my bf scared me so much and was all a stupid lie T_T

love lasts ^^ - boy and girl in love^^
Portugal
October 13, 2010 4:09pm CST
hi guys. like i said these days my bf was acting careless right? today i received a message of him saying he was in a deep sh*t, that yes was better i let him go bcs wouldnt see me for long bcs him and his friend would spend christmas in jail. also he said i was best thing that ever happened in his life, and that even we are far he didnt cheat me not even once. then even said for me dont cut my fingers bcs he knows im clumsy and when i worked in a cafe always cut my fingers by accident, and said to smile for him always. then i sent him message saying i will wait him, wont let him go and what happened. and then i knew all was lie bcs talked with his sister and she said to dont mind him bcs he went jail one night bcs was catch him and his friend riding a moto without helmet. and he even scared me like would be there for long time! even changed our relationship status to is complicated with my name there and in his wall wrote he would be in jail also. even his friends also commented. why did he joke like this? i was too scared, so worried i was, i cried today even and i dont understand his stupid joke. did he want break up and didnt say or is he doing this bcs i said i want let him go? and he wanted see what i would do in this situation if he went to jail? i think is second bcs he was after me more than a year for me to love him. so i dont think makes sense he leaves me now. what do you guys think? im too confused with his stupid attitude!and now im afraid he leaves me
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@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
14 Oct 10
Hi dear, How many times I have told that man are man. They have their own way of doing. You may be knowing him since last 1 year and before? Do you think one year is good enough to understand a person? No. Even I don't know the age of the guy. Never seen never talked, in short, I cannot make a guess about him. I think I have to told earlier also that live like a 50:50 ratio in life with all aspects in our life. May be it is love or any think in our life. Please think that nothing belong to ours and you should learn a lot of things from the nature. Relax and I always prefer to tell you that too much expectations would make us more respire in life. Whatever I tell you here now and earlier are my own life experience and my own thoughts only. First of all, you already adopted a highly risky challenge in your life. This is the modern world and things are getting changed on a daily basis. I am commenting all things in a very conservative manner here because, people are highly civilized but they act so barbaric in real life. I think since 2 or more months we are regular in touch and I know how deep you love your b/f. But it is from your side. The whole life is totally dedicated for him and the whole mind and life is fully cherished for him already. He is far away from you and you need to listen, what he is telling. I think it is too early to predict anything about him from such comments. Also, I think he is still serious and matured enough to ‘handle you with care and love. Just wait and you need to wait now and this is not a time to judge the things. If he is joking, it is good and if not, you should be observant and take things into seriously. But do you think he understand all your feelings. From every discussion topic, I could have read your mind, and if I take all these questions in a chain, I know what you are and how you made up your mind for him. If the other person is not realizing and he take it as simple and consider all just for a time pass, what about your dreams? I am telling you until you really get into a married life, please keep the relation with a 50:50 ratio to save your life and maintain your peace of mind. We both have a major geographical difference and the culture among us also is different. The thinking is from my point of you and based on my culture and civilization only. I think you all are more advanced and open in many cases. But come to life and feelings, all are same and the concept is SAME for all of us. If the figure got cut, the pain for you and me are the same. Likewise, I can really understand your mental condition and even though of you that why I didn't get new post from you, and what happened all of a sudden to you. If I keep such a relation, I can read you and as I thought, you come with the new issue, which I felt sorry of it. But, only one thing I tell you that relax and take everything so cool and I will comment you more on the coming discussion. Be bold and go ahead and keep in mind about the 50:50 ratio in life, which make your life more meaningful. Regards, Thank-s
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
in my opinion, she'll have a HELL of a life if she continue with this boy (not a man). boys are charmers, but lack the will to change or evolve from being what they are, and that is what a man does. this person doesn't./
• India
14 Oct 10
I think she is just jump into it and not moving in a proper way making her own way of exceptions with him. The reality and her dreams are not matching. If she already made up her mind, instead of going with a dreamy life, she should concern more about actual things what is happening around. And I think this is the time for her to think practically. Thanks for your comments. Hope something will get improved. Regards, Thank-s
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
well, you said it, not me. although i know that's what's happening in that situation.
