Is your bf's mom jealous?

Philippines
October 21, 2010 12:28pm CST
Hubby and I have been together for 12 years (on and off)lol. His mom shows various indications of jealousy when my man buy something nice for me. I feel tho, that she in a way tries to compete with me as well. His mom in general didn't really get much jewelry from his dad until we were together and when he started to get a better job. Afterwards his mom tries to get from his dad a nice diamond jewelry every year. Any little thing I have and my boyfriend gets for our house, she gets jealous about in some way.
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@tomcat23 (623)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
21 Oct 10
Sounds like you are the one making it a "competition". "(On and off) LOL" says it all.
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@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
22 Oct 10
on and off simply means her and the man have been together but split up a few times.
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
thanks tammytwo for covering this up!
• United States
21 Oct 10
My in-laws are very weird about my husband's money and spending. I don't know if it's jealousy or what. They make fun of him for having a savings account and for being able to buy "luxury" items like video games, movies, going out to eat sometimes, having high-speed internet and extra network subscriptions on our cable. We very rarely have money issues and when we do it's usually due to unexpected expenses like getting the computer fixed, or the university raised class fees or things like that. And when we do get tight, they mock our savings account by calling it "money we just refuse to use" and when we have a good cash flow and splurge on fun things they mock, "see that's why you can't buy food!" The most annoying times were once when before we were engaged, he wanted to get me a ring, JUST a ring not an engagement ring and his mother wouldn't let him. She said "girls get funny ideas about rings!" I was like wtf does that mean? He ended up buying me a diamond necklace, but I have very fine hair and I can't really wear necklaces because it gets caught and pulls so I've never been able to wear it. I was very upset. The second instance was when he DID get my a diamond engagement ring, he kept saying he wanted me to show his parents. Well, when we initially got engaged a year before that, they didn't care so I knew they weren't going to react positively and I kept saying I didn't want to do it. Finally he managed to force me to show them one day and, as expected, there was no compliment or congratulations. His mother just flashed her FAKE ring that she had just gotten a year or two before (she never got an engagement ring of her own because they had a shotgun wedding and could never afford one) and said, "Well mine's bigger!" I really can't stand those people.
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• Philippines
2 Nov 10
geez, i really dislike those kind of people. i think that they are just really intimidated
• United States
21 Oct 10
That sounds really twisted. Usually parents raise their children to be better people than them. It doesn't really make sense to be jealous of your own child's spending habits. I would think that she would be proud. I hope your relationship with your mother-in-law gets to a better place...
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
hi, that's incredible! no offense, but maybe mom has some say in his son's choosing a partner. your situation i have seen in some couples whose mothers in law have objected the relationship of their sons and other children. they try to make the worst for the couple, especially the daughter in law. i hope it is not like that. ann
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
yeah, her mom chooses her goddaughter for hubby and that's been the problem since we were in college. geez, it's really pissing me off
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
With my ex fiancee, his mother gets jealous of me. She is jealous about her son's giving attention more to me than her. She gets jealous when my fiancee do not send her a message and tell her what he is busy at.
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
really annoying, right? LOL
@iamjesca (187)
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
That is really weird for a mom to acting that way. Is your guy an only son or not? Because if he is then maybe the mother is very overprotective towards her only son. My bf's mom has always been good to me. We love the same popcorn brand and she shares to me whenever she has some. We talked about her experiences with her children. I think you need to ask her why she feels that way. It is never really good if you have bad terms with your mother-in-law to be. Just open up to her.
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
No,he has a younger brother. I think that she's just acting this way as she is still mad about me because she thinks that I took his son since we have been together since we are at the age of 15. haha
• United States
22 Oct 10
My boyfriend and I live together for 5 years and I must be an exception as she absolutely adores me. She depicts what a great mother should be as she is always to lend an ear and help where ever she can. She has never said anything bad about me, quite the contrary she has defended on many occasions. So perhaps your boyfriends mom just has some sort of letting go issue where she feels her son is not quite there as before, if this is the case she truly needs to relax and let him grow.
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
wow, you're lucky, as you aren't experiencing having a monster in law.lol
@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
21 Oct 10
My husband's mother is jealous of the fact that him and I are together. She doesn't like me because my husband and I moved away from them when our children were young and we have never returned. This is for the best because my husband didn't have a good childhood and his parents were never good parents. But yes she gets jealous and has often asked him what he bought for her when he tells her of things he does or buys for me.
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
i really feel that his mom doesn't like me at all,
21 Oct 10
Jealousy is a part of the female qualities and the take birth with it. However, i don't think a mother should be jealous with hier son's family, means it's not fair at all. Well the reason can be behind this that, she may did not get enough love, affection, care and gifts from her husband. But don't worry with the time she will understand that this is not the correct age of jealousy. With lots of best wishes for your married life....
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
thanks!
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
im sorry for that im sorry that your hubby's mother always act that way. maybe like you say your hubby's father never gave her a lot of things before so maybe she is jealous of your relationship with your bf and wants one like yours^^ maybe she wants her hubby do for her what your bf do for you^^ maybe thats why she acts like this. maybe she wants to be more happy and not bcs she doesnt like you or something^^ im sure she just want to have a relation like yours bcs she sees how happy you and your bf are^^