"Nobody" wants to Lose and Fail :D

I hate this - it's just giving you a tougher feeling
Philippines
October 20, 2010 9:23pm CST
Hello Lotters, There's a Saying "Success comes with so many failures and Losses" I hated Elementery and Junior High to be honest, because I've always been picked on. back then i never had the courage to be exceed being better in life. all that changed in college when i started getting high grades.I guess it's really matter of motivation, even though i thought i could have done more, I was happy with my success..because I graduated in the end, with out any relationship, i held on. But lets face it, NOBODY wants to lose and to fail here. all of us are doing the best we can to succeed. and we just so hate when things doesn't go our way or things went horribly wrong. To be Honest now, the only Battle am fighting recently is "my inner-self" between the Optimistic and the Pessimistic. i hate to feel when my optimistic self "Loses" Well, my point is that we all Succeed some day. WE JUST HATE TO LOSE. PS: unless you are doing it on purpose for a greater reason.
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@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
You are right. I have regrets too during my college days. I thought I could have been to where I want to be now if I chose to pursue what I really want then. Though, failures and tests are part of the journey we all go through. Those failures are for reasons and purposes. But, yes, we all succeed someday if we want to and dream.
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• Philippines
23 Oct 10
hello maean, well, sometimes i think failures leads us to something that i think we want that leads us to something better. . i realize that failures makes a conclusions that this is not for us or we are not good enough we have to be better..well, i can still dream so it's a bit of an uplifting situation.at least in college i didn't necessary flunk
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
Hi, Knight.;) As for your discussion, No, we all don't want that. Losing and failing are the hardest realities of life that we must face and yet we always seem unprepared when they hit us because when they do, they hit us hard... But come to think of it, because of those failures we became stronger. Every battle we failed and lost , we strive harder, we focus more. It is by losing and failing that we succeed eventually. It is not the outside forces that we need to overcome in order to succeed, it is the person within us, and its will to succeed and win. As long as there is life , you can never give up and accept defeat. The battle between losing/failing and winning/succeeding ends when life ends... YEAH, I HATE LOSING AND I'M NOT GIVING UP.
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
Hello eurekafemme, yeah, it's a big anvil both mentally and physically. not to mention the depression surges from the heart. sometimes i hate having this emotion of manifesting failure when it should be just another lost thing that shouldn't be taken personally. well, it's nice to know that you're not giving up on this.
• China
31 Oct 10
Everybody desires to be successful,so nobody wants to lose or fail.But it is not realistic. This sentence can only give you a faith.Of course,to be successful,we do need a faith. we have a very strong desire,we won't be afraid of failures. Just do it.
• Philippines
31 Oct 10
Hello acboy, that's true we need not just faith but determination and the WILL as well.well, it's easy said than done but you're right. we should also be expect the unexpected.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
nobody wants to lose but in this game of life you need to lose to win. you need to fail in order to stand up and make it better. i already had been in a lot of loss, from a father who decided to leave and start a new life with another woman, from not finishing my studies, now my mother is half body paralyze and a lot more that i dont like to narrate all here. but now that i am a husband and a father too i am very careful on things and situation that i want my life and my wife and my child's life to be a success. when i was younger i can not control those situations for i onlt play a small role. now that i am the head of the family i will do my very best to be a good provider, a good director and good driver role into one.
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Hello seven, wow, multi-tasking is hard for a dad, or a husband for that matter. well, there is a reason why we are all here experiencing this things and loosing. i realize loosing prevents us from looking down on other people. well, in my opinion you are doing a pretty good job at that. am very sure they are proud to have you in their lives. have a great day
• Portugal
21 Oct 10
letran dont feel so sad ok? and sure you should be optimistic^^ you had a bad past but is over now^^ you have a good mother that take care of you^^ and a good job here in mylot ahah maybe someday they can pay us more who knows?^^ and if we work hard at least 100 dollars we can win per month and thats good money in pinas right?^^ so be optimistic ok?^^ cheer up^^ besides you have me to rely on^^ did you forget? ahah
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
sweet, i still admire you! and how you were able to do those things despite of you're star but i have to say realistically speaking, that i can't do what you do. you see i try it but it took me literally days before i could respond to more than 5 discussions, with more than 12 responses. so, you're cool! thanks for the comfort, i do need this. have a great day
• United States
21 Oct 10
I have always known to be my worst enemy and by this I mean I set really high standards for myself in every thing I do, so failure for me does not come easy as I am one who cannot accept failure. I am learning to accept but it is not easy after setting such high standards. I have just simply analyzed how I have done things and in the end have no choice but to accept, therefore each time I really look at all the ins and outs so that when I accept a challenge per say I am fully aware of what I am getting into before I say yes.
