How often do you discuss religion?

@JenInTN (27565)
United States
October 15, 2010 3:48pm CST
I am asking this because religion can be a pretty controversial subject but there are people that love to talk about it for many different reasons. Sometimes I think that it may be because they have a great passion and belief for their religion and want to share their views. I also think that there are times when people just "get things on their minds" and want to discuss religion to see what others think about their views. There is a great diversity in religions here and I have been around conversations in which things have got very heated when discussing different religious views. I was hoping that some of you could tell me if religion is a common subject for you or maybe you could share some experiences that you have had when being around others that enjoy discussing religion.
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@hofferp (4739)
• United States
19 Oct 10
Religion use to be a topic my friends and I discussed when we were younger. But now that we're older, we seem to talk about politics and more politics. To tell the truth, I don't like discussing either because the discussions do get heated and I don't like heated "debates" about opinions. I have mine...you can have yours.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
19 Oct 10
Heated discussions are no fun for me either. I don't mind easy conversations where people discuss but it does seem that these two subjects can bring out the worst in people. Thanks for the response.
@hofferp (4739)
• United States
19 Oct 10
Sorry my response is kind of late. Mom and I just got back from a vacation... Have a great rest of the day.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
19 Oct 10
Your response isn't late..it's appreciated. I hope you had fun!
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
21 Oct 10
Fortunately, I'm surrounded by people of the same religion. So the topic never has to come up when I'm with friends. And nobody seems to discuss it at work. But if I do hear somebody overly discussing religion, my first instinct is to step away. I don't want to get tangled in such personal beliefs.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
21 Oct 10
I tend to step away too. At least as a first instinct. I know that such conversations can lead to heated arguments because most everyone has very strong feelings about their religious beliefs. Thanks for the response.
• United States
18 Oct 10
I am open to any reasonable discussion anytime because that how a Christian lets his light shine. Have and open mind helps .Plus I enjoy learning about people and their beliefs that is the only way you can receive help or give it.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
19 Oct 10
It's nice that you are open to discussion and appreciate what other people believe. I think that there is much to gain by easy discussion about belief systems. Thanks for responding.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
18 Oct 10
I stopped responding to most religious conversations because of the heated and sometimes insulting (Example: You're going to hell. What you believe is anti-the Bible, etc). I find that the Pagan site is better at accepting diversity. So I started posting and answering things there. I often write to get ideas or to see what other people do. For example, I was making an altar. I was curious as to what other people do. Not sure what other reasons, I did post one asking if people switched religions because I had switched. That was also under Pagan. Seems to be a more accepting area. Also about different religious celebrations after I had gone to some. I think more to share and compare. Like I went to a healing circle and wrote about it there.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
18 Oct 10
I step very carefully when answering religious questions on opinions. People sometimes really don't want to hear what we think..they just want someone that will support their ideas. I'm glad you have found a place where you feel comfortable talking about things you are curious about. Take care and thanks for the response.
@savypat (20247)
• United States
17 Oct 10
I have been taught that this is a subject which must be carefully introduced in order not to hurt or anger someone. That being said, I do discuss this with people I know are open to such discussions. Here on mylot I am careful, I would hurt no one here if possible.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
18 Oct 10
I feel the same way. I don't usually introduce the subject either. I usually wait until someone else brings it up. Sometimes I don't even like discussing it then..kind of depends on the "feel" of things. Thanks for responding.
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@millertime (1398)
• United States
16 Oct 10
You're right, it's definitely a controversial subject and one that I normally try and avoid most of the time. People that truly believe in their own religion, whatever it may be, are usually pretty closed minded when it comes to discussing any other religion other than their own. I try to have an open mind and will have a philosophical discussion with someone if they want, but a lot of people won't really want an open discussion. They tend to want to sway everyone to their way of thinking, almost as if they are on a recruiting drive. I have also heard others that want to intentionally provoke people that don't believe as they do, so I will not engage with people like that. As an example, one of my co-workers who is of a faith other than Christian, made the statement to another co-worker, who is of the Catholic faith, that the Bible is just a work of fiction. Now, I don't begrudge anyone their beliefs, but making a statement like that can elicit a very strong reaction in someone who is dedicated to their faith. I steer clear of the subject unless I know for a fact that I am talking to someone that can have an intelligent, reasonable, discussion and that won't try and bring me "into the fold".
