tell me who your friends are

@zapatee (477)
Philippines
October 18, 2010 3:09am CST
and i'll tell you who you are. do you believe that the kind of people that we allow into our lives also reflect who we are and what we believe in? it is often said that we can not choose our relatives and neighbors, but we can with our friends. so what made you choose your friends and, yes, even the other people that's making an influence in your life? mine are passionate, crazy, adventurous, independent, funny, and smart people. what about yours?
10 responses
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
Probably, but not generally. And that statement is a general statement which I feel is dubious. We are drawn to friends and vice versa because of some character traits that we have and they have which happen to coincide. And we have many character traits. Which is why we may have several of many groups of friends. I have a friend (a groupmate actually during my college days) who admitted to belonging to four groups of friends and who attend all group reunions. It would therefore be wrong and unfair to judge a person sweepingly by one particular group of friend alone. Which is why if I have to assess a person, I do so based on the person's behavior and attitude and not that of the friends that person keeps.
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@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
you're right, figurativeme. and sometimes people we get drawn to either reflects what we want to be but are not, or part of who we are, and not entirely. i like people who like some things that i do, but not everything. i haven't encountered any single person who is a total reflection of who i am, uh, now that would be scary, lol! point is, we keep our friends because we enjoy their company and some things that we do together, but we should also keep our individualities and respect everyone for who they are, idiosyncracies, quirkiness, etc, lol. tnx for responding!
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
A mirror imate of me? We would be competing with each other! Thank God there is only one of me and one of you. Have a great day.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
somehow it is true. but sometimes we are deceived and discover that they are not the type of people you want to be with. sometimes realization comes in late. but i want to be with funny, even crazy, lovable, interesting, and smart people!
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@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
so true, bingskee. time spent together does unravel people's real characters. for me, even if the "realization" comes in late, as you say, i don't make a big deal out of it, unless of course when the other person/s turns out to be not a good friend material for me. i mean, i've experienced some people trying to be friends with me, but later turn out to be not worth being one (gossip-mongers, backstabbers,etc) so i don't bother keeping them. tnx for the response!
@meipan (745)
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
choose your friends? may be.. why? because you didn't plan on how you'd met but it's up to you if you'll stay with them or not... sometimes.. choosing friends is not easy.. the one you choose that you think was right was unfortunately will be your true friends but the good things is.. real friends will come at the times you need them most...
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@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
yes, real friends will always be there when you most need them. tnx for responding, meipan!
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
..,.,mY FRIENDS look likes a cat i can choose all of them.,all my friends are so friendly when i was a child my friends i understand why i am so good,.to become a grateful to communicate to any,., but i still love my old friends and new friends all of them are good.,.
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@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
oh, ccrreeddoo, i certainly hope they don't look like cats, lol. just kidding. nice to know you have good friends, old and new. keep 'em coming, ccrreeddoo, and tnx for the response!
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
The reason why you get along with your friends is because you can find yourself from them. What you want and like in life is the same as with them. You can't live with people whom your likes and wants clashes. You can't even handle them in a gentlest way right?
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@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
well, jheypee in some people it does work. even if we don't necessarily share or have the same interests, etc. as long as we respect and understand one another for what we have and believe in, then i certainly think it's fine. i know i'm able to handle some of them the "gentlest way", and we're still together, lol. tnx for the response, jheypee. btw, your name sounds cute, lol.
@pt2586 (47)
• Vietnam
18 Oct 10
in viet nam, people say: Have to choose friends to make friend with, so your friends will reflect who you are.
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@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
that's a nice line, pt2586. you could be similar in some ways or just complement one another too. tnx for your response!
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
mine too, i would rather choose a friend that are passionate, crazy, adventurous, independent, funny, smart and lovable., because as what you said the kind of people that we allow into our lives also reflect who we are and what we believe in.,and it is also base upon how we handle it.,
@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
yes, they do, but not completely. maybe it could be something that they have that we also have or wish we could have, or simply complement what we already have as individuals. the best part is we accept and respect our friends and we can have fun together. tnx for your response, etmahawanD!
@harry89 (2332)
• India
18 Oct 10
Well, i don't believe that our friends can influence us that much tn change us. The change depends on us if we want to change or not, not on others around me. I am an example of this i have many different types of friends who are crazy , active, dishonest, smokers, drinkers and many more but i have been same for the last 5 years like not that active, shy, non smoker, non drinker and descend. No one can change you except yourself. Harry, :-)
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@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
if we don't allow ourselves to be influenced, then it's up to us. the bad things should be easy to avoid. the good things we may consider. but it is still up to the person if he/she is willing to be influenced and to what extent. what's important in friendships is still respect. we may to a certain degree or in some ways display the same attributes as those that our friends have, but we can still be our own person.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
i have a lot's of friends most of them are sharing their jokes,problems,and their happiness and their success... like what have you said "friends is like a mirror it will reflect who we are".
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@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
it's either they reflect what we like or part of who we are or what we want to be. they also share some common things that we like, so that's one good thing. personally, i like it that we mirror ourselves one way or another, but i also like the fact that we can still keep our individualities as part of who we are as persons and still accept one another. tnx for your response njmdagohoyd. btw, your last name reminds of something, lol.
@franne32 (696)
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
I think it's partly true since our friends feel comfortable being with us and are on the same level as us. It's how you connect with each other and understand one another that makes that statement true.
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@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
that's right, franne. though we are not the copycats of our friends, we do have a lot of things in common and our individualities also contribute to making things more fun. tnx for your response!