt like hell, and I feel really bad about it. This is really sad, how can any body do that. I guess you must not be human to do this to a girl. I really hate that guy now. There cant be anything or any excuse he can give to justify his deeds. And why does her mother want to find him, if its for punishing him then its good, but I hope she must not be thinking of begging the guy to take her girl with him. He really dont deserve her now.
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13 Oct 10
The guy was not working when he met the girl, but the mother helped the guy with a huge money to start something. So now the mother has regretted ever helping that guy and now wants to punish him accordingly.
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@laydee (12812)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
I think he never really loved her in the first place. Perhaps he was just obliged to love her because of all the help the family has given him. It's sad that he could have exited gracefully if he really didn't love her.
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Yes. Sometime in my younger years Iwas madly inlove with a guy who my a childhood friend. I was so confident that he is trustworthy because I know him well since childhood. We had been contemplating on getting married since we had been lovers for a quite a time but he just surprised me one day when he married another woman. I was so dissapointed then.
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13 Oct 10
Sorry doray, but could you share with me the exact feeling you had the moment you heard the news about he getting married to another woman? thanks
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• Philippines
13 Oct 10
ayay.. a very sad story.. that man was totally crazy!? how could he do that in such a unforgettable wedding day?. for me when the guy did not ever come back to the girl. the girl would really have a help to her close friends, families and relatives. and i guess. she will really need a time to heal those sad memories.
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13 Oct 10
thats true, she really needs time to heal
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• Portugal
13 Oct 10
my god :( poor girl. i was disappointed but not like that. i always dream too much when have a bf. i always dream he will care too much, treat me like princess mostly^^ but it never happens :( but i cant imagine the pain that girl felt in her wedding day :( her bf was very mean really. if he didnt love her he should had say that instead of run away and let her alone there. i just wish she wakes up soon :( love can be disappointing but can be wonderful too and when we risk we never know :( sorry for her. i would feel too bad and broken if that ever happened to me :(
13 Oct 10
Thanks. She has passed through it fine and now studying medicine in one of our universities. But there is more to the story.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I don't think that it is possible to go through life without facing disappointment along the way. We can control every situation. We are going to get disappointed. it is a fact of life. All we can do is deal with it when it comes along. I know when i become disappointed, I bear the burden of feeling guilty that i could have prevented it. it may not be true,but you find a way to work through the disappointment.
13 Oct 10
Waoo, I really like your comment. Thanks for that
• United States
13 Oct 10
Love is one of the strongest emotions a human has. When we give of our heart, we give trust to our companion, we give back the same. When this is broken it can rip a hole in a person so deep. I am so sorry to hear that this woman was hurt to the point of going into a coma. I know how much it hurts though. It can bring you to your knees, bring such a pain into the heart that is very difficult to get through. Can shut a person down. For some it is very difficult to get past this. Trust is broken which makes it difficult to trust others. I hope this woman will be able to come through this. I pray for her.
13 Oct 10
Thanks. Yes she has passed through nicely...
• United States
13 Oct 10
That just nauseates me to know one person can be that cruel as to hurt someone else like that. I feel so bad for the girl. That's awful. God must have someone better for her, right?
13 Oct 10
Yeah thats true.
@laydee (12812)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
My heart just stopped when I read your discussion. I can't imagine how that must have felt like for you schoolmate. It was so harsh, so inhuman for someone to allow that girl to feel all excited in the engagement, planning, and preparation for the wedding only to be left on the altar because he decided that someone else was better than her. I am angry with the woman he was with too. How could she just allow him to do that to someone who is also a girl like her? If he can do that to someone, he can definitely leave her waiting on the altar! It's not just about the humiliation of being left at the altar for everyone to see. It takes a lot of emotion to feel that after all those years, you've finally found that someone who is brave enough to spend your lives together. The feeling that you're close to being the Mrs. of that someone you have given your heart to. The daydreaming of how great life would be, having kids - a real family with that special someone. Only to be left like that. It's so harsh. I wish he could have just told her that he has hesitations. I wish that he could just tell her in private that he loves someone else - that would have been enough to let her see why. I wish he just didn't propose or say something about plans or weddings. I could feel for her really. Though there wasn't any formal engagement or proposal, someone told me he wanted to marry me and planned to marry me in 2012. My heart was full of joy and I started planning out the perfect day. Even had thought of themes and such for the wedding. Only to realize after a few months that he also had plans with someone else. I felt so humiliated. Humiliated at myself for assuming such things, for being happy that he finally wanted to marry me. But at least I knew before I started reservations and the execution of the plan. I cannot imagine her feeling that day. The supposedly greatest day of her life, turned the most traumatic day indeed. How is she now? Have they ever talked or communicated after?
