Emotional Torture or the Physical One? Which one Hurts you more?

@arunmails (3013)
India
October 13, 2010 9:46pm CST
[b] Friends, Here I have come up with a sensitive issue, which should be seriously discussed. Which is more painful to you? An emotional torture or a physical torture? Take an example. Suppose, You and your friend have a small controversy on an issue. This controversy becomes a quarrel on discussing on that. The quarrel between you and your friend grows bigger and it ends in a fight. You scolded him with some unwanted bad words. On hearing this, your friend beats you. Now who will have much pain? You or your friend? [/b]
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@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Oct 10
hi arunmails welcome back have not seen you around lately. For me a physical pain lasts a short while but verbal abuse sting into your' very soul so I would say that the words you slapped at your friend probably hurt him deeply inside his soul while yours healed ina day or two. Words can really wound us and thats one reason why we should watch what we say even in anger to our children., we may just be angry and not really mean them but once those words sling out and hit a target that child is hurt for years. My father was angry at me once for interfering in a talk he had with my younger sister. He was forcing her to have these stinging burning nose drops in her nose for a cold. I told him those nose drops really hurt.he was a country doctor who made his own crap; He yelled at me, I wish you never had been born.I was fifteen, and am now 84 and still feel wounded. I never quite forgave him for that. He later found out for himself how awful those nose drops were and he never made them again. He tried to apologize but I did not really buy it. We were polite to each other but he was no longer the person I had loved. So we should be careful with words as they do hurt us.
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@bjane02 (19)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
to have bruises and cuts could be very painful --- but only for a short period of time. pain medications are even available for ur convenience... but to suffer an emotional pain is quite different. those words u uttered to him could create a deep impact. towards how he feels about himself, on ur friendship... physical pain can easily be treated, but a heart canNOT be easily be mended once it's broken... =,(
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
both are painful...like for instance, as a kid,i am physically beaten by my mom, the bruises hurt.but after a week, i forgot about it already.what i didn't forget was when she told me she didn't love me.it really stayed on me for years, even until now, i haven't forgotten a word she uttered that day.the beatings,i dismiss. but the harsh words are imprinted on my mind.
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• Philippines
14 Oct 10
both have the same effect because its still hurting you,you can not say that there is a deference among the two, yes it has, the physical and the emotional but there effect to us got no advantage, you can not say that the most painful is the emotional nor the physical because this two is connected, example: when you are beat by someone of course your emotion will react you will fell angry to someone who beat you and you will take a revenge because are hurt. that',s it .............
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@advokatku (4037)
• Indonesia
14 Oct 10
There is a saying, better heartache than feel toothache pain. When toothache, the pain will disappear when we take medication but heartache, despite taking medication, the pain will still be there and will never disappear as long as there no apology.
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@tjen_anni (319)
• Indonesia
14 Oct 10
In my opinion, my tongue is my sword..so when i use it to hurt someone, it will leave a deep wound in the heart. while physical injury, it hurts for a while...I'd better receive a physical one than an emotional one...That's why we should be careful using my tongue for not hurting someone with it...
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
14 Oct 10
Any kind of torture is painful and hurtful. A physical one would be easy to see. Eventually, the evidence would fade away. Emotional scars could be hidden away. They might be harder to forget.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
If I am asked about it, I say emotional torture or abuse is more painful than physical abuse. A wound may heal after a while, but a pain inside your heart lasts longer or heals longer and it may even kill you. A verbal abuse is the same with emotional abuse where a person verbally abuses another by his/her words and the recipient of those words is the person who receives the words calling him/her as emotionally abused. As I mentioned earlier, a physical wound heals after a while. Whereas, an emotional pain stays and remains longer and even a lifetime. I would rather be slapped and the mark stays for a while. An emotional torture will leave a mark in the heart forever.
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@athinapie (1152)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
I have to say that emotional torture definitely hurts more than a physical one because when a person has been hurt physically, that can be cured like with a bandage or medicine. Whereas in emotional torture, it is something that does not reflect physically but it definitely give an emotional scar and it makes a person not think clearly and get bothered all the time. And that can even lead to trauma. So I would rather be hurt physically than be hurt emotionally.
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@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
Physical pain is always hard to bear but it is something that don't last that long but the emotional torture can haunt your waking nights and make your life completely miserable. I think physical torture is better than the emotional torture. Your emotion can enslaved you and will never give you enough peace to last a day.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
16 Oct 10
This really is a difficult one. Being that I've been someone that has faced both physical abuse and verbal abuse in my life, I don't really think that either of them hurts less than the other. The thing about physical abuse is that the bruises do eventually go away, but your spirit never truly recovers from that. With verbal abuse, the pain never fades but there is never any physical pain that you have to deal with from it. In a situation like this, I wouldn't think that the friendship would be able to continue regardless.
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
this is so lame!! like do u think physical abuse wont cause you emotional pain??... use your common sense people. emotional pain goes together wid physical pain stupid!
15 Oct 10
the emotional one, no doubt about it .. a physical pain will pass after a couple of days / weeks .. a emotional one can stand for months, years or even a whole life ..
• United States
14 Oct 10
To me, emotional torture is worse because it lasts much longer. Physical can only last so long but emotional stays with you longer. Even if you drown out emotional pain, it can recollect in your mind and come back. That's just my opinion of course. Technically your friend would feel worse.
@DertyJ (193)
• United States
14 Oct 10
Of course this depends on what level of emotional or physical pain a person experiences. If it is a gunshot wound or something very physically painful then I would probably pick physical pain as being worse compared to most emotional pain. But if someone called you a name or said something that you are extremely self conscious about and possibly have been for a long time it could scar you for life. I personally remember the little things that people say so they can turn big. But I would say as to which one can get worse it would probably be physical pain.
• India
14 Oct 10
hi arun i is sad to hear about it but according to my opinion the pain will be to both gilt feeling will be more to that person who scolded. because he is the person who used the unwanted bad words. which made the other person to beat him. any how this type of small quarrels will happen in between friends.such type of issues must be settled as soon as possible. i hope this will end soon. have a nice day.. :)
@savypat (20246)
• United States
14 Oct 10
Did you say who was stupid? Who was ten years old? These questions could be answered easily, the one you asked not so easy. Physical pain lasts a few days, emotional pain can last a life time.
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
i think that physical torture can become a serious emotional problem.
@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
For me, emotional pain is more torturing that physical one. If we got hurt by getting hurt physically, we may get bruised or wounds, but it will heal. But if someone uttered unwanted words, it will retain in our mind even in our hearts. Though we can get back into good terms, yet our relation would not be the same as before for it would be still there. And the doubt of our friend's character, and the thinking of it might happen again. So it would be better to think twice before saying anything, if in argument, try to manage anger and self control.
• India
14 Oct 10
Well for me, emotional torture is much more fatal than the physical one. Because physical wounds can be cured but the mental and emotional torture stays in the mind for long. Between friends a small fight even if turned into physical can be solved but if they call each other bad words and there's a hate speech, that stays in the mind of people for long and is not easily forgotten.