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Hello hardworkinggurl, i wonder how can i be strict of myself knowing i have been doing a lot of things too. i can't be motivated in almost everything. maybe we shouldn't bother too much with the standards if we can't take lost that well. for me, i do become depress when ever i lost, but when ever i expect to loose, the depression is lessened.unless i win
@Hatley (163739)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Oct 10
letranknight Edison said when he had failed a zillion times with his light bulb invention that they were not failures but just ways to show him what would not work. so I think maybe when we have some failures its only showing us what does not work, now we know what does not work we can choose a different path that does work.I have found even at my age of 84 in Nov. that I do not want to lose but also that I succeed even when I do not quite see it.I too have that inner self battle and mine is putting off til later what I should do now and yet its not a loss as I do not think that really any of the things I have to do can really be done later, and that trying to do too much in too short a time is much worse than thn doing alot in a longer time frame. I can still succeed.
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Hello hatley, they were not failures but just ways to show him what would not work And that's why we must keep on going so that we could perfect it? wow i never thought of this before. or probably i just forgot about it. i admire Edison for not quitting his work, otherwise, we wouldn't have our electricity today I will not give up in life, despite of all the loses. thanks hatley
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
21 Oct 10
Yes, u are right. Unless we are a loser in life, if not we won't like the feeling of losing. Nobody is born a loser as well til we give up on ourselves. Success comes with a lot of trying and failures. This is an undeniable fact and process all of us must go through to enjoy the sweet taste of success. If we didn't fail before achieving success, then I won't call it a complete success, it's more like a fluke.
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Hello sanitary, well, not only it's a fluke but people won't be giving importance to the success. thus, they won't care of others, they'd do anything to get addicted in winning all the time, making them more afraid of loosing. I guess failure allows us to be more humble and not braggers instead, i like this idea.thanks
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@Ninzi007 (52)
• India
21 Oct 10
I truly agreed to your point. There should be system in which we shouldn't fail. But if don't fail than how will we learn. Its just a one of the cycle which cant be stopped nor can be created its just continues. Remember failure is also a key to success. Learn things from failure and win in life.
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Hello Ninzi, you're right, probably the only problem is how we handle failure in the start. yeah, not only how we will ever learn, how can we value victory if the person didn't experience defeat. i like the idea in "winning" in life rather than just win one event and brag it for life. thanks and have a great day
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
21 Oct 10
It is a matter of perception. It’s true that nobody likes to fail but we need to look at what really is a failure because sometimes it a message that either we should be doing something else or we should appreciate what we already have. I used to think I was a failure because I wasn’t earning as much money as my husband but I once took a really good look at my daughter and realised what a fine job I had been doing as a mother which is where I’m supposed to be right now, so you see…There is no failure at all!
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
hello paula, we need to look at what really is a failure because sometimes it a message that either we should be doing something else or we should appreciate what we already have well, i have been doing my best to still appreciate things in life. i still think of being a failure because i couldn't get a better job and always failing in the interviews. but staying home has learned me to be more independent on house choirs. probably i need to motivate myself again in another sense of purpose.
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@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
21 Oct 10
No, I don't want to loose and fail. It's not human trait to be happy to loose and fail. But if I do fail and loose, I try to let it go and try another approach again.
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
Hello jenny, So am I. i hated to lose but when it's not completely favorable to you. what choice do you have anyways? but letting go sometimes is not easy either when the one you want to achieve has failed miserable. well, another approach wouldn't be really that bad i guess.
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
yes that's true that no one want's to lose because they are afraid of loosing and they want that they will always be a successful , but their is always be a looser . sometimes you lose and sometimes you win. right? just accept if you lose because when the time will come that you might win.
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
hello memacapanas, well, there was most of the time that i became almost a complete looser. but not quite, i was able to turn things around a bit. there's no benefit for not accepting the lost except revenge. it's nice to receive some cool messages from you regarding this topic. reminds me to value victory and success.
@zandi458 (27953)
• Malaysia
21 Oct 10
In this competitive world no one wants to be a lesser being. All want to feel and taste sweetness of success in life before they leave this planet. But nobody is born with success in their hands. They have to work hard to earn every success in life. Failures are but the pillars of success. To learn by our failures is to achieve success. Never to have failed is never to have won. Unless we experience failure and its bitterness, we never appreciate the sweetness of victory. It becomes merely a turn of events that is of little or no interest. Failures not only help us to succeed, they make us energetic, enthusiastic, and rich in experience.
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
Hello zandi, To learn by our failures is to achieve success I will try to remember this. i guess winning with out hard work makes us less giving importance to that success. to some they obviously take it for granted.well, am one of those who weren't spared for trials of failure and sometimes it can really take the beating on you're confidence. but i guess this is a problem i need to take over with. thanks