@swissheart (6469)
• Romania
14 Oct 10
sweet maybe he wanted you to feel sorry for him or he didn't have the courage to tell you that he would like to break up with you :). I think you should move on. he doesn't deserve you, and it's simply a waste of time. think about the fact that he might actually have another relationship there. it's not a nice thing that he lied to you, knowing how much you care for him :). and the fact that he did it says many things about how much he really cares for you. so leave him and find somebody else posibly there, in portugal
• Portugal
14 Oct 10
swiss yesterday he came online and explained me what happened^^ he said would find load to his cell and called me already^^ he said sorry so so many times^^ and said he misses me too much^^ and that loves me^^ he called me im so happy^^ he has to pay a high bill and still called me^^ so im too happy^^ all is ok now^^ i just wish call him wasnt so expensive :( we talked only few minutes and lost all money in cell. should be cheaper :( i still miss him^^
• Romania
14 Oct 10
it's you decision only...but I still think you're taking to many risks.anyway I hope this works out well for you :)
• Portugal
14 Oct 10
yes he called me^^ and said sorry many many times^^ and said loves me^^ i know he loves me since long ago just these days he was acting so careless but i guess he saw i really love him and he shouldnt be so long without talk^^ i just wish he could call me everyday^^ would be too happy really^^ even happier i would be if his sister didnt use computer at night in pinas ahah so we could talk many hours^^
• India
14 Oct 10
Well I think it would be better if you asked about whats going on to your bf.Was he serious in his actions.Don't take decision in an hasty way unless he deserves it. Have a nice day and hope everything goes well for you!! :)
• Portugal
14 Oct 10
yes he already explained me everything^^ and is all ok now^^ he said he will find money to put load in his cell so we can talk^^ im too happy that he is caring for me again^^ he said been busy solving what happened. he is too sweet^^ all is ok now^^ im very happy now bcs he cared muchy for me^^ so sweet he is^^ i love him too muchy^^ so happy i am^^
• India
14 Oct 10
Very glad to hear that!! :)
• Portugal
14 Oct 10
thanks so muchy simon^^ he called me already so we solved everything^^ wish we can talk tomorrow also^^ i miss him already^^ i dont know why im so happy but i cant imagine myself without him now^^ i just want to go see him near^^ and be together always^^ i would be too happy if i could^^ if i had a job that paid better^^ but while that work here^^
@Rhazelle (356)
• Canada
15 Oct 10
I would suggest just asking him straight up what he was trying to do. Communication is important in a relationship :O
• Portugal
15 Oct 10
we talked already so all is fine now^^ yesterday we talked^^ but thanks anyway for your advise^^ right now im just a bit worried with something else. we are so far away and is true he called yesterday after few days of acting careless but today went online in facebook and neither one message he sent me. is those things that are important in our relationship and he skip sometimes
@shaggin (36845)
• United States
14 Oct 10
So I guess he really did think that he was going to be in jail for along time and that is why he said that? So then it really wasent a lie if he believed that was going to happen. I dont know I still think he is just playing you and thats sad since you are so in love with him.
• Portugal
14 Oct 10
he was caught by the police^^ but he doesnt go to jail^^ his sister explained me all yesterday and today he talked with me and said that he asked his sister to explain me things so i wouldnt be worried^^ he said he didnt lie. he has to pay a bill to police. he even called me^^ i was so happy when i saw his call^^ yes i love him so much i just want be with him so soon^^ need big money fast^^ like 2000 dollars ahah so still long way to go ahah^^
• India
14 Oct 10
A man likes playing jokes with his wife or his girlfriend. But this sort of a joke, I dont know what to say. Sound very different. Dont jump into hasty conclusions. If this is the first time he is folling you around , then you can tell him that you are not ok with these sort of things. Tell him seriously. He will defnitely understand if he is really means he loves you. But if keeps happening again and again I think you should rethink. Just my two cents
• Portugal
14 Oct 10
yes he said sorry^^ he explained how things really happened and said sorry so so many times^^ so i guess he really loves me too muchy^^ and i love him too^^ just want to work now and go see him^^ i felt so happy that he called me^^ really happy^^ now i know that he loves me and miss me and i will work so much to see him^^ i love him^^
@mlhervas (482)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
Hi Sweet, If your boyfriend really loves you that much then he should not do such things to you. Doing careless jokes which end up you crying is careless and stupid on his part. It just shows how irresponsible and immature he is. He does not deserve your love at all. I think it's better to leave him and see how he reacts to it. If he really loves you then he would do anything to change for you.