13 Oct 10
Hi Laydee, the story has quiet a sweet and bitter ending. My school mate's mother, that is the almost bride's mother used all her strength and finally arrested and detained the guy for 3 months because the guy was not able to pay back the money he collected from her. You cant believe what happened better when the guy was released.....
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• India
12 Oct 10
i have never got disappointed by my lover but if i get disappointed then i think it will hurt me a lot and it will be damn hard to get out of it but it depends on the situation also.
13 Oct 10
Thanks for your comment
@IoanaBI (494)
• Romania
12 Oct 10
Hello casnoking. Sad story.. I think indeed that after all the hate, angryness, dispair, the only thing that remains to you after such an experience is the bitter teaste of dissapointment and wonder. I can not imagine the magnitude of the effects this kind of behavior had on the almost bride, but i'm sure that it left a mark. I just hope that she will recover soon, and smile again, because after all, all the endings are also new beginings..sun allways rises the next morning!
13 Oct 10
Yeah thanks IonaBI, I just wish she heals quickly to start enjoying life again. Thanks again...
@hakuyo (201)
12 Oct 10
When i read that, i felt really dissapointed because there are so many guys like that. But that is something like happens in a movie. I mean there are guys who runs away from girls but how could he do that on his WEDDING DAY? Is he crazy or what? Maybe he actually meant to make her sad otherwise he is tottalyy and utterly crazy!
13 Oct 10
Yeah, that was exactly what I taught was wrong with him "CRAZY"
@MQLanaoC (51)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
if i love that that person,then no reason for me to be dissapointed..
@iamjesca (187)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
OMG!!That is really a sad story. I feel for you classmate. If i were the one who was left behind by that guy, I will seek revenge. He just so evil and mean. Why did he even bother to propose to that poor girl. I really hope that your classmate will get better. I will pray for her and hope that someday she will soon recover from all of this. I didnt feel disappointment, I felt anger. I hate that guy even if i dont know him. I hope karma gets him and the girl he eloped with. Marriage is not a joke. He proposed to that girl then he should stand for it. He is a weak type of person, submitting himself easily to temptation. And the girl he eloped with should know better. They will both carry the burden of this forever. He should feel guilty of this. Shame of him to do this. He should be condemned. I hope that your classmate will recover from all of this. She doesnt deserve any of this.
• Indonesia
13 Oct 10
im sorry to hear that your school mate story but for me if every people never disappointed they wont realize what they did,i ever get disappointed in relationship when i know that my bf are playing behind me,that's make me really confused and when that happened the only thing i want to know it's only the truth from my bf,and taraa what happened then,then when i called him 20 times r more i think he only said that he is talking with him uncle,that's makes me sad,and at least i broke up with him and now i know that when im in relationship just dont get really serious before we know what our gf/bf heart and im lucky that i know my bf didn't love me then i broke up,and i think your friend is lucky too because she know what the exboyfriend heart before they're getting married,i know what it's feel when in disappointed so just told your friend to keep moving forward and dont be really disappointed because there's so much way you can choose ,because life only once ,use it as well :)
• United States
13 Oct 10
who hasn't been disappointed. I put my all into everything I do so me getting disappointed is the norm. I never let that stop me nor interfere with me putting my all into whatever I'm doing