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
17 Oct 10
That is a good example of how discussions about religion can become heated. There are those that would love to get a rise out of another du to their beliefs. I also share your feelings as far as a discussion turning into a recruiting session. I am also careful of who and when I discuss religion. Thanks for the input.
• United States
16 Oct 10
Jen- It depends upon the situation. If I am around like-minded people, those who are accepting that each of us has our own beliefs then I may speak openly. If I am noticing that others are closed minded, I typically stay quiet. That said, I do sometimes begin to discuss aspects of faith if I am in public and notice that people are shall we say making judgments. An example would be we were out to dinner once and someone near us began speaking about how tattoos and piercings were against God. They were obviously very Christian from the references they provided, a tad fundamentalist. My husband is noticeably tattooed and pierced, but he's also a religion major and quite well studied. He began to banter on about the history of the Sumerians and how more than likely stories from the Epic of Gilgamesh were used by early Semitic peoples to tell their own stories. Then we started discussing everything from Satan to Occult issues and before too long the family quickly left. We enjoyed the rest of our dinner in peace. That is a rarity though. Most of the time our chatter is among close friends, in our group, and privately. Namaste-Anora
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
It is a shame that you couldn't have dinner without that incident. Sometimes people that are loyal to their religion can be very judgmental. Sometimes there are off the wal misconceptions too and it makes me wonder where they get their information from sometimes and who it was that give them the right to judge anyone. I say misconceptions..lol...they might say something else..Thanks for the response and I hope you have been well.
@Yada25 (44)
16 Oct 10
It quite often for me to discuss about religion maybe one a week. I usually have discussion with my bf. He interests in this kind of things. Sometime we agree sometime we argue. But to have discussion on the religion you need to know who are you discuss too. It is a really sensitive subject to discuss with someone that you don't know well.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I bet it is very enriching to discuss your religious views with someone so close. I think that there can come a point when everyone disagrees on one thing or another where religion is concerned. It is true that when we discuss religion that we should consider our company. Thanks for responding and welcome to myLot.
• India
16 Oct 10
i am interested in this
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
Great...please feel free to share how you feel. There are people that love to discuss religion. Thanks for responding and welcome to myLot.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I never discuss relegion on mylot or politics either if i can help it, lol. I talk relegion w/a good friend of mine quite often. She has so much more faith than i do so at times i will talk things over w/her if i have something on my mind.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
Good morning Jo! I hardly ever discuss it here either. I don't think that I have actually discussed religion in a longtime with anyone. I do have discussions with the girls sometimes because they have a lot of questions. I try to keep them open to learning about new things without being judemental. Thanks for responding.
@piya84 (2591)
• India
16 Oct 10
I am not much interested in discussing religion though i like some aspect of religion.I find the whole thing god and discussing it boring and waste of time.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
There are a lot of people that avoid discussions based on religion. It can be very controversial. I avoid the topic too. Thanks for the response.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I don't mind discussing religion with people of the same faith. When you discuss religion with someone of a diffferent view, it can make for a tense situation. An argument you may not see coming can build from a discussion of religion.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
That's a good point. Discussions about religion can be much easier between people of the same faith. There are sometimes disagreements within these groups as well though. I think there is a lot to learn from others but like you..I do see that it can cause arguments sometimes. Thanks for responding.
• India
16 Oct 10
rel;religion is always a matter of controversy. So it is better not to talk about it.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
Thank you for your input. I think it is a very controversial subject. Some people really enjoy that type of conversation though. I don't talk about it much either.
