would u still want ur relationship to last forever?
By harry89
@harry89 (2330)
India
9 responses
@joey_matthews (8354)
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21 Oct 10
This actually happened to me and my wife, sadly it was her parents who lost out as they didn't accept me because I come from a council estate background. They're not exactly well off but they do act very snobby. Which is slightly strange because I've served famous people before and I haven't come across anyone well off who's looked down at me before.
I wouldn't let them put me off, I very much love my wife and she loves me.
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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22 Oct 10
You're right.
I think parents should try to safe judging or judge less as until they get to know the other person how would they figure what they're like.
Kudos
@harry89 (2330)
• India
22 Oct 10
Ok, so that was a happy ending for you at last. All is well when end is well. You really got what you deserved. But the parents should also try to understand that their children have got matured enough to make their own decisions.
Thanks for your response.
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@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
21 Oct 10
Relationships are quite complex. Life really does have an affect on relationships and sometimes no matter how much you may want a relationship to last forever, it may not last the way you would have liked or wanted it to, but it still could last forever. Its good to trust your parents, however, they should also trust you. They may not approve of the marriage/relationship, but they also need to consider your feelings. Nobody is perfect and sad to say, some people will focus on the bad traits rather than decide if the "good" outweighs the "bad". Keep in mind, people can and often do change as "life" goes on. I personally would not let anyone tell me who I should or should not take a liking or disliking to, after all, its "MY LIFE" and I like/love someone for "MY REASONS" not "THEIRS".
The relationship you are concerned about, will last forever, if and only if, you "let" it. You can not force it to happen.
@harry89 (2330)
• India
22 Oct 10
Yea you are right in all your words. A relationship can only last forever if and only if we wish to. Actually our parents should understand that we havd got got matured enough to make our own decisions and they should trust us in that case.
Thanks for your response.
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
21 Oct 10
Meaning no disrespect for parents at all, I wouldn't care as much about their feelings as I do my own. When we become adults it is time for us to learn to make our own decisions. Sometimes we will disappoint our parents but they won't always be there to tell us what to do. When my children have grown I hope that I will not be nosey enough to try to run their lives.
@harry89 (2330)
• India
22 Oct 10
Yea you are right , it's our life and we should live it in our way. If We don't listen to our parents in this matter it does not mean that we do not respect them. We are mature enotgh to take our decisions and our parents should understand that.
Thanks for your response.
@emarie (5442)
• United States
21 Oct 10
It honestly doesn't matter what my parents think. Mine or his. If I love them, then I love them and no one but myself can change my mind. My parents didn't like the fact that I was getting married at the age of 18 to a guy who was 33. They thought it wouldn't last but they knew I would do it without their permission or not if I had to.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
Yes, of course! I love the person so much, why would i not fight for him? My parents are not the one who will be living with the guy and they will not be the one to love the guy. I won't let them pay for my wedding if they are worried of the expenses..lol!
@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
There is a saying that mothers knows best.Very true , but not all the time.
The bottomline is, how much love is there to be able to survive a life which was opposed by parents at the start.How determined is the couple to adjust to each other's shortcomings, so that someday the opposing parents will realized that a right decision was made after all.
Love ..answers a lot of questions.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
21 Oct 10
If I really love someone and the person love me a lot too but my family would not agree with the wedding then yes I still want the relationship to last forever. It is my life and not anyone else who is living their life with the person but me. A relationship can keep going forever even without marriage because if I leave him just because I can't marry him then I may never find someone who understand and love me more than he does and I may not be able to love and care for another man more than I do to him.
At the end of the day, I will get older and I will long for the person I can love and who can loves me, blessing from family is always important of course but we must also think, it is not my family who is marrying him or living with him but me! 
@harry89 (2330)
• India
22 Oct 10
Yea you are right that it is you who is gonna live with that person not you family. So according to me we should marry her/him. As our family will get agreed for sure one day. And thats very sure as our parents always want to see us happy.
Thanks for your response.
@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
yes harry^^ if you love the girl and she loves you even if your parents dont want you to marry her you should continue with her. they have to respect your love life. they are your parents but they shouldnt decide about your love life. that is you that have to decide. why would you be without your gf if she loves you? you shouldnt waste a true love for no reason^^ we should always fight for what we want ^^ and im sure your parents would see that^^
