Do you want people to visit you when you stay in the hospital?

@youless (112091)
Guangzhou, China
October 16, 2010 9:43am CST
When I stay in the hospital, I don't want anybody to visit me besides my parents and husband. As I won't feel well and therefore I have to stay in the hospital. I won't have a nice look. Besides, I need more rest so that I can recover soon. If there is a visitor, at least you have to talk with each other. Sometimes this can be tired because you need sleep since you don't feel well.
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• United States
16 Oct 10
my mom's best friend has a good theory: If you don't normally come & visit the person in their home, why would you want to see them at their worst in the hospital. send a card. or flowers[but with cancer patients, NO FLOWERS. the potential bacteria on the flowers will kill the person]
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 10
I have known that it shouldn't send flowers to a cancer patient.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 10
I am feeling the same way as you. I don't like being visited when I am hospitalized. I was admitted once and when the time come for visiting hours, I pretend to sleep to avoid talking to my visitors. I just don't feel at ease talking to them when I am not well.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 10
Yes, I may feel tired to just talk to the visitors when I stay in the hospital.
• United States
16 Oct 10
I agree with you. I haven't been in the hospital. But If I ever go, I'll make sure No one visits save family. I rather be alone!
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• United States
17 Oct 10
Thank you. All the best My friend!
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 10
You are very lucky. I hope you will never have to stay in the hospital.
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@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 10
Hi, I may say that I still need someone to talk to when I was in hospital,so at least my family members and some close friends will come to pay me a visit,so that I won't be that bored. In my whole life, only when I delivered my first son, I stayed in hospital for two nights ,in order not to feel lonely, I taken up sharing bedroom,so we have about 8 beds in a room. At least, I have some new friends there and we can chat for a day. I won't feel that bore ,of course, I will need to have a good rest after delivery. My husband would come and visit me every night after his work.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Oct 10
When I was in the hospital, I tried to have more sleep. As when I woke up every time, I felt better.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I like to have visitors when i am in the hospital. it makes the stay more pleasant when you can have the ones you love around you.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Oct 10
But I hope the visitors will be my parents and my husband only.
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• Iran
18 Oct 10
I think it's good if visitors come to see you,but sometimes it bothers you when they come to see you whiles you want to sleep.also when they are around you,it makes you feel sick. I prefer nobody see me in hospital when I'm sick
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@marj22 (73)
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
yes, i would love my friends visit me because in that way i will feel that they care for me and i think it would make me feel better and fast recovery.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Oct 10
It seems many people want more visitors according to the feedback.
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@marj22 (73)
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
yes, so you should accept visitors when you get hospitalized and you'll see it will be a good feeling...((:
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21 Oct 10
I personally welcome visitors and thankfully I haven't been in hospital for a long period of time. If I was however, It would be nice to see family and friends as it shows who really cares. My mum doesn't like people visiting her, despite the fact she gets very bored and is always calling home. Never do I listen though, I always turn up to surprise her and she deep down loves people to visit. she just feels it puts us out having to travel, which it doesn't.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Oct 10
You are very nice.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
16 Oct 10
the last time i was in the hospital was for an infection. i was in for 4 days. i didnt feel really sick but it was so boring so company was ok.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 10
Fortunately it seems it's not a serious case.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Oct 10
hi youless. I feel the same way aswhen you are ill the last thing you feel like doing is making small talk. I never w anted to see anyone but'mny son and my best friend. others I asked the nurse to please not let in as I was very ill and did not need the small talk. When you are recovering it is not so bad, but when you are very ill you need rest and quiet to recover.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 10
Yes, the rest is the best medicine.
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
For me, I welcome visitors when I am in the hospital, its very comforting or sometimes flattering when people visit you in the hospital, it means they care for you too. Irregardles of how I look I won't bother anyway, I'm sick I think they do understand that. I feel good when friends would come along wishes me to get well soon or say a prayer for fast recovery.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 10
But sometimes I will feel bad if I sleep when the visitors visit me.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
dear youless, i prefer to rest in the hospital without visitors. i think i will get better faster that way. the friends can visit me in the house when i am feeling better. cheers, ann
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 10
I feel the same like you.