@airasheila (5459)
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
A pleasant day to you JenInTN, With reference to your main topic, I am not used to join a discussion if the topic is regarding religion. Since for me, religion is a kind of a sacred thing. A belief of everybody that needs a proper treatment and respect. On the other hand, a lot of groups are fond of discussing this topic. As, there are too many people in this world who has a different religion. Aside from the fact that different religion follows and observed different traditions. That is why, this topic is somehow tag as a pretty controversial in a discussion.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I also think that religion is sacred and everyone has the right to have something sacred in their lives. There are alot of religions and beliefs. I like learning about different cultures and religions but it is a subject that I tread very softly on. I don't often bring it up or debate it.
@gcabando (314)
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
I dont offen discuss religion because this is a sensitive topic for me. There are so many religion out their. it need to be respected.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I think that other peoples beliefs should be mutually respected. I am not real comfortable with discussing it sometimes either.
@namdaemun (283)
• Indonesia
16 Oct 10
I'm not that type of person that always discuss religion. I'm as well trying to avoid that kind of topic. Maybe in church or weekly then we discuss something like that. But, in normal life, we just understand each other
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I don't bring up the subject either. There are a lot of different religions and beliefs in my area and it can become a very heated topic. Thanks for the response.
@Strovek (870)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 10
I don't discuss religion unless the subject is brought up but that rarely happens. In fact a lot of arguments could originate from it.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
You are right...people can be very argumentitive over the subject. I don't mind discussing it I don't feel like I'm being challenged..you can usually tell by the manner that it is brought up. Thanks for responding.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
16 Oct 10
My father loves discussing religion so that he can start an argument because he generally loves a good fight. He doesn’t have a spiritual bone in his body and loves to challenge anyone who does so that he can make them feel silly for having faith. Folks like my dad are ignorant although it is one reason why religion gets brought up in a conversation. Personally I respect others’ beliefs as I hope they respect mine and will only discuss them under certain situation and only because I am interested in how other people feel about religious practices etc. Having said that, as a rule I avoid the topic and I venture there very occasionally.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I have met people that wanted to challenge faith and people but when that starts happening..I get out of there...it is a losing battle on both sides and people do end up getting their feelings hurt or offended. I don't bring up the topic either but I have had some very good discussions with people who are laid back and comfortable with their belief system enough that they could discuss it without trying to sell it or defend it. Thanks for the response.
@celticeagle (117728)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Oct 10
I think you are right. People who have a great passion for something do want to talk about it. People who have questions may very well want to discuss their views with others and see what others think. I have had some interesting discussions on religion. I have had people who are very strict their religions get very passionate with me because I simply don't agree. I am an agnostic for a reason. So, yes, I have had some very interesting interactions with people on the subject of religion. And that and polotics are two subjects I don't care to discuss much.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
Those are two of the most touchy subjects I think. It's amazing how many people thre are with so many different opinions. Sometimes those type of discussions turn into a challenge as to "what side you are joining"..lol..at least that is how they have made me feel before. Simple conversations can become very heated when it comes to religion and politics if there was a difference of opinion. Believe it or not one of the most comfortable conversations I had about religion was when I was in Japan. They were curious about the beliefs where I lived and I was curious about theirs. I was a bit fueled in my curiousity because one of the days I was there we toured these amazing temples in the mountains that were guarded. There was one with small writing All over the wall...even the ceiling. I usually don't discuss religion or politics either.
@snoopyfan (1315)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I enjoy talking about my religion and learning about other religions. I am Catholic and am not afraid to discuss God or all of the wonderful things He has done in my life. It is amazing when you hear other people's experience with God and their relationship with Him. It is wonferful to comfort others and they know what you are talking about.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I think the Catholic religion is a very interesting one. There is so much history and depth involved. I like learning about religions too. Thanks for responding.