Jealous over celebrities?

Philippines
October 12, 2010 12:50pm CST
Hi everyone! I just wanna ask those of you who are in a relationship. Would you get jealous if your partner has crushes on celebrities? Sometimes, I can't help but feel jealous whenever my boyfriend crushes on celebrities. He says it's just him being a fan, and he has no feelings whatsoever for them but I get jealous anyway. I feel like maybe I'm not attractive enough for him, which is why he has to look at other girls XD We had an argument in the past because he would sometimes say that other girls are prettier than me, basically compare me to other girls, etc. He stopped doing this but him constantly looking up his celebrity crushes bothers me. Is this normal? :( Should I ask him to stop? I haven't asked him to stop at all cause I don't want him to feel like I'm being too controlling and possessive, but should I ask him to stop?
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
12 Oct 10
Hi Jet2rocks, I have never been jealous of a boyfriend mentioning that a certain celebrity is hot or beautiful or anything. I know that odds of them meeting and dating any of these people are next to nothing. None of them has ever come out and compared me to any of them either. That is just rude! None of them has ever been obsessive over it either like constantly looking them up and constantly making comments etc. It sounds as if your boyfriend is overdoing it a bit which is why you are probably feeling like that and the fact that he has in the past compared you to them. Do you think he is deliberately trying to make you jealous?
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I don't think he is trying to make me jealous, but he does tease me sometimes - like he would deliberately "fanboy" over a certain celebrity in front of me and wait for me to whack his head or something -_- sometimes though, he does it at the wrong time, when I'm really moody -_- so I get really sensitive. Yes I do think he is overdoing it a bit _
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
13 Oct 10
Ok so he knows how you feel. He knows it bothers you. The fact that he continues with it knowing that it upsets you makes him seem incredible insensitive and disrespectful. I would have to wonder why he does these things around you deliberatly and knowing how you feel.
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
He's kinda like that with everyone __
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
He told you that other girls are prettier than you?? Oooh...thats not good. Now I understand why you feel jealous that his crushing on celebrities. Its normal that his crushing on celebrities...like he said his just being a fan, and it is normal for you to be jealous, heck I would feel the same way. But if your not comfortable with him having a crush on celebrities then go ahead and talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel.
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
He said he just wants to be honest ___
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Well its true that there are other beautiful girls out there...I mean were not that vain to think that were the prettiest, right? But even though, he should make you feel special and not insecure like that. My boyfriend...now my husband...always makes me feel beautiful...not in a vain way...you know, its like in a loving way. And of course, I do know for a fact that I'm not the most beautiful girl out there. But the way he loves me makes me feel confident about myself.
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
I'm not confident enough to begin with - in fact, I've been insecure long before we met. I too know for a fact that I'm not the prettiest girl out there but it would really help if he made me feel special :( You're lucky your boyfriend makes you feel confident!
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I know the feeling. My partner used to tell me that too. He has this celebrity crush and he told me that he really liked her body and such, and I was obviously jealous to the point of blowing up. He would constantly laugh at my nonsense, but it somehow just made me feel insecure. He doesn't do that now. Perhaps he still had celebrity crushes or even admired other women, but he just stopped telling me about it to keep the peace. I think you should just tell him not to tell you anymore when he admires other women. Perhaps he's just teasing you into reacting that's why he keeps on telling you these things because you don't show any reaction. ehhehe.. But yeah, they're right. There's no way that your partner and that celebrity would ever meet or be together in the first place.
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I'm thinking of asking him to stop talking about his celebrity crushes with me but I don't want him to hide anything from me :( I want to keep being open with each other. We tell each other everything and I'm afraid that if he stops telling me that, soon enough he'll hide more and more things from me and I don't want him to do that :(
• Malaysia
13 Oct 10
It is only natural. Let them have their little joys. The real friend is you. Be by his or her side. Let him tell you about his crushes. Be there to love him or her. Start the flame of romance with no regrets or misgivings.