• Portugal
14 Oct 10
yes he called me today^^ he said would find load to call me and he did^^ he said sorry so many times^^ and said he misses me too much and loves me^^ he is too sweet and caring just these days he was a bit strange. but he called me and said sorry so many many times that i really see he regrets and that loves me really^^ so will work muchy to see him soon^^ thanks for your worry^^
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
The guy really don't care of what you feel. He's making a big and non-sense joke. Didn't he know how worried you were yesterday? Dump the guy sweetie,it's the best thing you can do to save yourself. Absolutely,you can have someone better than him,someone that you truly deserve. You are a woman with a good heart,that's I know a man won't find it hard to love you. You have better things to do with your life. Focus on your work instead of letting an inconsiderate and selfish guy occupy your thoughts.
• Portugal
14 Oct 10
nero he called me today^^ all is ok now^^ he said sorry so many times^^ and that missed me too much^^ he went find load to call me^^ what i saw was too cutie^^ he said when can call me again^^ i love him too muchy^^ he explained all now and said sorry so so many times^^ he has to pay a lot of money and still found load to call me so i guess i really mean to him^^
@pwnksh (9)
• India
14 Oct 10
their is some prob between both of u
• Portugal
14 Oct 10
yes it was^^ but now is all ok^^ we solved things^^ and all is great know^^ im too too happy^^ so sad that we could talk only a bit :( i wish there was a way to call people by internet and pay nothing. would be great. i just needed that and i would be too too happy^^ anyway as soon as possible i wish that me and my bf can talk^^ i miss him^^
• India
14 Oct 10
I believe that you have still love for him and he also has love for you. I think i is only a mater of time that you both become one.
• Portugal
14 Oct 10
kendra thanks so muchy^^ well he explained things to me and all is ok now^^ he said would find money for us to talk^^ so is bcs he cares^^ also he said he didnt want break up that was me leaving him. anyway all is ok now and we will solve our problems soon^^ i just wish he doesnt hurt me again^^ and all is going to be fine i guess^^
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
Hello Sweet, We have had a long talked about this last night, but the reason why it took so damn long is that i don't wanna end up DICTATING you about what should be done and what you feel. i do understand when a person is truly in love (Love is Blind,btw). It's not just easy to convince to let go of there guy, who hasn't really been keeping up his promises and keeps screwing it. Even though he has you as supposedly an inspiration for him to change, he still DIDn't. I think for some reason he freaked out from his own promises. not to mention when he find out you were messaging you're ex, he took it badly, which is uh...not supposed to. if he's that kind of guy who get's irritated and angry all the time, what more if you two are together? like what i have said before, he's not mature. unless he talks to you through FB any time today, he would only good with words and charms at his singing... so, he got jailed for not wearing helmet for one night! so the other night/day, he should have had time to send you messages or chat with you through FB in the internet SHOP and not spend the night with Friends drinking(tagay), even if it's his friends money.
• Portugal
14 Oct 10
no no he drank that night. he explained me all and he was caught drunk with his friends driving without driving license. so now he has to pay a lot of money. he asked his sister to explain me things so i wouldnt be worried^^ he said he still loves me and all is ok now^^ he said he will find load to his cell and for me to message him through chikka^^
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@Miner49r (569)
• United States
14 Oct 10
Sweet, I hate to tell you but this guy is messing with your head. Love should be tender, sweet, compassionate, peaceful and gentle. From what I have read and the little I know about you from some of your other posts, you are a gentle soul. If you choose to continue on with this fellow, I think you experience more of this same mind games and senselessness and He will bring more turmoil to your life. You are a beautiful woman. I am certain you could have your pick of whatever guy you choose. Sometimes love has to be tough, and painful to know and learn what true love is when we find it.
• Portugal
14 Oct 10
miner thanks so muchy^^ my bf already explained things and said that still love me. anyway sure we still have problems about time to be together but he said he would find money to have load in his cell so we could talk^^ i will wait for that and see^^ thanks so much for say that i can choose any guy i want and that im beautiful^^ thats too cute of you^^