How can you tell when it is time to abandon hope?

October 15, 2010 12:16am CST
Can you even generalize a concept like that? I am not sure. I was watching a band interview and a member of the band was speaking on this. I found it pretty interesting. What are your thoughts? Have you ever been in a situation that required you abandon all hope? Would you care to share? How does one cope with the realization that all hope is lost? This topic can easily be dismissed with a weak, 3 sentence answer, but lets feel it out. Lets try to learn something from each other.
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• United States
15 Oct 10
Abandoning hope can not help one in any situation. Hope is always there and even if it seems to be your last option and the only thing left, you should never give up hope. In some situations hope is all you have left to fall back on and if you give up hope than you have nothing. So always keep your hopes up and never lose hope.
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15 Oct 10
and you even needed an extra sentence! haha! Anyways, what about stalkers who just can't let go of the hope that they with be with their victim one day? or an obsessive gambler?
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• India
15 Oct 10
I think, hope is very relative. It varies along with individual. I never let my hope abandon, until the decision(any fact, etc) has come out and it is final. Because hope is the things which takes ahead step by step. It is very important for us to be hopeful. Without hope one cannot sustain.
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15 Oct 10
Maybe I am looking at this topic wrong. Maybe one does not abandon hope but has hope taken from them. It's not a conscious choice to completely give up but it just kind of dawns on you. Thank you for your input!
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
17 Oct 10
@foofermen, I agree. Being hopeless is not a great feeling, I wouldn't ever choose to do it, if I can.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
The saying goes "while there is life ,there is hope" That's situational i agree. When you think there is no more hope,then it's time to abandoned. Like for example,you are in love with someone and you been courting her even if she already has a boyfriend,you still hope that someday she will realized that she loves you and leave her boyfriend (you had all hopes and faith) Until one day,they got married ...then,it's time to abandoned any hope (simple as that) When you know there is no hope for something that you wished for,why waste time,rather than starting new things. Have a great weekend ahead
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
Thanks for the BR mark,but i want to remind you that,BR mark should be given after a week of posting any topic/discussion. I am here for a year and not to mention the payment (i am earning good,i admit) Thanks again...and enjoy mylotting
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
15 Oct 10
It is only in despair that hope should be abandoned. The time for giving up hope is when nothing in life matters. This is a desperate time because we should never feel the need to ever give up hope.
15 Oct 10
What about giving up hope in something in particular, instead of giving up hope in general? I think there are many times that it is appropriate to give up hope. Thoughts?
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
15 Oct 10
When the final breath is drawn from my body, I think that is the time where all hope is lost. However, when I still have time to live, there is time to have hope. It is never really too late as long as I am still living, still breathing. Therefore, I still have the strength to hope that something is going to happen and its going to be great. We're going to go through the great times in life and the dark times in life. So, life does go on, as long as I actually live and there is hope every second that life goes on. As long as there are a few breaths left in my body, I will never stop hoping. Fortunes can turn around in the blink of the eye. Granted, it is both for better and for worst, but in the end there always should be hope. It is what gets us through the very worst in life.
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15 Oct 10
Well, don't you have hope for after you die? You can give up the hope of living anymore but what about the hope that your children grow up to be healthy and happy people? or hope that no one finds out that you are an organ donor?
15 Oct 10
As you have rightly said generalizing this concept might be difficult as it may applies to a variety of situations.Hence,I will try to answer linking to two or more circumstances.In the first instance let us assume you are watching your favorite team playing soccer and with five minutes to the end of the match and the team is trailing by five goals to one.You will be forgiven if you lose hope of the team winning the match.As a student who has taken a ten-paper examination and have received the result of seven of them and had failed six already if you lose hope of passing the exam no one will blame you.
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15 Oct 10
I appreciate your post in particular because you are really touching on the essence of the topic. There are times for all of us when we loose hope and you have really captured that. Unfortunately, with such an objective perspective, comes the fact that this whole discussion is entirely context sensitive. To be honest, I don't even know where to go from here discussion wise lol Thanks for posting =)
@hushi22 (4940)
15 Oct 10
i never had this feeling before but this is interesting. i will surely take a look in a minute for the answers and share.
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@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
17 Oct 10
I have lost all hope when I got anxiety disorder and fear took over me. I felt afraid of doing everything in my life and this led me to divorce. I lost hope there when I tried to work the relationship out from many angles while getting no signal at all from the other party, so, it was time for me to give up. I was able to give that hope up when I found another hope to follow.. I just had to hope that I can keep going on even if things changed. Hope that time will tell... so in the end maybe I never really lost all hope but just ideals I had.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
17 Oct 10
Ps. I got an idea after browsing everyone else's answer but it's like quitting.. I don't think quitting is bad. Especially if you are quitting something bad. Out with the old, in with the new.
@rog0322 (2834)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Oct 10
Hi there foofermen: "Abandon All Hope Ye Who Enter Here." Allegedly, it was posted on the gate of hell. A fitting sign, I should say. Not until I enter that place shall I abandon all hope !
@asxenon (1441)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 10
I think it is good to have hope. Even when we know the chances are slim to succeed but what's wrong with having hope. A terminally ill person might still hope for a miracle and some might actually find one. Just don't give up on any hope. Who knows someday, the impossible will happen :D Cheers!