is it right to ask for my husband's employer to pay him his salary ?

Philippines
October 15, 2010 9:56pm CST
i'm getting angry with my husband not getting his salary from his employer. well,anyway, the employer borrowed a big amount of money from us aside from not getting his salary.i asked him to quit his job since he's not getting enough pay and he even manage to lend them money.i was hesitant in letting them borrow but he always thought that he(employer) would give him a break if he do favors for him.i told him that if he really wanted you to have a break, he would've done it before.and also, i thought lending him some money would only take a month but months and months have passed.it's like going to be a year. i'm really getting so impatient and every time i ask him to ask for the payment ,he would always tell me that he already asked for it once and he doesn't want to remind him again.this will only start a fight so i just shut my mouth. Is that right? now i'm thinking of asking the employer myself. but i'm having second thoughts about it.what do you think? hope to hear from you dear mylotters.
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10 responses
@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
You can't be blame for being insistent on reminding him of what had happened and demanding to get payment for what due you. But I think, it should be your husband who needs to ask for the salary and the payment for what they had borrowed to you. He is the one working with them, and that would put you in trouble for you're not the direct person concern. So probably what you do is not to nag your husband but instead explain it to him his right for what he must get and demand from his employer. You may consult also into someone who knows the legality of the matter for better knowledge of what to do.
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
hi! you also have a point.thank you for that. good day.
• United States
16 Oct 10
Three years ago, when I was pregnant with our first daughter, my husbands ex-employer stopped being able to pay his employees. My husband was still going to work every day but was almost two months behind on getting his paychecks. He quit that job and eventually ended up taking the guy to court to get the money he owed him. So, if it was me I would say he definitely needs to look for a new job and quit the current one.
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
hi teenymarie!thanks for your response.i asked him to do that but he's not doing anything.i don't know, maybe he still expect that this employer will give him some break. bringing it to court is still questionable.that would be extra expenses and the justice system here in our country is different it will take years. good day teenymarie.
16 Oct 10
I think its appauling that your in that situation.Your husband needs to understand that it isnt just him thats living without the money thats owed, But you aswel. Couldnt you find a lawyer that would take the case on, on a no win no fee basis. You may not get the full amount back but it'll be better than nothing. I dont understand why you lent and employer money anyway. I would stay clear of a situation like that at all costs. I also think that if your hubby isnt being stern enough with his employer then maybe you should step in.
@gunjanpri (602)
• India
16 Oct 10
I think your husband is being cheated as well as exploited by his employer. Ask for some expert or mediator's advice and intervention, which can help you recover your money outside the court. If it does not work do go for judicial help. Your husband deserves salary for the period he is employed and the money given to the employer should be returned.
• India
16 Oct 10
yes, Demanding is the one of the way to get your money. According to your way, its correct to ask for your husbands salary. Because, your husband is not taking seriious about asking money. In the other way it is not fine of asking money in behalf of your husband, because you have to think about your husband prestige. Your husband had to demand the salary.... But, ur patience may be left from you. So, go and Demand your money.. Give my money, or we will Strike........
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
16 Oct 10
Only an employee should have the right to ask an employer for a salary. nobody else should have that right. If you are an employee and unable to ask your employer, that would be a different circumstance.
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
16 Oct 10
Yes, u should do it. It's your right and your husband's money while being the employer's responsibility. By hook or by crook, he should pay up to whatever your husband deserves. U can close an eye if he is able to pay your husband's salary in full. However now it seems that he's not capable of that. It's time for u to take some actions against him. It's always illegal for employers to owe employee's salary.
@yogeshdhusa (2237)
• India
16 Oct 10
I also feel, that you should ask as it’s the right of a person if she/he is working and also clarify that if your husband is going to get any break. Tell the employer that your family is in tension because of this. Also if he cant pay the salary he should also stop the business and start searching a job with your husband. Tell your husband that, “if you want me to understand you let me speak to your boss”
@LaDeBoheme (2000)
• United States
16 Oct 10
YES! Absolutely it is right to ask for one's salary. Not only ask, but demand it! Is this employer a friend of your husband's? Is that why hubby is being so wishy-washy about asking for his pay. So what if it starts a fight? Your husband should be the one to start the fight -- in court! It sounds like your husband got a BIG break by lending his employer money. Now his employer not only won't pay him back, but won't even pay him PERIOD. Oh yeah, what a break!
• United States
16 Oct 10
Well this sounds like pickle each way you may want to look at it as personally I do not think that you should be the one to ask the employer, unless the employer is a personal friend. You husband needs to demand the money as when his boss asked for it and needed the help your husband was gracious enough to ask for it. However, out of spite and revenge he may end up finding an excuse to fire your husband, which of course would be illegal to do but some terrible people get around certain things. So what I would suggest to your, is to tell you husband that he has to be firm as this is unfair to your family finances and no matter how much someone in the future needs any money, he is not to loan it out unless you have an extra abundance where you can afford to consider it a gift. I wish you well and Good luck with this as it must be very frustrating.