@IoanaBI (494)
• Romania
13 Oct 10
Hello Jet2r0cks! I do not get jealous because my BF has a crush on celebrities, and i think that to be jealouse because of this is a little .. silly.. He may admire some figures because of how they look, or other qualities (even if very rarely you see a guy falling for the first lady), but he is with me, and i do not think that being in the possition to choose, he will got for the poster! So relax, and remember that this is just a meaningless fase wich will pass!
• Portugal
13 Oct 10
well is normal that guys have crushes but sure is normal that you feel bothered bcs he always compared you to other girls before. what he should had never done at all. thats a disrespect to always say other girls are prettier than you anyway im happy that he stopped. also you can tell him that he shouldnt always look to other celebrities bcs he already have you and if is not happy with you that he should find other girl then. and see if he stop or not. if he loves you he will stop^^ for sure he wouldnt like if you started also to say ohh this guy is more handsome than you. anyway if he doesnt stop to act so stupid, you also start to say ohh this guy is cuter than you to see if he likes. he will feel the same that he makes you feel and you will see that he will stop^^
• India
13 Oct 10
Hi Jets You must realise that dream girls or boys are meant to remain in dreams only...reallife partners are realities of life. Having crush over celebrities is as natural as partners being jealous over it ...the loyalit of crush shifts swiftly from one celebrity to another more hot or trendy one.... I happen to be fan of julia roborts but now am head over heels for sakira...shifting loyalities of fans.But love remains there for life long...no need to b possessive...ur partner wont reach to stars. So Jets dont worry and dont be jealous...very natural things are happening to u......bye
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I would not feel jealous if my partner had a crush on a celebrity. We all like to have our fantasies. As long as we know in our hearts what is real, a crush on someone famous is not something to fear.
• India
13 Oct 10
Hi Jets You must realise that dream girls or boys are meant to remain in dreams only...reallife partners are realities of life.Having crush over celebrities is as natural as partners being jealous over it ...the loyalit of crush shifts swiftly from one celebrity to another more hot or trendy one.... I happen to be fan of julia roborts but now am head over heels for sakira...shifting loyalities of fans. So Jets dont worry and dont be jealous...very natural things are happening ato u......bye
@sapaki (54)
• India
13 Oct 10
I get jealous only if he keep crush with any other girl not with celebrities. We have to try to make their attention should come to us and we have to work lot for it.
@liza21 (180)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
No, I won't get jealous to celebrities. It's normal to idolized celebrities, attraction is different from love.
@mlhervas (482)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Being attracted to another human being is normal for us humans. It is fine to have a crush on someone else or admire them. But there has to be a limit to this attraction especially if you are already involved in a committed relationship. If he is just admiring them, then it is fine and harmless as long as he does not idolize them so much that he already has forgotten about you or his relationship with you.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I don't think that you're feeling jealous. It's just a mere insecurity. I hope you don't get offended but that's the way I understand it. Celebrities are human beings that are meant to be idolized or on the contrary, hated. I can't imagine myself being insecure or feeling jealous just because my partner is an avid fan of a certain celebrity. I, too, is a fan and I don't also want my partner to get jealous because celebrities were required to share their talents in order for them to gain fans and earn profit and fame.
@swissheart (6250)
• Romania
12 Oct 10
now...I'm way past that era. As long as he doesn;t exagerates ( I saw a news abut a girl who had all kind of sugery to look like jessica alba, because her boyfriend had a crush on her, and after that her boyrfiend left her) I don't mind. what's beautiful god likes it too
@puccagirl (7316)
• Israel
12 Oct 10
No, I would not care. I mean, it is not like he is ever going to meet him. And if he did... well, most celebrities don't go out with non-celebrities unless they are very, very rich. So I don't think I have anything to worry about!
@Karunvig (714)
• India
12 Oct 10
NO i dnt get jealous.. as we cant get stars but lik thm lot similarly everyone love celebrities bt everyone cant get them :P
@DertyJ (193)
• United States
12 Oct 10
I wouldn't get jealous if my girlfriend had a crush on celebrity because I do too. Plus, it is very unlikely that they would ever date anyway. If it was a crush on someone I knew and/or was friends with them I would be jealous because There is always a possibility of something happening. I trust my girlfriend anyway so nothing will happen with me and my girlfriend anyway.