• United States
16 Oct 10
I welcome visitors to come visit me if I am admitted into the hospital. After all, they are friends and family that are worried and want to make sure you are okay. I like them comming, then is when you find out who your true family and friends are. I would also say at the same time, I guess it would depend on what you were in the hospital for. But things like surgery and stuff like that, friends would definately be welcome to come, I believe that they would calm me down enouph to go threw what ever might be going on with me. If it was just me and my parents, I would just end up walking out and going home.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 10
You are very kind
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
16 Oct 10
I have never been in the hospital for very long, but I think I would want people to visit me. I am sure it can get a bit boring at hospitals and visitors kind of cheer you up, so I think they would be good for me!
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Oct 10
As long as you feel happy to it, that's alright.
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@imphavok (320)
• Canada
16 Oct 10
I totally agree with you. I was in the hospital a couple of years ago and all my friends wanted to visit and I just wanted to be left alone. I know they were just being great friends and caring , but I was so tired and ill, I didn't want to put on a big smile and be all friendly.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 10
I can understand it. I don't want my friends to see my bad look when I am ill in the hospital.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
18 Oct 10
My mom just spent almost 2 weeks in the hospital and believe me she was bored out of her head I had to stop at the Library for her something to read. Yeah, she had television but she didn't like half the stuff on or it was reruns. My granny would crochet or quilt while she was in the hospital to keep busy or do those word puzzles. But if I was in the hospital yeah, I would want someone to visit me. I doubt they would expect me to be my best at that time. But you can have the nurses cut the visits short for you for those that linger to long. Have a nurse tell the visitors that they can only stay 15 minutes that way you get to a little time with visitors but can catch up on your rest also.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
19 Oct 10
I do too..she has about 6-8 weeks of recovery, has to stay off her feet.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
18 Oct 10
I hope your mom already gets well.
@darkmoni (34)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I haven't really been hospitalized but I would think that I would love visitors . If it ever happen I would know how much I'm appreciated and missed
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Oct 10
You are lucky. I have been in the hospital for twice. The first time is to deliver my baby, the second time is an operation.
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
Well, people visited you when you are in Hospital, is a good thing. Because it will makes you more confident to be cured immediately.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
19 Oct 10
I feel the opposite.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
waaa...Isn't better for some people in Hospital, have a visitors. I really wonder about you, my friend... Have a great day!
@cyrus123 (6363)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I think it depends on how bad sick you are. If I were seriously ill, I probably wouldn't want anybody but my family to visit with me. Otherwise, it can get very lonely and boring in the hospital. I don't think I would want a semi private room or a ward because there might be people in there sicker and older than you are and they might keep you awake all night. The hospital we have here in town only has private rooms.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 10
Actually I wouldn't feel so bored in the hospital. As usually I would have a rest or read a book.
@cyrus123 (6363)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I've been in the hospital 5 times in my life and I always enjoyed my visitors. There would be days when nobody would come much and there would be other days when they all came at once, lol!
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@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
hello youless! no,i don't like people visiting me in the hospital.well,first of all,i don't like them to see how ugly and unwell i am. thankfully,i haven't been confined yet.but most of the time i do get sick,and i am not liking it. during these times,i really don't like being seen by others,cause for me,i easily get irritated and annoyed by those people around.most of the time,i want to rest and be alone.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
18 Oct 10
Having the rest is the most important for patients.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
definitely true! but still i know some people would want to be visited when they are sick. it makes them feel well fast...
@xtmlove (402)
• China
16 Oct 10
I also don't want too many people to visit me in the hospital. My family members and my best friends will be enough. For one thing, I need more rest just as you said. For another, this actions also will cost the time to the visitors.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Oct 10
I agree with you. I don't want to cause more inconvenience for others.
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